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Are you the woman who has everything except your man? Dating coach Evan Marc Katz will help you find him. Evan is the author of four books, has a blog with over 35 million readers, and has coached 13,000 women through Love U, his signature course that helps smart, successful women find lasting love. With a rare blend of wit, wisdom, and warmth, Evan is an invaluable asset to any woman who is frustrated with dating and wants to fix her broken man-picker. Each week, Evan gives tangible, practi ...
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Why Women Need Men With Masculine Energy
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What is masculine energy, and why do women need from the men their relationships? In this episode of the Love U Podcast, Carol and I unpack the dynamics of masculine and feminine energies, sharing how they complement each other to create stronger, healthier partnerships. We explore the challenges of shifting gender roles, why men and women often st…
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In the early stages of dating, taking things slow can make all the difference. In this Love U Podcast, I reveal the best practices for dating during the first month, from pacing emotional intimacy to setting boundaries that protect your self-worth. Discover how to keep things balanced, avoid common pitfalls, and see if he has genuine relationship p…
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In a world that can feel negative about dating, it’s easy to believe there are no good men left. In this episode, I challenge that belief with real stories and research showing that genuine, committed men do exist. I share two stories of men who found love later in life, despite heartbreak, and emphasize that finding a great partner is about stayin…
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After an incredible week at a retreat in Mexico through Modern Elder Academy, I had a car accident on the ride home from the airport. I’m okay but moments like this are excellent for reflection, so I decided to do an emergency podcast. Tune in to hear what happened, what I learned from the retreat, how it applies to dating, and why we need other pe…
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Have you ever found yourself fixating on someone you barely know, building a fantasy that leads to disappointment? In this episode of the Love U Podcast, I share how to break free from this cycle. I discuss the reasons why obsessing over someone too soon can be emotionally harmful and offer six practical steps to regain your focus and self-worth. L…
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As a high-achieving woman, you have choices. You can choose to give a chance to a guy who is not your type, or stick with your type. You can choose to make his behavior a dealbreaker, or learn to accept him in full. In this episode, my friend Carol Allen and I consider your choices and draw the same conclusion: all married couples compromise your w…
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Have you ever been stuck in a situation where you’re giving more than you’re getting? In this episode of the Love U Podcast, we dive into the tough but necessary conversation about breaking up with someone who isn’t ready to commit. I’ll guide you on how to recognize when a relationship isn’t progressing and why it’s important to set boundaries to …
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It’s not just a hit Netflix series; it’s a direct calling for me to respond as a Jewish man married to a Catholic woman in a healthy interfaith relationship. In this episode, I talk about what’s bad, what’s good, and what Love U principles Kristen Bell’s character violates in her attempts to rid herself of a kind, consistent boyfriend. If you’ve wa…
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We started off discussing the topic of envy – how rich people often envy happy couples and happy couples envy those with greater wealth. We moved to why I envied Matthew Hussey and he also envied me. (Seriously!) Finally, we went to a dangerous place – why political differences are so divisive and why they don’t have to necessarily end your relatio…
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In this episode of the Love U Podcast, I discuss three common ways women can be afraid of commitment. While it’s often assumed that men are the ones afraid to commit, Evan reveals how many women, even those seeking a serious relationship, can experience fears around commitment, avoiding key conversations, and feeling uncertain about what they truly…
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I brought back my friend, Carol, to talk about one of the most popular dating videos on YouTube: How to Keep a Man Interested in You. Yes, we have a list of 10 reasons, but that’s not where we spend most of our time. Because the big question is not about how to keep a man from a place of insecurity, but rather, how to be the kind of partner that ma…
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Tired of superficial dating advice that doesn’t really work? In this episode, I’ll show you how to transform your love life by making five small changes to your dating habits. These tips will help you date smarter, broaden your options, and create more meaningful connections—without changing who you are or what you want. When you shift your online …
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I know, as a guy, there’s a limited amount I can weigh in on a topic that affects every woman: menopause. But since my listeners are generally in midlife, it felt like a smart idea to bring in one of my best friends, Carol Allen, for a conversation about how menopause affects your body and your relationships. I share stuff from my own marriage, as …
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When you’ve had nothing but rejection, failure and disappointment in your relationships, it’s easy to second-guess yourself. The problem is that, when a good man comes along and is doing 95% of what you want, you obsess about the 5%. While your questions may be reasonable, if you find that your anxiety is driving your actions, it helps to learn to …
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In this Love U Podcast episode, I dive into the concept of “dating up”—the idea that women should aim to date or marry someone with more wealth, power, or status. This episode was inspired by a thought-provoking conversation with a client who challenged me, claiming that women need to hear the cold, hard truth about their unrealistic dating expecta…
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In this Love U Podcast, I share a tale of friend who had a hard time committing because of a lack of passion (despite the good sex) – because I felt some of those same feelings once upon a time. This leads into the five stages that men go through before they’ll commit. If you’re a woman who wants to know what men are really thinking when they’re da…
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Every relationship that ever broke up started with some level of excitement. Those first few weeks and months of breathlessly getting to know each other, explore each other, and make giddy plans for the future. But, as you already know, the first months (and even years) bear little resemblance to marriage and have little predictive power. In other …
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Many smart, strong, successful women have trouble setting healthy boundaries with men. These powerful women give up their power to get along, to please, and find themselves emotionally dissatisfied within their relationships. In this Love U Podcast, I share a few anecdotes that correlate with 5 important boundaries you MUST set with men. None of th…
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Is it a good idea to go “no contact” after a painful breakup where you still have feelings for him? Absolutely. Is it a good idea to use “no contact” as a means to make your ex miss you so he’ll take you back? Hell, no! In this emergency Love U Podcast, I discover that there are some coaches who will tell you what you want to hear – regardless of w…
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There’s a temptation when you first start dating to tell a guy what you expect from him. After all, previous men have disappointed you, you’ve learned your lessons, and you want to set healthy boundaries and expectations. The issue is twofold: a) you can’t tell a man who is not your boyfriend how to act and b) you don’t always deliver the message i…
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There’s a lot of talk about red flags: separated guys, recently divorced guys, guys who never want to get married, guys who aren’t sure if they want kids, long distance guys, etc. These men are easy to spot and avoid. But how good are you at paying attention to GREEN flags – the traits and behavior you want to see in men? In this Love U Podcast, I …
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Managing Your Attachment Style – an Interview with Thais Gibson of the Personal Development School
I haven’t interviewed anyone on my podcast since 2017 but when I got the opportunity to speak with Thais Gibson, creator of the Personal Development School, I leapt at the chance. She’s fiercely intelligent and listening to her go deeper on attachment styles and limerence was a treat. Thais Gibson is a counselor, best selling author and co-founder …
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As an independent, successful, single woman, you’ve built a life about which you can be extremely proud. There’s only one problem. You have to take care of everything yourself. The mortgage. The health insurance. The plans. The repairs. The vacations. You take care of your parents, you take care of your kids, you take care of your clients. I just h…
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I once took a poll and discovered that 40% of my mailing list was not dating at all. These are women who had enough interest in the subject matter to reach out to me for dating advice, but, for their own reasons, chose not to use it. I feel for them. When all your past relationships have disappointed, it’s natural to feel afraid and paralyzed when …
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The first presidential debate of 2024 was revealing. We saw, quiet clearly, that the two candidates running for office were, in fact, incapable of being the leader of the free world. How does this apply to dating and relationships, you might ask? Well, the world is filled with Donald Trumps and Joe Bidens. One is selfish and untrustworthy. The othe…
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I agree: the masculine/feminine thing is a little overdone. And yet I still think there’s value in emphasizing that women tend to have certain traits that men lack and therefore, crave. In this Love U Podcast, I’ll run down six of the most important ones and share examples of how I get to experience them in my marriage. If you listen and think, “He…
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My client Diana taught me a valuable lesson last week. After dating man with excellent long-term relationship potential, she wasn’t quite feeling it. Since she didn’t want to let a good catch go, she started to talk herself into why she should keep seeing him. Then she asked this ONE question that clarified EVERYTHING for her. In this quick Love U …
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Tinder, Bumble, Hinge, Match… at a certain point, you’ve tried all the apps and you’re getting burned out. It’s so bad, you become convinced that the best way to find a partner is to stop dating online, lead your best life, and hope that you run into a quality, relationship-oriented single man. It may feel good to take a break from online dating; t…
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We all engage in wishful thinking, to some degree. Even when the evidence points to the answer being no, we find some sliver of hope that it can become a yes. Nowhere is this more evident than in dating. In this Love U Podcast, I share a story about my tortured “When Harry Met Sally” relationship that took up nearly two decades, and give you the co…
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Online dating apps have done two things: 1. Given men and women infinite options at their fingertips. 2. Tortured those same men and women since so few of those options pan out. In this Love U Podcast episode, I break down the five most prominent ways you can tell that your relationship isn’t going anywhere. Starting from the first date and going c…
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You know the feeling. You go on a great date or two. You catch feelings. You start to think about a future. You sleep with him. And then, a few weeks later, you discover that he is NOT the man you thought he was. It may be maddening but since it’s common, we need to talk about it. In this episode, I’ll share how dating is a show and why you don’t w…
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I’m returning to my roots from 20 years ago, when it was all about people and relationships and tangible breakthroughs that lead to lasting love. In this short video, I’ll share what that means for me and why it’s great for you. If you’re in pain and want coaching over the summer, I will be taking clients on a very limited basis. You can apply thro…
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Although dating coaches tend to emphasize compatibility over attraction, make no mistake: attraction is important. Good sex is important. And figuring out the blend between passion and comfort is the most important. In this episode, I walk you through the formula from Love U that has helped thousands of women find satisfying relationships – both ph…
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Even good relationships involve conflict and compromise. You know what it’s like to be with a guy who isn’t a fair fighter. He raises his voice. He shuts down. He hurls insults. He brings up other arguments. He doubles down and escalates the conflict even when he’s mistaken. You don’t want to be that guy. In this Love U Podcast, I share a communica…
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When you’ve been hurt and disappointed, it’s easy to assume that the next guy is going to do the same. The problem is that not all men are bad. And if you’re dating a nice, commitment-oriented guy and treat him like a composite of all the jerks you’ve dated in the past, you’re never going to get a nice guy. In this podcast, I tell a powerful story …
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You may find it annoying or triggering but it’s common for men to ask you why you’re still single. Instead of shutting down or overexplaining, it’s important to be able to answer this question with poise and confidence. If your reflexive answer to why you’re still single is “I just haven’t met the right guy,” you REALLY ought to listen to this. My …
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I know it should seem obvious but the fact that I recorded a podcast about it means that plenty of women still find married men alluring. In this episode, we’ll talk about why married men are often more romantic than single men AND 4 reasons why it absolutely doesn’t matter and you should run far, far away from any married guy who shows interest in…
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If you didn’t have a healthy nuclear family with loving married parents, its likely that you formed an attachment style that is either anxious or avoidant. But what happens when your anxiety turns into avoidance, and your avoidance turns into anxiety? This is something I see with women in Love U and a phenomenon that I felt was worth airing in toda…
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My readers often ask me to create specific programs for them. “Why can’t you create something for women in their 60’s who are facing a smaller dating pool with men who are retired, widowed, unhealthy and dealing with erectile dysfunction?” The answer is that despite the unique challenges facing women of different ages, 95% of dating and relationshi…
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You know the narrative. Men suck. There are no good ones left. They’re all narcissists or losers or emotionally unavailable. The cute ones don’t want to settle down. The ones who want to settle down aren’t attractive. When you finally find one you like, the compromises are too great. I’m not here to argue with you. What I will say, as a happily mar…
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My smart, successful clients have all loved and lost. Yet they recovered to rebuild their lives and fill it with meaningful work, travel, hobbies and friendship. Today’s question is whether this is enough. Is being happy alone a condition for finding love or is a trap that allows you to stay alone indefinitely? What’s the benefit of lasting love wh…
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While it’s easy to get mad at guys who overvalue youth and beauty, the truth is that you need more than looks to be with a quality man. In fact, quality men are all about how you make them FEEL. If your default behavior in relationships is to feel anxious and critical of your partner, it’s time to choose better men and make a big shift in how you s…
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When you’ve had bad luck with men, it’s easy to question your judgment. How important is chemistry? When can you tell if there’s compatibiity? How much time should you invest to discover if there’s enough of both? Most women waste years on the wrong men – and have no idea what to do differently. Today, I’m going to give you a three step process to …
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Don Miguel Ruiz wrote The Four Agreements. One of them is “Don’t Take Anything Personally.” Nowhere is that more relevant than in the world of dating. Texting, hooking up, ghosting, breadcrumbing, endless amounts of rejection. And yet none of it is personal. No one is out to get you. You’re just collateral damage in someone else’s journey. To succe…
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No one wants to become a dating expert. No one wants to go on 300 dates. No one wants to renew their Match membership. Yet, in order to find someone special, there is nothing more valuable than the power of perseverence. If you are one of the many people who have been dating online, on and off, for many years, I’m going to make a case for why you s…
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After 20 years of coaching, 1000 blog posts, 300 podcasts, I was bound to make some mistakes. We’re all human. We all have biases. We all have blind spots. On this episode, I’m going to share a few ways in which I’ve evolved over time and make a case for how it’s important to know the rules before you make exceptions to the rules. 🫶 Subscribe to Lo…
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Dating brings up all your insecurities. Am I attractive enough? Young enough? Smart enough? Am I worthy? When those thoughts are running through your head, it’s hard to be the best version of you. What IS the best version of you? Well, after listening to Selena Gomez on Smartless talk about her mental health issues that stem from being in the publi…
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If you’ve ever tried to rekindle a relationship with your ex, you’re aware of how powerful the allure can be. There’s a deep love, a deep understanding, a deep friendship that you don’t want to let go of. It seems much more comforting to go back to someone you love than to try your hand at meeting strangers online. Yet there’s a reason there’s a bo…
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If you were in a relationship without passion, you’ll look for passion your next partner. If you were with a financially unstable man, it makes sense to seek a man who is much wealthier. But sometimes, when you’re trying to correct a problem, you end up OVERCORRECTING. And when you swing too far in the other direction in reaction to your last relat…
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You may go months or years without a strong connection with a guy. When you find it, you want to preserve it at all costs. But what if you discover, sometime in the first month of dating, that there are major obstacles to a long-term relationship? Do you act on them? Or do you sweep them under the rug because it feels so good to be with him. If you…
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