This week I have something special for you, I’ve recorded a live coaching session with one of the Kill The Nice Guy graduates. This episode is for you if you’ve ever struggled with the idea that you need permission to live life on your terms, to build what you want to build, and to go for something big.On the call is a young man named JC who’s stru…

I get asked this question all the time so let’s dive into it. There are amazing ways you can support your man as he begins therapy, men’s work, or any other path to higher consciousness and healing. I’ve worked with thousands of men over the years and know these three points are crucial to being there for your man, without letting it take over your…

This week I again have something special for you, a recorded live coaching session with one of the Kill The Nice Guy graduates. This episode is for you if you’ve ever struggled with anger and don’t see the connection between having loose or porous boundaries — and the resentment and anger that naturally builds up. On the call is a man named Kevin w…

At the root of most addictive behavior is a deep dissatisfaction with one or many areas of a man’s life. I know because it wasn’t long ago that I needed to escape from my life multiple times a day with alcohol, marijuana, porn, exercise and work. Just to name a few. In this episode I share with you the ROOT of this challenge and give you a frame fo…

This past month I’ve been on the phone with far too many men who are stuck in bad relationships — and refuse to leave them. Why? Because they’ve made it some sort of badge of honor to stay and suffer rather than leave and start over. In this episode I break down how you can shift areas of your marriage or relationship, and then why it’s more than o…

In this fiery solo episode I break down The 4B Movement coming out of South Korea, The Passport Bro Movement here in the US, and the wildly needed UNcivilized Relationship Paradigm. This episode is going to upset a lot of folks because, well, I’m in support of both movements despite the massive implications they will have societally. And I see them…

What a crazy month in the civilized world, huh? Who ever would have thought such juggernauts as Nickelodeon, P Diddy, AND Andrew Huberman would come to light for being toxic and horrible — at the same time. For us at UNcivilized, this is a sign that the civilized veil is falling, truth is emerging, and as men — it’s time for us to deal with what’s …

I’ve often talked about and taught the notion of Attachment vs Authenticity when it comes to Nice Guy work. And the idea of attachment is real — but it’s taken me a few years of working with it and hearing about it quite often for it truly to stick. Thus I’m now shifting to talking about Belonging vs Authenticity — especially with but not exclusive…

An Instagram follower asked me the difference between aspects of Traditional Masculinity and our UNcivilized Masculinity and rather than write him back a novel, I decided to record this solo episode for you. In it, I jump right to the point and outline what’s great about Traditional Masculinity and — what needed to be upgraded about it. Thus the cr…

Francis Weller has been an inspiration for me for years now. The way he speaks and shares his work around initiation and living a soulful life hits me in my core. It stops my frantic mind and makes me feel like the world is going to be okay…even if it may not be. In this episode I get to sit down with Francis and have a frank conversation about men…

In this short and punchy solo episode, I answer another question from Instagram: “What were the most transformative parts of men’s work for you?” I dive into the top three for you so you can decide for yourself if these are pieces you want to try on yourself. Outgrowing substances like alcohol, weed, and porn Getting to be authentically me in men’s…

Last week I was on a call with a man who asked me this profound question, “Where do I begin my men’s work journey? There are so many places I can start from?” In this episode I break down a great starting point for you if you’re about to embark on your men’s work journey, or where to return to if you’ve currently been on a break and aren’t sure whe…

In this short solo episode, I break down the two main blocks I see when people try to figure out their purpose. Knowing why you’re here and what you’re here to do is a BIG deal. And being stuck without knowing either can lead to a lot of undue suffering. This episode will help ease that suffering and give you a path forward when you’re in between m…

I actually did walk through the woods to go to school, and sometimes it was freezing. I figured out pretty early on that there are a lot of guys who get things handed to them where I didn't. I also figured out I wasn't the smartest but I had the willingness and ability to outwork just about anybody. But we all had one thing in common. Failure to la…

After BDSM teacher Andy Buru came into The UNcivilized Nation and dropped this notion for all of us, I’ve been seeing how potent of an idea this is — balancing space holding and selfishness actually is. AND how confronting it is for so many people to lean into the one that’s not their natural way. In this short solo episode I break down why being a…

This is an important episode and please stay to the end of it where we go into a depth we never planned on. Last week Duey quoted a book he’s reading about how men mostly fear the experience of being afraid. I put my knife and fork down and asked him to tell me more. As he did, I knew we had to record this episode and share it with you all. It star…

Making a brief return to interviewing, I get to sit down here with a man who has been a mortician since the age of 18. Wild huh? We talk a lot about grief, the power of full expression and how we can shift the societal tide that’s preventing so many people from feeling what’s only natural in their lives. Enjoy. Please do share this with one person …

In this episode I tackle one of my favorite topics — being a Nice Guy (or Cool Girl). Since this is my background and our most popular course, I’m diving in and giving you three concrete ideas for you to apply right now to start to shift this paradigm in your life. You will NOT get what you want in life JUST making other people happy. The life you …

In this episode I sit down with Lama Justin von Bujdoss and talk about many things. Namely, his experience in a 49 day dark retreat, his time working in hospice, as well as his career as a prison chaplain. The man has seen and experienced beauty and loss on a grand scale. This is a fabulous interview where he talks about how we can all deal with th…

One of the pains so many people experience is from looking back on their lives and thinking they wasted time with a particular chapter. I hear this in workshops and with my private clients. “Gosh, if I hadn’t spent those 5 years studying agriculture and instead had 5 more years in my current profession of real estate development.” Or something like…

This episode is powerful. In it I get to sit down with the great Ralek Gracie. Born into Jiujitsu royalty Ralek has spent his life on the mat, in the ring, and in the cage. His life was about little else than jiujitsu and being a Gracie. Yet a business failure and the subsequent introspection took his life down a completely separate path, one of ar…

Hey UNcivilized Fam, So many men who get themselves into Men’s Work fall into this early trap. Please give this short solo episode a listen on how you can avoid — forgetting your balls! In this episode I break down UNcivilized Ethos Tenet #8 and remind me all the beautiful benefits of living a powerful life. HHB, Fellas. Not just H. Enjoy and pleas…

Good day and welcome to 2024. In this raw yearly opener, I invite you to join me and all of us at UNcivilized to walk along side of us in a new way. A powerful way. In this episode I share my year name and why I chose it as well as ask you to join me on your own powerful path. Enjoy. Please do share this with one person in your life, or twenty. Che…

A Christmas episode for you! Whether you’re taking a break from family or today is a hard day for you, here is an episode to lighten your heart and give you something constructive to work on. I asked the men of The UNcivilized Nation what 10 skills every UNcivilized Man should have. These are 10 (actually 11) of them. They’re solid. Enjoy and pleas…

The UNcivilized Ethos is the core of the movement and a tool thousands of men and women all over the globe tap into and use for their success and to get them back on track when the slip off. In this quick and dirty solo episode I tell the story of how the Ethos came about and give you two quick thoughts on each tenet. Enjoy and please share this ep…

A few months ago I was at breakfast with the great Duey Freeman, chewing on some bacon and talking about the future of the Nation. He asked me a million dollar question: “How do you now define an UNcivilized Man?” I answered, “Well, he’s raw…he’s real…” And Duey finished my sentence, “And he’s relational.” In this short solo episode I breakdown wha…

It happens. It happens to all of us. In fact it’s happened to me a few times in the past two years as well — that terrible feeling of being lost in your life. In this short and sweet solo episode I share how I got myself back on track after getting jostled pretty hard by some deaths and a near death accident. I know these ideas work as I’ve also no…

Men, there’s a big misconception out there that ferocity and passion are aggressive if they’re displayed by men. Fierceness is a key ingredient to your UNcivilized life. In this short solo episode I break down the difference between being fierce and being aggressive with the key word being — heart. Enjoy and please share this with someone in your l…

Parties, cocktails, your aunt’s famous apple pie…it often feels like the holidays stack the deck against your fitness and health goals. For a lot of folks, men and women alike, Jan 1 is not a great day. They wake up feeling fat, bloated, and disappointed in both themselves and the hole they have to crawl out of. In this short episode with The UNciv…

Howdy folks, In this short but hard hitting episode I invite you into YOUR UNcivilized life. I break down the massive workshop we held last weekend, give you insight into the state of The UNcivilized Movement and share what essentially is a five day workshop in under 3 minutes. You definitely want to give this a listen. Why? Because YOU are The UNc…

In this short solo episode I break down the two steps you can start to take immediately to live an UNcivilized life — ie. THE LIFE OF YOUR DREAMS. I’ll give them to you here but you’re still going to have to do the work yourself. Or another way to say that is, “You GET to go on the ride of your life if you do this.” The steps are: 1) Figure out wha…

Why do people fear darkness? The answer lies in its uncontrollability. Darkness stirs up the deepest corners of our minds, like a blank canvas for our deepest fears. It's like being trapped in a horror movie with no escape. In this second part of our "Darkness" series, Traver Boehm and Katie Sroka are diving deep into the idea of darkness as an ent…

Just imagine, 28 days in total darkness – now that's something wild, right? Well, get ready to hear a wild journey through an interview. In this episode, things take an interesting turn as the interviewer becomes the interviewee. Our dear Katie Sroka takes the host chair and delves into Traver's profound experience: spending 28 days in total darkne…

Howdy folks. In this short solo episode I talk about one of the blocks many people have when it comes to social media and the self development space — making the person they follow into a Guru. After years spent in the trenches of the Self Development world, I can tell you — we are all human. And many people are not what they seem. At all. Give thi…

It's the third and final week for my team to interview me. This week it's Erin, lovingly referred to as the Director of Traver (we'll explain that title in the podcast). Together we dove into what made and still makes Traver UNcivilized, and a few specific questions from a woman's perspective of how to connect with men. Our conversation perfectly r…

It's week two for the Team at UNcivilized to interview me! This week it's Malina, our Director of Operations, and let's just say she isn't thrilled about speaking into a microphone. But like a typical member of the UNcivilized world, she showed up full stop. She's asked me some very deep questions, in typical Malina fashion, and I just love her for…

The people who work at Team UNcivilized are as committed to helping end the suffering in men to help the suffering caused by men as I am. For the next few weeks, you'll get to hear them interview me. First up is Denise. Our Director of Design, Denise does so much more than that. Sure, she was sweating through half this recording, but she also asked…

In this live class with my Kill The Nice Guy Group, I dive head first into the power of figuring out your needs SPECIFICALLY as a man, understanding and expressing what you want in this world, then having the healthy boundaries to make sure your life is in integrity. This is a hard hitting class, recorded with 50 men on a call so please excuse the …

We hear a LOT about Nice Guys, especially around the UNcivilized. Many men come to men’s work after discovering that they themselves are Nice Guys and this is their entree point onto the path of becoming whole as a man. But what is the female equivalent of Nice Guy? And how do you spot it whether you’re in the dating world or not. In this short sol…

In this quick and dirty solo episode I’m answering a question I got on Instagram about what exactly boundaries are and how to set them and keep them. Boundaries are the special sauce of relationships. With them your relationships will thrive and can last forever. Without them you will slowly build up resentment and until you explode. Trust me as I …

We men often don’t stop and ask ourselves, “Whose rules am I playing by? Are they mine? Do they work for me? What if I changed them?” In this short solo episode I share a conversation I had with a man after Jiujitsu who has changed his entire outlook on life just by questioning whose rules he was living by. This is especially important for Nice Guy…

So many men are stuck thinking in this one certain way — I have to make everyone else happy before I’ll have a good life. And that’s a death sentence to your hopes, dreams, and confidence. In this live call with the men in my Kill The Nice Guy Group I dive into how to shift this limiting thought into a powerful one. One that will change every way y…

I wish I had a more easily understood term for the words Covert Contracts, but I don’t…yet. And — everyone has these secret, one-way agreements in our relationships that slowly build resentment, erode trust, and actually prevent us from getting the very needs we’re desperate to get met from doing just that. In this solo episode I break down what a …

Any time a potential client tells me they’ve recently had three major losses or setbacks, I take a deep breath and listen carefully. So often this is their soul’s way of completely reorganizing their lives in a far more aligned way than it’s ever been before. If you’re experiencing back to back or perhaps even three losses in a row, this episode is…

Fear of rejection shows up in many less than obvious ways. It can be the difference between speaking your mind and keeping quiet, sharing your post or deleting before anyone gets a chance to read it. Many people believe there’s a switch you can flip and suddenly this deep fear will just disappear. This is not the case that I have found. However, th…

In this impactful interview, entrepreneur Ryan Goodman sheds light on the urgent issue of anti-child sex trafficking, emphasizing the need for collective action. Through his business, Ryan becomes a beacon of hope, actively fighting against this heinous crime and making a meaningful difference in the lives of victims. We'll be diving into Ryan's po…

In today's society, the prevalence of body image issues and body dysmorphia has risen, particularly within the realm of fitness and bodybuilding. However, amidst these challenges, there are individuals who are dedicated to helping others overcome these obstacles. One awesome person in this category is Robert Sikes, a bodybuilder who's all about mot…

Get ready to embark on a mind-bending journey into the wild and wonderful world of relationships! On this episode of the UNcivilized podcast, we're tearing down the walls of assumptions about love in America and turning things upside down. We've got a special guest joining us today, the incredible Dr. Zhana, a true guru when it comes to human sexua…

Life is a short and unique journey that should be cherished and maximized to its fullest potential. It is crucial not only to prioritize our own personal growth but also to assist others in doing the same. In the modern era, we have become more conscious of the significance of mental health. However, despite being familiar with the subject, we ofte…

In the world of relationships, let's shake up the bad love statistic, rewrite the rulebook, and create a love story that blows everyone's mind. And today, our guest, Anna Rova, is here to teach us how. In this episode, we're excited to have Anna Rova join us all the way from Australia. She's a pro when it comes to understanding masculinity, feminin…