Black men in particular are one of the most objectified groups in porn. Black men are a porn genre, which begs the question of why race is a genre….BBC is more than just a porn SEO tag, it is a colloquialism, signaling on dating apps and even a proclaimed sexual lifestyle. Though we may think we are idolizing the black male body, where does this no…

An Educator for Sex Educators? A more and more common question these days as more sexuality professionals emerge is: “How can I do that too?” The road to becoming a sexuality professional is murky. Even murkier is how to make that career or side-hustle a viable one. Enter Cameron Glover, whose goal is to make your sex ed business as successful as i…

This week we continue our venture into the world of literotica with someone who can not only call themselves an erotica writer but a sex toy inventor as well. Tabitha Rayne is a decorated writer who draws more on fiction than reality. Penning her dirty words as a way to finesse typing and molding her own rideable toy as a means to get off while her…

For all of the visual stimuli we are bombarded with and lack of sexual communication it’s no wonder we are ill equipped to whisper sweet nothings into our persons ear. Enter: Peekaboo Collins. Whether it’s poetry or short stories, Peekaboo weaves a web of syllables and phrases of the lead up, and the in-betweens of every scintillating moment. We le…

What is a norm and how do you know if you’re willingly or unwillingly abiding by it? By now we know our formative years at least have some influence in our worldview. Does that mean norms are good? Bad? or do they not even matter at all? Porn performer and activist Lync Johnson (@lyncjohnson3x) takes us through his formative years and how his lack …

By now we all know what consent means…..or do we? How much do you really know and what can an intimacy coordinator teach you about your current understanding? Alot, it turns out. If you thought consent = permission, this week is for you. Intimacy coordinator Mia Schachter (@miaschachter) graces our presence to boost our understanding of consent and…

What role does film and media play in our love and in our lives? Does culture reflect film or vice versa? This week we are joined by the charismatic Nia Ashley who takes us on her film journey and the media that impacted her life. We reflect on what happened to the era of UPN series and why TV has taken one step forward and three steps back. Nia he…

This week we're joined by southern sexuality superhuman Marla Stewart, whose impressive body of work speaks for itself. Co-founder of the Sex Down South conference, Marla is already making history and a forging new educated era in sex and sexuality. Plus... she loves an uncomfortable conversation as much as we do. From strip club culture to pop cul…

Based on the number of pro dommes we've had on this podcast the past few weeks, we need a little reminder that good, old fashioned, fuck yes, traditional sex is still fucking fantastic and fun for all! We are joined this week by Sex Educator and Youtuber Hannah Witton who's advocating for the conventional. Marriage, kids, monogamy. What does it mea…

Oh I’m sorry... did you think we were an good-vibes-all-the-time podcast? Stephens inner goth gets to let loose as we welcome this week's fascinating guest Audrey Fatale. We learn all about the death industry and how Audrey navigated her way through it. Find out what secondary trauma response is, what one learns working at a morgue and in traumatic…

Is Our Love Particular? Does our love even know what it wants? Whether you’re ideal pairing is in pay-for-play, a long term partner, or your career we could all take a few notes from Mistress Eva Oh (@youwillplease_me) in patience and consistency. Enter this week’s episode bursting with logic. Mistress Eva Oh has a particular list of her small life…

Why are femme Dominatrizes more prevalent and heralded than masc Doms? Is there a stigma against masc Doms, particularly cis-male Doms? We discuss why that is and what you can do about it on our latest episode with Master Peter. From swing dancing to switch hitting, Master Peter got into the business sideways and now he is firing from all cylinders…

What is a dungeon and are they all created similarly? We speak with all around sex worker Adreena Angela on how she doesn’t follow all the rules from curating her studio space, how she interacts with clients, and the controversial stance on if Dommes take their tits out. Dungeons and sex work isn’t as scary as you would think and Adreena pulls back…

Have you ever had a stereotype projected onto you? Have you ever felt guilty about embodying or identifying with a stereotype of your ethnicity or otherwise? These conversations may not be easy but they’re absolutely necessary. This week we welcome Rebecca Carvalho to discuss her relationship with her ethnicity as it relates to her sexuality and ho…

Do you remember getting the talk? Who gave it to you? How would you give “the talk?” Easier said than done. This week’s guest Jet Setting Jasmine is not only walking the walk but talking THE 'talk'. Jasmine is a mother of three and can add therapist, pornographer and domme to her extensive resume. Jasmine schools us on the sex positive parenting pl…

Does it seem like everyone is talking about open relationships and polyamory lately? Is non-monogamy actually better? Who is it for? Does non-monogamy mean you have more sex? And why does it have so many syllables? Ruby Rare joins us this week to spell out the shades of non-monogamy from A-Z. Whether you’re already considering non-monogamy or you w…

Did you know you have a pelvic floor? Yes, all of you. Do you know what is does? Spoiler Alert: EVERYTHING. Rachel Gelman a San Francisco based Pelvic Floor Therapist joins us this week to tell us everything from the 411 on kegals to why a good bowel movement can make your week. Whether you had no idea that the hammock in your pelvis was responsibl…

Rebelling against your Pagan family by joining a church... this isn’t your average darling come porn performer coming of age tale. From the industry trying to pigeon hole a multi-racial gal as “latina,” to diversifying her porn profile Liv Revamped drops some wisdom for any aspiring porn performers about how she’s stayed fresh with over a decade of…

Everyone and their step-sibling seems to be making their own bootleg smut these days. Is there room for a new era of porn graduated form the yesteryears of gonzo? Is there a difference between porn and erotica? And above all - how does one transition from growing up in a sex cult to creating responsible porn? Frustrated by a lack of quality heteros…

"I have caffeine, nicotine… and the conversation’s all over the place just like I like it.” - Stoya This week is the conclusion of our 2 part conversation with Stoya. We dive right in. If you haven’t listened to pt.1 … well, you’re doing it wrong. We talk balancing love, a career in adult film, and how the modern world forced her to become an exper…

Stoya. A person who needs no introduction but we’re going to attempt it anyway. An internationally celebrated author, activist, actress & advocate for sex worker’s rights. An introverted cat lover, a next level book nerd, and a fearless caller of bullshit. An endless seeker of the authentic & creator of sexually explicit media in all forms. Stoya’s…

In a world that isn’t wildly accepting of sexuality, kink, or anything that falls out of heteronormativity can be a scary thing to reveal to folx. Will they accept you? Shame you? Fire you? And if it goes long enough does keeping the secret become the bigger deal? Fetish Fellow is as public a private person can be. As an adored and go-to photo shoo…

This week we ironically tackle threesomes as a twosome. Threesomes are often one of the first boxes on people’s sexual bucket lists, but are they all they’re cracked up to be? Stephen and Lola weigh the pro’s and con’s on adding a third, and trade some of their best (and worst) threesome tales. What makes a good threesome? What does a 'unicorn' mea…

This week we take a break from our social distancing to talk about something other than coronavirus. To bring up spirits we decided it would be a great time to discuss personal finances! Totally kidding... we just recorded this episode pre-virus outbreak. In all seriousness, finances are a tricky topic regardless of global pandemic, and what a bett…

Di Lola Jean & Stephen Penta

Di Lola Jean & Stephen Penta

Di Lola Jean & Stephen Penta

Di Lola Jean & Stephen Penta

Di Lola Jean & Stephen Penta

Di Lola Jean & Stephen Penta

On our last episode of 2019, we take a look back on our favorite episodes of the year and also discuss our take on “Resolutions.” What’s the deal with benchmarks and why do we put so much weight into the changing of the years? Find out what Stephen and Lola are looking forward to in 2020 and what they’re leaving behind in 2019. Most of all, thank y…

This week’s Is Our Love ___? hits us right in the babymaker. Cartoonist and budding comedian Morganna Nickoff (@morganna.jokes) joins us to question our fertility and our own opinions on why is it that we do or do not want offspring. What does it say about you if you do want kids and when should you start worrying about that biological clock a’tick…

Sometimes love feels like a struggle, but sometimes… maybe we want it too? Wrestling fetish is the biggest craze you’ve never heard about and it’s a lot more common than you think. Before we throw down, we sit with professional fetish wrestler Ursa Fierce to talk about the primal-ness, competitive, and smothering nature of this sport. From pro-styl…

This week’s guest knows a thing or two about talking sex stuff in public. Remy Kassimir is the comedian cum role model who still worries if people think she’s cool. Remy joins us to talk about the funny thing that happens when you share your sex life on a global scale. From her first orgasm to managing social responsibility while cracking jokes to …

This week we are joined by Pro Domme and sometimes sociologist Lady Euphoria to pick apart why it is that we are so drawn to rules and why the lack of rules makes us so uncomfortable. We are a culture taught to thrive on efficiency and not thoroughness. This conversation uses BDSM as a framework, but make no mistake: this is a human conversation th…

Sometimes our love feels like a game, but just how much are we toying with it? What are the roles of toys in our sex life and how should we be using them? Are we using toys too much? Too little? ARE WE EVEN USING THEM CORRECTLY!? Nadia Deen of AM.appointment teaches us how to chill the fuck out and stop pressuring ourselves (and our partners) to ac…

What witch, wizard or sorcerer would you want to fuck? It’s Halloween and we’re still not sure if we want to channel our sexual energy for good or for evil. This week we’re not question what our love is or isn’t. Instead, we’re taking you on a journey through space and time to our Pass the Porn event. Nope, no recordings of the porn sounds here, yo…

This week we're hitting where it hurts…...in the vagina? Sometimes our love involves vaginas, but what happens when that love is...painful? Whose responsibility is it? Do we push through it? Avoid it at all costs? Denial? This week we talk about the often experienced but lesser validated ambiguity that is vaginal pain. Emily from OhNut joins us to …

What a week to have our first guest on to talk STI’s and we’re kicking things off with the black sheep of the STI fam: Herpes. We get honest with our personal HSV stories: both contracting, spreading, and having in all it’s various formats. This weeks guest explains why people are so socially wired to freak out about Herpes and how discerning betwe…

Our BDSM trilogy continues on Is Our Love?! After a few weeks of Dommes, we head to the other side of the spectrum and dive deep into sub space with this week’s guest: Indygo Ann. Indygo is a PRO SUB. Yeah, we’re capitalizing it, ‘cause they’re the unsung heroes of dungeons far and wide. But just because she’s a sub, does she actually enjoy her ses…

If our love is full of shit, how much confidence does it take to throatfuck that shit in someone’s mouth? Wait….what? You never asked… we answered, and the answer is this weeks’ guest: Mistress Shayla. A charismatic Texas sadist with a heart of gold. Shayla is seasoned in many areas of FemDom but where her heart shines brightest is when someone is …

If being kinky is a spectrum from a simple roleplay all the way to chastity and eternal servitude, where does a new Pro Domme (Dominatrix) fall into it? Kicking off a string of BDSM focused guests is someone on the newer side of Pro Domming, but who is no stranger to smut. Mistress Nikita Reign is a true performance artist. From peep shows to titty…

With all of the positive strides modern media is making with showcasing different types of bodies and faces, it can feel like body positivity is a simple compliment away, right? It’s not always as easy as telling yourself “I Love You” specifically if that negativity is rooted in insecurity and esteeming through others. *cough* Stephen *cough* This …

In our continued pursuit of all conversations sex & kink, this weeks' guest Cyndi Darnell, a leading sex therapist and educator, brings us back to our human core: INTIMACY. We have an in depth convo about fostering intimacy within our various types of relationships. Cyndi also illuminates how her clientele has changed over time, and addresses some …

This week on Is Our Love we talk to a *fucking* Wizard. Find out how one becomes a fucking wizard and what a real life wizard even does. Devin Person dispels the mystique behind erotic hypnosis and what happens when a hypnosis goes dark. So much of pleasure based sex ed focuses on physical touch, but how can one manipulate the mind as a part of the…

No conversation about sex is complete without talking about the one night stand. So commonplace its earned its own abbreviation: ONS. One-night standspert MOMO (@momosinmieda) joins Stephen and Lola as we break down what constitutes a one night stand. Are one night stands inherently bad & what can be done to improve them? With vivid stories from on…

This week we boldly go where two white podcasters dare not tread... for good reason. Inspired by a listener question regarding the fetishization of her race within her dating pursuits, Stephen and Lola try their best not to “white savior” by bringing in roommates and friends Yuko and Rachel. Both Yuko and Rachel grew up in wildly different parts of…

It's summer and we've been on vacation! Lola and Stephen reconvene after a little break and recount what happened with their summer flings and things. While Lola fucked (and educated) her way through Europe, the Reluctant Sexpert spent his days sex nerding at Sex Camp. There's some romance, revelations... at least a few good stories. Whether you re…

If codependency is a spectrum, where is a healthy place to sit? How can you tell if your relationship is in equilibrium or codependent AF? Are you in-love or enmeshed? This week we sit down with Rachel Khints, who specializes in treating codependency with a focus on group therapy. We learn the correlation between codependency treatment and Al-anon …

No greater sex goal has plagued man more than the non-ejaculatory orgasm. Ok... well maybe not, but unless you’ve been living under a 'fuck' rock, chances are you’ve heard of The Multi-Orgasmic Man. Sometimes thought only to only be achieved by tantric yogi’s meditating in mountains (and livestreaming to youtube), Dominus Eros is here to clear the …