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Sometimes Love Isn’t Enough: The Parenting Through Challenges Podcast - A practical yet heartfelt podcast for parents who are overwhelmed by unique challenges in parenting. Join Angie Grandt – The Adoption Coach – as she leads you on a journey to rebuild a relationship with your child – you know – the one who you promised to love unconditionally, but who keeps pushing you away and displaying such unsettling behaviors, and now you find you are so easily triggered by all their behaviors and ca ...
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When our children are experiencing behaviors, we want to understand why. A diagnosis can help us better understand, right? In this episode, we'll discuss the seemingly relentless pursuit of diagnoses, and the likely root of the behaviors as a whole. About your host, Angie Grandt - The Adoption Coach Angie Grandt is the Adoption Coach. She is also a…
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What is trauma? Is it an event, or a series of events? Does it include neglect, or abuse? How can 2 children experience the same event, and have very different responses, both short- and long-term about that same event? In this episode, we'll discuss research, and my perspective on trauma. I'd love to hear your thoughts! About your host, Angie Gran…
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What does it really mean to take full responsibility, especially when raising children with significant behaviors? Are we responsible for their actions, their choices? Listen to this episode to learn how to take full responsibility for everything in your life, no matter what! I can't wait to hear your thoughts! About your host, Angie Grandt - The A…
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So many times, I'd feel frustrated, annoyed, even angry - but I'd put on a happy face for my son and pretend that all was well. He saw right through me every time. Somehow he knew how I was feeling, even when I thought I was doing such a good job of faking it. In this episode, we'll discuss the intuitive power of kids, and why it fades over time. A…
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Many parents go through the "I hate you" phase. When raising a child with attachment difficulties, this can be tenfold. I often hear from adoptive & foster parents words like "I hate you," "you're not my mother," "just take me back to foster care/adoption agency," or "I want a new family." Although we may develop thick skin, it's not easy. In this …
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When we're raising children from a tricky past, we often have much work to do to help raise happy, confident children. The more resilient we are, the more resilient we can help our kids to be - to move forward and create the futures we want. In this powerful episode, we'll be discussing some key factors to resiliency - I can't wait to hear how you …
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Praise is a good thing, right? Perhaps not quite what we once thought - certainly not what I was trained to think! In this episode, we'll talk about how we inadvertently discourage children. Then we'll dissect praise, it's purpose, and why it might not always be the best option. Plus I'll share a few tips on how to break the praise habit! About you…
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For those of us raising kids from trauma - the behaviors we experience can be bizarre, unsettling, downright frustrating. In this episode, we'll discuss one of the most frustrating, and talk about the real solution (I'll also discuss how this applies to all the unusual behaviors we experience when raising kids from a tricky past!) About your host, …
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Do you feel like you are in a constant battle with your toddler, or your teen? You are not alone. Power struggles are developmentally EXPECTED - yes - it's a normal part of your child's development, at 2 different developmental stages. In this powerful episode we'll go over the stages, the reason, and some key strategies to help minimize the strugg…
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Raising a child is terrifying! We are expected to feed, love, clothe, bathe, and nurture our child's well-being to support their development. While there are tons of "experts" out there to help us better understand what to feed them, how to toilet train, developmental milestones, and so on - there is no "expert" to tell you exactly what YOUR child …
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Let's get real, I hear this more often than you'd think. As parents we love our kids, but behaviors are relentless, our kids repeatedly tell us how much they hate us, and we are exhausted from trying strategy after strategy, it makes sense to feel resent towards our kids. In this episode, we'll discuss things that really come up for us as parents, …
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Do you parent with fear, or with love? I think if we're being really honest about how we handle challenging behaviors in our home, we may have a realization that a shift in how we respond to behaviors could have a huge impact on our connection with our child. About your host, Angie Grandt - The Adoption Coach Angie Grandt is the Adoption Coach. She…
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Praise has it's place in life…. But have you every really thought about it's impact on the giver and the receiver? In this short but powerful episode, let's dig into praise, people pleasers, and ways we can shift how we respond to our children! About your host, Angie Grandt - The Adoption Coach Angie Grandt is the Adoption Coach. She is also a Quan…
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Have you ever thought about what LOVABILITY really means? This one is short and sweet- so listen on repeat to really let this one sink in! About your host, Angie Grandt - The Adoption Coach Angie Grandt is the Adoption Coach. She is also a Quantum Human DesignTM Specialist, Certified Level 2 & an early intervention speech therapist with extensive t…
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Attachment difficulties are at the core of what we're discussing here. This week, we'll discuss what leads to attachment difficulties, what behaviors you might notice, and some key strategies to start building connection! About your host, Angie Grandt - The Adoption Coach Angie Grandt is the Adoption Coach. She is also a Quantum Human DesignTM Spec…
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When we're experiencing a challenge, a crisis, or a trauma - it's natural to feel like a victim. In fact, we're designed with defense mechanisms in our brain to create a fear response and help us avoid similar awful situations in the future. I know as a parent dealing with unsettling, overwhelming, scary behaviors in my home - I certainly felt like…
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How often do you make decisions, and worry how others will respond? Or how often do you make decisions that are true to what you want (and not what you've been conditioned to think is best)? In this episode, we are diving in to 1) conditioning, 2) your authentic self, and 3) how to help our kids do the same! About your host, Angie Grandt - The Adop…
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When you look back on your childhood - were you a "good" child or a "bad" child? How do you know? Was this a fact, or a story? In this episode, we'll discuss the truth about "good" and "bad" kids, and what we can do to help our kids be who they are truly meant to be. About your host, Angie Grandt - The Adoption Coach Angie Grandt is the Adoption Co…
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We all know the obvious needs our children have - hunger, comfort, sleep, health - which when left unmet create all kids of behaviors. But what about the "less obvious" needs? Listen to this episode for 3 key unmet needs to look for when our kids are misbehaving, and some tips to help you meet those needs! About your host, Angie Grandt - The Adopti…
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Often when we're learning new tools - we feel so pumped up to change the way we approach our child's behaviors… but then in the moment, we go right back to our habitual way of reacting. In this episode, we'll discuss how to actually shift your responding in the moment! About your host, Angie Grandt - The Adoption Coach Angie Grandt is the Adoption …
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When our kids are struggling - we are often struggling. We look outside our home and see other parents having fun, enjoying their kids. We see other parents raising kids who aren't defiant, disrespectful, destructive, or disconnected. When we're struggling like this, we often only see 2 possible causes - 1) either our kids are "bad kids," or 2) we …
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When a child experiences early trauma, various changes can happen to the brain. As parents, we see the effects - in behaviors, learning difficulties, developmental delays. Let's discuss key changes to the brain common in children who've experienced trauma. About your host, Angie Grandt - The Adoption Coach Angie Grandt is the Adoption Coach. She is…
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Have you ever wondered why you connect with some people better than others? This can be especially true with our kids - and can cause us parents so much distress, as we interpret this as "liking" one of our kids better than the others. Or have you ever wondered why things can be going so well with one person (or child) and then a 3rd or 4th person …
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When I meet parents who are stressed, overwhelmed, or even at the end of their rope, I often hear a common theme: "I'll be happy when my child stops (you can fill in the blank here)," or "I'll stop feeling frustrated when my child does (fill in the blank)." This is a common human reaction. We all do it to some degree - it's our default way of think…
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When facing a new challenge, where do you turn first for answers? In the past couple of decades, many of us would say the experts (or Google, lol!). We feel frustrated, overwhelmed, uncertain - and we turn to the experts. Don't get me wrong - there is value in knowledge, expertise, and specialized skills. However - you are the expert in your child.…
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The parents I serve, the parents I connect with, the parent I was... would all say something along this line: "I am giving all of my time, my attention, my energy, my (you can probably add more here!) to my one child - they are exhausting me!" But is giving your time, your attention, your energy, etc. the same as connecting with your child? Our kid…
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At a recent in-person workshop I held for adoptive parents, we discussed how perceptive and intuitive our kids can be! When our face shows frustration, overwhelm, or unhappiness. Some of us even hear "why are you mad mom?" Let's chat about some strategies to actually have your face match your goal - the goal to create a peaceful, happy home where y…
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As Mother's Day approaches, how are you feeling? For so many of us, it can come with more disappointment than joy, more frustration than fun, more sadness than flowers. When raising children with intense emotions or behaviors, we may be in a position to just hope that nobody gets hurt, there aren't too many tears, or that we can survive the day. An…
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So often I hear parents describe their adoption experience, and share that their early adoption means that attachment difficulties are unlikely. I'm here to challenge that, to help you see things differently for the sake of your child. About your host, Angie Grandt - The Adoption Coach Angie Grandt is the Adoption Coach. She is also an early interv…
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You're in the thick of it - daily, overwhelming behaviors. You spend your "free" time worrying about when the next blow-up, aggression, destruction, self-mutilation, or worse will happen. You see family vacations, nice dinners with family or friends, or even a trip to the zoo as impossible - something that only the lucky parents get to enjoy. What …
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If I'm so (fill in the blank - smart, experienced, resourceful, patient, etc.), why can't I connect with my child? We can feel so accomplished in so many areas of life… yet when it comes to our most challenging relationship, we can feel like such a failure. Let's discuss why, and WHAT to do about it! About your host, Angie Grandt - The Adoption Coa…
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When we are facing constant behaviors - we tend to become quick to react. We might react with consequences, with "teaching," with reminders of "the rules." But what if our children's behaviors are driven by their tricky past, coming from a place of trauma? Would you respond the same as you are now? If you child was crying, saying "I'm sad and scare…
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As my daughter was growing up, I felt pretty confident in my skills. I didn't second-guess myself that often, and I trusted my inner authority to do what was best for her. I would've referred to myself as a good mom. Once my son joined the picture - this all changed. I stopped seeing myself as a good mom, and instead felt like such a failure. I was…
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I know some don't want to hear this… but adoption is a traumatic event. If we as adoptive parents pretend like it's a beautiful gift that we give or child - we are fooling ourselves, and creating an environment that may give our kids the impression that they should not grieve, they should be grateful or happy. The truth is, adoption is a huge loss …
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Our stories are such a powerful way to help others. I created this podcast to help you to not only shift your most important relationships, but also to help you see that you are not alone! Join me on this journey as I discuss how I went from feeling like a confident, successful parent to feeling like a failure of a mom, not able to connect and perh…
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