Rather than thinking that “porn is bad,” maybe it’s more useful to think of it as “bad for your health.” Ben also explores the similarity between healthy activities and recovery activities. Appreciation: local wildlife! (especially chipmunks) Contact Ben or watch the web series http://www.brickhousewebseries.com Help people find it by giving a revi…

After a hiatus, Ben Fraser returns to podcasting and reintroduces himself and his perspective on quitting porn. It’s a worthwhile journey! Links: Matt Dobschuetz’s PornFree Radio podcast https://recoveredman.com/024-creativity-and-recovery-with-ben-fraser-creator-of-brick-house/ Unwanted - book by Jay Stringer https://jay-stringer.com/book/ Contact…

Ben is angry today. That’s a trigger, but so is anxiety. Is porn use the best way to deal with these feelings? Probably not. Somatic Experiencing: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Somatic_experiencing Appreciation: Brené Brownhttps://www.newsweek.com/brene-brown-netflix-special-vulnerability-quotes-ted-talk-call-courage-1400956Contact Ben or watch the…

Ben tells the story of a recent “disaster” at an open mic performance. Rather than being mad about it, he laughed instead. Appreciation: Amazon Alexa Echo Dot. https://amzn.to/2FMl8VtWatch the web series http://www.brickhousewebseries.comThe Brick House Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Brick-House/266939153469555Also, follow on twitter…

Welcome to Brick House Radio! Curated by San Francisco’s very own Michael Bricker, you can expect a full hour of the best in all things House. Featuring handpicked tunes from up and coming artists, heavy hitters, and beyond! Welcome to the 8th episode of The Brick House! This episode features tracks from artists such as AMPRS&ND, Birthdayy Partyy, …

God rest ye merry gentlemenLet nothing you dismayRemember Christ our SaviorWas born on Christmas DayTo save us all from Satan's pow'rWhen we were gone astrayOh tidings of comfort and joyComfort and joyOh tidings of comfort and joyMusic this week by Sharon Jones & the Dap Kings “God Rest Ye Merry Gents”https://youtu.be/UewEIBZ7VHMCheck out the new m…

This week Ben answers a question from a listener (and accountability partner) about ogling. It seems like it can easily be an edging behavior. How can we change that pattern?Appreciations: Dear Sugars podcast about dating an addicthttps://www.wbur.org/dearsugar/2017/12/02/a-spy-in-the-house-of-love-with-ariel-levyWithout Fail podcast interview with…

Porn offers the persistent fantasy that women exist in order to please men. But that doesn’t match up with reality very well. Or does it?Watch the web series http://www.brickhousewebseries.comThe Brick House Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Brick-House/266939153469555Also, follow on twitter @brickhousetvOr help people find it by giving…

Welcome to Brick House Radio! Curated by San Francisco’s very own Michael Bricker, you can expect a full hour of the best in all things House. Featuring handpicked tunes from up and coming artists, heavy hitters, and beyond! Welcome to the 7th episode of The Brick House! Long overdue, I thought to make this one extra long sitting at just over 2 hou…

It may be that some of the triggers that cause you to act out have to do with major aspects of your life - like relationships and work - and the only solution is to make major changes in the underlying structure of your life. Watch the web series http://www.brickhousewebseries.comThe Brick House Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Brick-H…

Every decision you make in your daily life is a vote for the kind of person you want to be - whether it’s an athlete, a musician, or a person with a healthy sexuality.Inspired by James Clear’s book Atomic Habits.https://jamesclear.com/ Matt Dobschuetz Porn Free Radio Podcast: https://recoveredman.com/category/pfr/Meditation app: Headspace:https://w…

Ben muses on what it takes to change your habits permanently. What is sustainable and what’s not? Darya Rose Foodist Podcast - ideas about sustainability - https://soundcloud.com/darya-pino-rose/dr-yoni-freedhoff-why-you-must-like-your-life-if-you-want-to-keep-weight-offDarya Rose interview with James Clear - systems are more important than goals. …

Welcome to Brick House Radio! Curated by San Francisco’s very own Michael Bricker, you can expect a full hour of the best in all things House. Featuring handpicked tunes from up and coming artists, heavy hitters, and beyond! Welcome to the 6th episode of The Brick House! This edition is heavily packed with techno, techno, and more techno. Just over…

Major events can show us that life is short, and precious. Do we want to spend it pursuing compulsive behavior, or in finding love and compassion with those we are close to?Appreciation: Libby https://meet.libbyapp.com/. Borrow thousands of ebooks and audiobooks free from your library for free.Watch the web series http://www.brickhousewebseries.com…

Welcome to Brick House Radio! Curated by San Francisco’s very own Michael Bricker, you can expect a full hour of the best in all things House. Featuring handpicked tunes from up and coming artists, heavy hitters, and beyond! Welcome to the fifth episode of The Brick House! To commemorate being on Apple’s Podcast app I put together a 128-minute mega…

Ben had a relapse, which is a drag. But what did he learn from it? And what can you learn from his mistakes?Appreciation: Vacations! Take more of them.Watch the web series http://www.brickhousewebseries.comThe Brick House Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Brick-House/266939153469555Also, follow on twitter @brickhousetvOr help people fin…

This week, Ben talks about a simple strategy to deal with times when your sobriety is more vulnerable. Hint: it may have something to do with connection. Appreciation: Johann Hari’s book: Lost Connections: Uncovering the Real Causes of Depression – and the Unexpected Solutions. http://a.co/0zogguWWatch the web series http://www.brickhousewebseries.…

If you are an addict, it’s easy to get discouraged that things will never change. Ben Fraser says that change is not only possible, it’s unavoidable. There is hope!This episode was inspired by an Invisibilia podcast. https://www.npr.org/programs/invisibilia/482836315/the-personality-mythWatch the web series http://www.brickhousewebseries.comThe Bri…

Welcome to Brick House Radio! Curated by San Francisco’s very own Michael Bricker, you can expect a full hour of the best in all things House. Featuring handpicked tunes from up and coming artists, heavy hitters, and beyond! Welcome to the fourth episode of Brick House Radio! This week starts off with a massive remix coming from Ciszak and the VITT…

Welcome to Brick House Radio! Curated by San Francisco’s very own Michael Bricker, you can expect a full hour of the best in all things House. Featuring handpicked tunes from up and coming artists, heavy hitters, and beyond! Welcome to the third episode of Brick House Radio! This week features not one, but two tracks from Eli Brown, Chris Lake’s ne…

Welcome to Brick House Radio! Curated by San Francisco’s very own Michael Bricker, you can expect a full hour of the best in all things House. Featuring handpicked tunes from up and coming artists, heavy hitters, and beyond! Welcome to the second episode of Brick House Radio! This week features 2 ID's from Roy Havens, a banger from Miss Mak off of …

Welcome to Brick House Radio! Curated by San Francisco’s very own Michael Bricker, you can expect a full hour of the best in all things House. Featuring handpicked tunes from up and coming artists, heavy hitters, and beyond! Welcome to the first edition of Brick House Radio! Kicking things off with a LIVE recording of my set from Insomniac Events' …

You might think that porn ruined your life. But is it possible that it also saved your life? Ben Fraser explores the impact of compulsive porn use on his early life.Foodist Podcast with Darya Rosehttps://soundcloud.com/darya-pino-rose/how-to-stop-yourself-from-nighttime-bingeingAppreciation: Science Vs. Gunshttps://www.gimletmedia.com/science-vs/gu…

As Harvey Weinstein goes to court to face charges of rape, Ben Fraser reflects on what meaning the #MeToo movement has for those of us struggling with porn addiction.Tea and Consent: https://youtu.be/oQbei5JGiT8Slate Interview with Weinstein accusers. https://slate.com/arts/2017/11/harvey-weinsteins-accusers-in-conversation.htmlFresh Air interview …

Ben Fraser reflects on how resisting something might actually make us more likely to engage in the behavior, and how to deal with that. Also, are current events triggering you?Appreciation: The Instant Pot! http://a.co/d9DQaNRWatch the web series http://www.brickhousewebseries.comThe Brick House Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Brick-H…

In this practical episode, Ben Fraser talks about three tools that have been very useful in his recovery - a filter, meditation, and the FAST check in. A filter that Ben uses: https://x3watch.com/A meditation app that Ben likes:https://www.headspace.com/headspace-meditation-appF.A.S.T. check-ins.http://recoveredman.com/106-back-2-basics-f-a-s-t-t-c…

Ben Fraser discusses how porn is like junk food. Consuming it gives you nothing of value, and is a poor substitute for what you really want.Inspired by Darya Rose’s class on Creative Live called “Lose Weight without Dieting.” https://cr8.lv/2HhJaepAlso check out her Foodist podcast. http://www.summertomato.com/podcastAnd her website, Summer Tomato:…

It’s easy for a consumer of porn to forget that there is a human being behind the photos and images. And that smile is probably fake. Ben Fraser tells the story of one woman who got involved in the porn industry in the late 70s, and how her life was destroyed by it.This podcast was inspired by an episode of the wonderful podcast: “You Must Remember…

Ben Fraser reviews “Unbroken Brain” by Maia Szalavitz, and discusses why adolescents are more vulnerable to addiction and why kindness and hope is most helpful to treating addiction. The book:https://www.amazon.com/Unbroken-Brain-Revolutionary-Understanding-Addiction/dp/1250055822/ref=asap_bc?ie=UTF8Fresh Air interview with the authorhttp://www.npr…

Musician, filmmaker and creative person Ben Fraser shares some of his ideas about an artist’s take on porn addiction, including changing the narrative, listening to your feelings, and when to ignore your feelings.Matt Dobschuetz’s Excellent podcast:http://pornfreeradio.com/Watch the web series http://www.brickhousewebseries.comThe Brick House Faceb…

Ben Fraser talks about the specific challenges of internet dating as it relates to recovering porn addicts, including fantasy and projection, taking sex out of the picture, and being a good potential partner.Matt Dobschuetz’s Porn Free Playbook: http://recoveredman.com/your-porn-free-playbook/Watch the web series http://www.brickhousewebseries.comT…

Ben Fraser talks about the challenges of refraining from porn and masturbation in the 7 days immediately after a breakup. He faces the triggers of feeling bad about himself, isolation, and lack of sleep, and offers suggestions on how to cope. Also, is it too early for online dating?Watch the web series http://www.brickhousewebseries.comThe Brick Ho…

Ben Fraser interviews activist folksinger and organizer Ben Grosscup. Ben G. also sings an original song about internet porn addiction, “Every Day”. Discussion ensues!Check out Ben Grosscup’s songs on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLCZd4eJIEobjW4r3Nj0FVSuBFyZKYNDaFThe Brick House Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Brick-…

After a 3 month break, the podcast is back! Season 2 of the web series is available now!http://brickhousewebseries.com/ Ben reflects on how it feels to produce a web series about porn addiction, and reads some feedback from viewers. Read the feedback: http://brickhousewebseries.com/feedback/Appreciation: Garry Shandling. Two clips made me laugh lik…

As we think about the New Year, Ben chooses a few key points from the past year that have helped him to quit porn and stay sober. PornFree Radio episode about making a plan for 2015http://pornfreeradio.com/057-go-porn-free-in-2016/Going after a good life - the rat park episode:https://soundcloud.com/ben-fraser-19/026-the-rat-parkAppreciation: Drawi…

Are you taking good care of yourself? That is a key step in the challenge to quit porn. Matt Dobschuetz - PornFree Radio episode about making a plan for 2015http://pornfreeradio.com/057-go-porn-free-in-2016/Appreciation: Sue Grafton’s books about Kinsey Milhone http://www.suegrafton.com/bookshelf.phpThe Brick House Facebook page: https://www.facebo…

Ben Fraser reflects on the challenge of dealing with the darkness in our lives, literally and figuratively.This 2013 article has some interesting facts about the Winter Solstice: http://mashable.com/2013/12/20/winter-solstice-2013/#ML1cWk1.6sqA Leonard Cohen song “Anthem” https://youtu.be/_e39UmEnqY8Appreciation: Holidays!The Brick House Facebook p…

How is learning to juggle like learning how to quit porn? Ben Fraser counts the ways.The show about yoga: https://soundcloud.com/ben-fraser-19/039-breathe-into-it-things-i-learned-from-yogaLearn to juggle: https://youtu.be/kCt1bmSASCIAppreciation: Every Frame a Painting https://www.youtube.com/user/everyframeapaintingThe Brick House Facebook page: …

Ben Fraser talks about some of the wrong reasons to quit porn, and eventually gets to the right reason. Appreciation: Dogs Decoded PBS documentary. Watch on Vimeo for free.https://vimeo.com/19472436The Brick House Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Brick-House/266939153469555Check out the musical comedy Brick House Web Series at http://w…

As a porn addicts, it’s easy to feel bad about ourselves, or notice how difficult things are. On this Thanksgiving, Ben Fraser takes a moment to think about what we he is thankful for.Some of the things I am grateful for:“This must be the place” - Shawn Colvinhttps://youtu.be/Aac0X3VpOuUAllen Toussaint - “The Bright Mississippi”https://youtu.be/-np…

Today Ben thinks about what he would say to his younger self about porn, specifically when he was 12 years old. He’s learned a lot in the last 40 years.Appreciation: Alexander Rhodes, the founder of NoFap. Thanks Alex! http://www.nofap.com/forum/index.phpThe Brick House Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Brick-House/266939153469555Check …

Back in Ben’s single days, there were a few woman who he wouldn’t consider dating because of the way they looked. But now he wonders if maybe his porn consumption got in the way of meeting possible partners who might’ve been a good match.Want to be a guest on the show? I’d like to hear your voice! Email Ben http://brickhousewebseries.com/contactApp…

You may know the old country song by Johnny Lee. Looking at porn is kind of like looking for love in all the wrong places, since porn cannot give you love. But we try anyway!Want to be a guest on the show? I’d like to hear your voice! Email Ben http://brickhousewebseries.com/contactMarc Maron's interview with James Taylor http://www.wtfpod.com/podc…

If you grew up with a certain magazine, then you know that phrase. Ben Fraser talks about how being a man makes us vulnerable to the “sex sells” techniques of capitalism, and encourages everyone to not be a cog in the machine.Want to be a guest on the show? I’d like to hear your voice! Email Ben http://brickhousewebseries.com/contactAppreciation: R…

Most of us use porn to avoid feeling terrible. But the only way to really quit using is to just feel terrible for a while.Want to be a guest on the show? I’d like to hear your voice! Email Ben http://brickhousewebseries.com/contactAppreciation: Man On Wire documentary http://www.rottentomatoes.com/m/man_on_wire/The Brick House Facebook page: https:…

When you’re craving porn, you think it will satisfy your needs. But it never does. What do you really need?Want to be a guest on the show? I’d like to hear your voice! Email Ben http://brickhousewebseries.com/contactAppreciation: Bernie Sanders. https://www.facebook.com/berniesandersThe Brick House Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Bric…

What it feels like to be on Day Four after a relapse. I hope you learn from my mistakes.Want to be a guest on the show? I’d like to hear your voice! Email Ben http://brickhousewebseries.com/contactAppreciation: Naomi Klein. Here’s an interview she did with Bill Maher. https://youtu.be/8vi26l8T1c0The Brick House Facebook page: https://www.facebook.c…

The podcast is on a break this week, so Ben Fraser is sharing a demo of a new song from the web series - “Choose Life.” Vocals by Gershon Eigner. The final song will be re-mixed and mastered with new rhythm tracks. This song is an attempt to give advice to someone trying to quit porn, with a few helpful tips to keep in mind.The Brick House Facebook…

Ben Fraser speaks on a wide variety of topics, including why he is doing the podcast, how a headache is affecting him, some of his most popular triggers, and the 10% solution to solving all the world’s problems.Appreciation: Music videos by OK Go.Rube Goldberg Machine: https://youtu.be/qybUFnY7Y8wThe one in the park: https://youtu.be/V2fpgpanZAwThe…

Ben Fraser refutes Dr. David J. Ley’s claim that "the label of 'porn addict' causes depression, but porn watching doesn’t." While shame is indeed an issue, the label isn’t the problem, but in fact can be a solution.We’re fundraising to make new episodes of the web series! $5 can help a lot!http://www.igg.me/at/brickhousetv Thanks for checking it ou…