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HOT MESS is a laugh-out-loud podcast with Actor & Comedian Alec Mapa along with professional psychotherapist, Matthew Dempsey, who both explore the pursuit of health and wellness in a hilarious and compassionate way. Everyone’s trying to survive in a world that’s turned upside down, but beneath the surface we’re all a HOT MESS and the healing process can trigger intense feelings. But, have no fear, Alec and Matthew are here! They’ll zero in on an ISSUE OF THE DAY to compare and despair uncer ...
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In this episode of Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey Psychotherapist, Alec and Matt look back on some of their favorite moments with the amazing drag queens that have appeared on the show. Alaska Thunderfuck opens up about the backlash she received after Drag Race, Peppermint talks about sex addiction and self-loathing, Trixie Mattel shares …
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In this episode of Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey Psychotherapist, Alec selects some of the most impactful and helpful Hot Messages from the show. Listen to what Jodi Sweetin, Jackie Beat, Joely Fisher, Tina Burner, Naomi Ekperigin, Johnny Sibily, Denali, Nikki Blonksy and others have to say about what has helped and inspired them to triu…
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In this episode of Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey Psychotherapist, Alec and Matthew re-air a heartfelt and hilarious conversation with a famous tv personality and author of Name Drop, Ross Mathews. This episode was recorded just after Ross’ mom passed away and Matt, Alec, and Ross talk about dealing with the loss of a loved one during the…
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In this episode of Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey Psychotherapist, Alec and Matthew address people-pleasing with Raven, the Emmy award-winning make-up artist and host of the new competition show Painted with Raven on Wow Presents Plus. Raven opens up about growing up in Victorville, California, falling in love with makeup and beauty, bein…
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In this episode of Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey Psychotherapist, Alec and Matthew are excited to welcome the star of RuPaul’s Drag Race Season 12, Rock M Sakura. Rock shares with Alec and Matt her challenging childhood being raised by a mother who struggled with addiction. Rock shares why she left home at 15 and her journey to becoming …
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In this episode of Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey Psychotherapist, Alec and Matthew are excited to welcome childhood dancer from the Missy Elliott music videos, Disney Channel child actress and creator of Movement Genius, Alyson Stoner. Alyson opens up about the pressure of being a child actress and the resentment she felt, struggling wit…
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In this episode of Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey Psychotherapist, Alec and Matthew express their gratitude to all of their listeners for tuning in each week and making Hot Mess such a success! They then re-air their first ever episode of Hot Mess with Alec’s former college classmate and Emmy-Award winning actress Kristen Johnston. The re…
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In this episode of Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey Psychotherapist, Alec and Matthew are thrilled to welcome Oscar-nominated child actress from The Good-bye Girl and author of Notes from the Underwire and The Year of Learning Dangerously, humorist Quinn Cummings to the show. Quinn opens up about why she decided to try Ketamine Assisted Psy…
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In this episode of Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey Psychotherapist, Alec and Matthew are excited to welcome the star of 3 seasons of drag race and host of the podcast “Local Queen”, Ginger Minj. Ginger opens up about the chronic depression that has been with her for as long as she remembers. She reveals publicly for the first time, the tra…
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In this episode of Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey Psychotherapist, Alec and Matthew are excited to welcome Oscar-nominated actress from Bullets Over Broadway, world-class poker player, and star of the new Chucky television show, Jennifer Tilly. Jennifer opens up about growing up in a dysfunctional family, how she started to play the airhe…
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In this episode of Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey Psychotherapist, Alec and Matthew are excited to welcome star of RuPaul’s Drag Race Seasons 2 and 3 and All Stars Season 3, and star of the HBO hit show We’re Here, the amazing D.J. “Shangela” Pierce. Shangela shares the story of his upbringing and how he learned his work ethic from his fa…
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In this episode of Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey Psychotherapist, Alec and Matthew are excited to welcome Beth Hall who starred for 4 seasons as Caroline on Mad Men and 7 seasons as Wendy on CBS’s hit show Mom. The three talk about the need to “reset” in your life and how we resist change and can let fear get in our way. Beth, having wra…
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In this episode of Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey Psychotherapist, Alec opens up about why he made the decision to stop drinking. Alec gets real about how and when he realized he was drinking too much during the pandemic and the impact his alcohol use was having on his relationships. Matt and Alec talk about the importance of identifying …
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In this episode of Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey Psychotherapist, Alec’s husband of 20 years, Jamie Hebert, is back to continue the conversation about why they decided to open up their relationship and the impact it has had on both of them. The feedback after Part 1 of this conversation was overwhelming and the listeners wanted to hear M…
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In this episode of Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey Psychotherapist, Alec and Matthew are excited to welcome star of RuPaul’s Drag Race Seasons 9 and 10 and the popular “We’re Here” on HBO, the amazing Eureka. The three have a powerful and hilarious conversation about feeling “othered” and the healthy and unhealthy strategies they used to m…
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In this episode of Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey Psychotherapist, Alec and Matthew are excited to welcome the star of RuPaul’s Drag Race Season 13 and the reigning National Ms. Comedy Queen, Tina Burner to the show for an inspiring conversation about how to turn adversity into strength. Tina opens up about her challenging childhood and t…
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In this episode of Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey Psychotherapist, Alec and Matthew are excited to welcome actor, writer, director, and beloved acting coach Jack Plotnick to the show for a fascinating conversation about managing anxiety. Alec and Matt open up about their own vulnerabilities and what makes them feel anxious. Jack shares th…
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In this episode of Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey Psychotherapist, Alec and Matthew talk with Denali, fan-favorite from RuPaul’s Drag Race Season 13, about how to overcome negative self-talk. Denali opens up about feeling invisible on the show and the deep-held belief that she isn’t enough. The three talk openly and hilariously about inse…
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In this episode of Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey Psychotherapist, Alec and Matthew are excited to welcome drag entertainer for over 30 years, Jackie Beat to the show for an intimate and uncensored conversation about sex-positivity. Jackie Beat explains why she went over 20 years without sex and the three talks openly about shame, fear of…
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In this episode of Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey Psychotherapist, Alec has an uncensored conversation with his husband of 20 years, Jamie Hebert. Jamie tells Alec how his messiness and disorganization make him crazy and Alec shares with Jamie how he can be controlling and a cold fish. Alec and Jamie talk about how they handle conflict an…
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In this episode of Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey Psychotherapist, Alec and Matt welcome the star of 15 seasons of the hit show Criminal Minds and her own YouTube show Kirsten’s Agenda, the talented Kirsten Vangsness. The three talk openly about Kirsten’s tumultuous family and the sexual trauma she experienced growing up. Matt, Alec, and …
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In this special Q & A episode of Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey Psychotherapist, Alec and Matt respond to questions on the topic of hook-up culture! Questions like why does hooking-up sometimes feel warm and intimate and other times cold and distant? Does hooking up get in the way of forming deeper connections? Why do I associate sex with…
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In this episode of Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey Psychotherapist, Alec and Matthew are excited to welcome Emmy-Award-winning television personality and recurring judge on RuPaul‘s Drag Race and Barbeque Brawl, OG from Queer Eye for the Straight Guy, Carson Kressley to the show. Alec, Matt, and Carson have a hilarious and personal convers…
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In this episode of Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey Psychotherapist, Alec and Matthew have a fascinating conversation about longevity with founding member of The Groundlings, original cast member of Saturday Night Live, and author of the Audible original memoir May You Live In Interesting Times, the comedic genius Laraine Newman. Laraine op…
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In this episode of Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey Psychotherapist, Alec and Matthew are thrilled to honor their 50th episode of the show! Alec tells the story of how the podcast began and the two share why they are so passionate about the show and about working with one another. Matt and Alec reflect on the personal challenges they’ve fac…
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In this episode of Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey Psychotherapist, Alec and Matthew welcome actor, content creator, and star of the hit shows Hacks and Pose, Johnny Sibilly. The three have a candid and personal conversation about the after-process of coming out. Johnny opens up about his upbringing, why he was in and out of the closet man…
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In this episode of Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey Psychotherapist, Alec and Matthew are thrilled to welcome the actor, singer, and writer of the bestselling memoir and one-woman show “Growing Up Fisher”, the multi-talented Joely Fisher. The three reveal the challenging experiences they had in their upbringings and how they are working to …
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In this episode of Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey Psychotherapist, Alec and Matthew welcome writer/panelist from Chelsea Lately and host of her own top-rated podcast Juicy Scoop, comedian Heather McDonald. Alec, Matt, and Heather talk about the struggles of keeping long-term relationships healthy. The three also explore how our society of…
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In this episode of Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey Psychotherapist, Alec and Matthew welcome drag race stand-out, artist, singer, and master of her “cucu” Cynthia Lee Fontaine. Alec and Matt share their coming out stories, their fears of being rejected, and the impact being in the closet had on their mental health. Cynthia Lee Fontaine tel…
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In this episode of Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey Psychotherapist, Alec and Matthew are both nervous and excited to welcome television and movie superstar and host of the podcast “Here’s the Thing” Alec Baldwin. The three open up about cancel culture and share their personal stories of when they were canceled and “going into the hole” to …
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In this episode of Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey Psychotherapist, Alec and Matthew welcome drag legend for over 30 years and star of The Sherry Vine Variety Show, the hilarious Sherry Vine. Sherry starts the conversation by admitting she rarely ever talks about her age because of the stigma involved. The three talk about their fears of a…
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In this episode of Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey Psychotherapist, Alec, and Matthew welcome Damien from Mean Girls, actor, writer, and host of the podcast Yass Jesus, Daniel Franzese. Daniel opens up about being a survivor of conversion therapy and shares his thoughts and feelings about why he put himself into treatment to change his sex…
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In this episode of Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey Psychotherapist, Alec and Matthew welcome word famous drag queen, star of the hit show “UNHhhh” and host of the podcast The Bald and the Beautiful, the hilarious Trixie Mattel. The three have a fascinating conversation on the topic of elastic thinking, what exactly it means and how it can …
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In this episode of Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey psychotherapist, Alec and Matthew have a fascinating conversation about near-death experiences and healing from trauma with drag legend for over 30 years, Miss Coco Peru. Alec and Matt open up about their own near-death experiences and how they have worked on healing themselves from early …
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In this episode of Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey psychotherapist, Alec and Matthew have a revealing and intimate conversation about self-identity with writer and producer of the Emmy-award winning show Transparent, Faith Soloway. Faith opens up about how the show is based on her own father’s transition later in life and yet is different …
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Do you struggle dealing with loneliness? This episode of Hot Mess welcomes an Icon in the drag community, performer, actress, singer, DJ, and comedienne Lady Bunny. Hosted by comedian Alec Mapa and mental health expert Matthew Dempsey, the three talk openly and hilariously and share their personal experiences of feeling isolated and lonely. Alec op…
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In this episode of Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey Psychotherapist, Alec and Matthew explore the fascinating topic of toxic relationships with the winner of Canada’s Drag Race and Alec’s co-host of the “Official RuPaul’s Drag Race Podcast” Priyanka. Alec dives into his sex and love addiction history and his pattern of being addicted to tox…
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In this episode of Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey Psychotherapist, Alec and Matthew explore the topic of hustling for your self-worth with viral sensation from his food reaction videos, host of Cakealikes, and star of the Ellen Show, the hilarious Kalen Allen. Alec and Matt explore our tendency to tie our worth as a person to work and ach…
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In this episode of Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey psychotherapist, Alec and Matt have a revealing and intimate conversation with creator and star of The Jinkx and DeLa Holiday Special and star of RuPaul’s Drag Race Season 6 and RuPaul’s Drag Race All Stars Season 3, BenDeLaCreme. Alec opens up about how his “cracking up” led him to become…
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You won’t want to miss this special episode of Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey Psychotherapist, in which Matt and guest, SAG award-winning actor, singer, Broadway star, comedian and accidental Instagram Superstar, Tom Lenk have a vulnerable and hilarious conversation about a video Matt posted online that triggered shame for both of them. T…
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In this episode of Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey Psychotherapist, Alec and Matthew explore the topic of abandonment with Jon Huertas, Miguel on the iconic television show This Is Us. Matt and Alec open up about their abandonment issues and the familiar feeling of grasping for positive attention from parents. Jon speaks candidly about bei…
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In this episode of Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey Psychotherapist, Alec and Matthew explore the topic of reality show backlash with the star of RuPaul’s Drag race season 5 and winner of All- Stars Season 2, and host of the podcast “Race Chaser” Alaska Thunderfuck. Alaska shares the intimate details of her relationship with ex Sharon Needl…
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In this episode of Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey Psychotherapist, Alec and Mathew explore the topic of the healing power of creativity with performer, artist, dancer, and Instagram sensation Mark Kanemura. Alec and Matt explore how they express their creativity and why it is helpful to our sense of well-being. Mark Kanemura opens up abou…
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In this don’t miss episode of Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey Psychotherapist, Alec and Mathew have a deep, revealing and hilarious conversation with the lead singer of the iconic band Scissor Sisters and author of the book Boys Keep Swinging, Jake Shears. Alec and Matt start the show by talking about Alec’s despair, obsessing after a brea…
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In this episode of Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey Psychotherapist, Alec and Mathew explore the topic of recovering from childhood trauma with mom, child development coach, and actress from Billions and the Comeback Malin Akerman. Alec talks candidly about working through his childhood trauma and being raised by a father who struggled with…
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In this episode of Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey Psychotherapist, Alec, and Mathew welcome Fortune Feimster, comedian, writer, a panelist from Chelsea Lately, and series regular on The Mindy Project. Matt and Alec start the show by talking honestly about their struggles feeling out of alignment. Alec talks about how he often derives his …
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In this episode of Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey Psychotherapist, Alec and Mathew explore the fascinating topic of informed wellness with legendary actress from Dallas, Flamingo Road, and Falcon Crest Morgan Fairchild. In addition to her amazing acting talent, Morgan is also an outspoken and dedicated supporter of the AIDS research effor…
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In this episode of Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey Psychotherapist, Alec and Mathew welcome the beloved star of Full House and Fuller House and the host of the podcast “Never Thought I’d Say this” Jodie Sweetin. Matt opens up about getting Covid and shares his thoughts and feelings about almost getting canceled by the gay internet for comm…
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In this episode of Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey Psychotherapist, Alec and Mathew talk with American pop culture humorist, historian, performer, chef and author of “Holiday Jubilee” Charles Phoenix. Matthew and Alec discuss feeling blue, the pain of growth, our tendency to overthink things, and learning to live with who we are. Charles P…
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In this episode of Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey Psychotherapist, Alec and Mathew have a genuine and candid conversation with the child star of Jerry Maguire and the Stuart Little movies, Jonathan Lipnicki. Jonathan shares his surprising struggles with social anxiety and the worry that he’s unlikeable. Jonathan talks to Alec and Matthew …
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