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I am a survivor of abuse and critical illness who has figured out how to break free from multiple negative generational cycles that were ruining my life. I am committed to making positive impactful and attainable positive changes for generations to come. As a result of years of personal experience, research and therapy; I have been able to create tools and simplified concepts to help break down the barriers of negative cycles in order to create meaningful lasting changes. Now, I am going to ...
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Cycle Breaker and Change Maker | Introduction to entering controlling relationships as a trauma response
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Episode 20 - Introduction to entering controlling relationships as a trauma response Are you in a relationship personal or professional with someone that makes you feel powerless or scared? Maybe they hold grudges constantly over issues that are actually trivial? Perhaps they make you feel like you cannot do anything right ever, or that there is so…
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Episode 19 -Introduction to emotional numbness as a trauma response Have you ever experienced a change in your emotional experience, as if your emotions became something you started to have restricted access to? Or perhaps, have your emotions started to feel completely inaccessible? Maybe you have experienced a feeling of distance and detachment fr…
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Episode 18 - Introduction to people pleasing and ignoring your own needs Do you overcommit to activities or responsibilities that others ask of you? Do you ever find yourself saying yes to everything or struggling to ever say the word no to others? Maybe you often find that you are saying yes to work or personal commitments, despite having too much…
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Episode 17 - Introduction to Overworking and Workaholic behavior as a Trauma Response Overworking happens when you are exceeding your capacity at work - this capacity can be physical, mental or emotional. Overworking occurs when you work too long, too hard or too much. Similarly to overworking, workaholics have an inability to control the time they…
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Cycle Breaker and Change Maker | Introduction to the Emotional Recovery from a Critical Illness
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Episode 16 - Introduction to the Emotional Recovery from a Critical Illness When you make it through a critical illness you might expect to feel happy, relieved and even energized. You may think that you should be ready to move on with your life and leave that awful event in the past where it supposedly belongs. Afterall, you have overcome the illn…
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Cycle Breaker and Change Maker | Why people do not step in to stop abuse and a guide to giving help to someone you suspect is being abused
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Today's episode is an explanation of why people do not step in to stop abuse and a guide to giving help to someone you suspect is being abused. If anyone that did not step in and help me is listening today - I understand why you couldn't then but I need you to know that it is not too late to help others now. When I was growing up, many parts of my …
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Episode 14 - Introduction to Oversharing In today’s episode I will be discussing oversharing as it relates to a trauma response and providing a three steps to help you overcome oversharing. Divulging excessive information quickly in a relationship is a very common pattern in people who have experienced trauma. Do you ever find yourself explaining t…
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In today's episode I will be discussing overthinking. In my last episode I discussed catastrophizing, I consider overthinking to be catastrophizing’s equally unhelpful sibling. Overthinking and catastrophizing can stem from similar pasts as a way to cope with trauma, however, like siblings they have their own unique elements. Do you ever find yours…
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Episode 12 - Introduction to Catastrophizing In today's episode I will be discussing catastrophizing. If you have ever found yourself jumping to the worst case scenario and predicting and preparing for the most awful outcomes all the time you could be experiencing catastrophizing as a result of trauma. The interesting thing that most people don’t k…
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Cycle Breaker and Change Maker: Introduction to Fierce Independence also known as Hyper-independence
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Episode 11 - Introduction to fierce independence or hyper-independence and the inability to ask for help In today's episode I will be discussing fierce independence, also referred to as hyper-independence as it relates to trauma. If you find it extremely difficult to ask for and to receive help, push people trying to help you away and have a prefer…
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In today's episode I will be discussing lack of accountability in relationships, why this happens and how this contributes to a negative cycle. If you have ever explained to someone how something they did to you hurt you and experienced them completely denying, disregarding or even blaming you for what happened, you may have experienced a lack of a…
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Cycle Breaker and Change Maker | Introduction to the invisibility of abuse - things are not always what they seem
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Todays episode is an Introduction to the invisibility of abuse. You may be wondering what happened in my household and how the abuse I endured or anyone endures, can go unseen. Most of us are familiar with the age-old adage - things are not always what they seem. In today's world we are surrounded by social media. For the most part, users control t…
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This episode features an introduction to anticipatory fear - also referred to as fear of what is going to happen next or dreading the future and anticipatory anxiety, If you have ever experienced worry about something that has not happened yet you have experienced anticipatory fear or anxiety. As a primal need to feel safe in the future, this fear …
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Video link to episode is: here (https://youtu.be/HIe_IUu-R4k) So what exactly is a critical illness? A critical illness can be a progressive, degenerative or malignant condition that places a person’s life in jeopardy. It may also be a medical condition in which immediate medical support of vital organ functions is needed in order to survive due to…
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We know enough about negative intergenerational trauma cycles to understand they are unhealthy and dangerous and that there is a huge personal and financial cost. However, what are we truly doing as a movement to prevent this? There are people trying to make a difference yet why has this not taken off when so many I would argue lesser important tre…
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Episode 5 - Introduction To Triggers - emotional triggers, mental health triggers or psychological triggers In today's episode I will be discussing an introduction to emotional, mental health or psychological triggers. It is important to understand that not all strong emotional reactions are a trigger response - if you are grieving the death of a l…
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Episode 4 - Introduction to letting go In today's episode I will focus on an introduction to letting people go. This can be a friend, a colleague, a relative or anyone that is in your life that is not serving you well. So what exactly does letting go of someone mean? I will be discussing letting go of a relationship in the following framework: You …
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This episode is all about abandonment, what it is, what it can cause and how to break its vicious cycle. You may be surprised at the amount of events that can lead to abandonment trauma. Additionally you will also learn how I almost lost my life when I was abandoned an how I have overcome my fears of being alone. Support the show Thank you for list…
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In today’s episode I will be discussing the cycle of getting into repeated negative relationships. Negative relationships can include intimate partners, friendships, supervisors and any other relationships that occur in your life where you have a connection and repeated interactions with another person. You will hear about my personal experience an…
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I am a survivor of abuse and critical illness who has figured out how to break free from multiple negative generational cycles that were ruining my life. I am committed to making positive impactful and attainable positive changes for generations to come. As a result of years of personal experience, research and therapy; I have been able to create t…
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