Podcast di The Ace Couple

The most challenged book in the U.S. was written by Ace, Gender Queer author Maia Kobabe. Eir book is a vulnerable coming of age graphic novel that has found itself the main character in the latest conservative culture war.Di The Ace Couple

Remember "The Article" that sparked so much harassment that Courtney almost quit the Ace community? Well, today we talk to the writer of said article Michele Kirichanskaya. We discuss their forthcoming book, Ace Notes, their experience as a Jewish Ace, and SO much more!Di The Ace Couple

Yet another sad casualty in Netflix's tirade of single-season cancellations, The Imperfects gives us rare and much needed representation in the character of Abbi Singh. She is an Ace, Lesbian, WOC in STEM and not enough people know about her!Di The Ace Couple

TikTok told us that we're Autistic. To be fair, we already had that theory ourselves...So just for fun let's take the IDR Labs Autism Spectrum Test live on microphone!Di The Ace Couple

Recently Michelle Obama confessed that she spent 10 years hating Barack. We don't understand "marital hatred", but it got us talking about commitment, the division of labor in relationships, and societal expectations that place a disproportional burden on women.Di The Ace Couple

Lots of you asked us for more Asexual AITA, so here we are once again! Today we read and share our perspectives on 8 different Reddit stories that all pertain to asexuality.Di The Ace Couple

The other half of Aces Playing at Attraction, Satan, shares their experience as a Chinese, femme-presenting Ace. We discuss everything from decoupling sex & sin, dating sims, genderqueerness, birth control, asexual discourse, and so much more!Di The Ace Couple

Everybody is shipping #Wenclair. Netflix and the show's cast are leaning into the queer community with interviews and "Wednesgay" drag events without actually showing us meaningful gay rep on screen. Meanwhile, Wednesday could and should be an AroAce icon.Di The Ace Couple

Today we're joined by Evie Lupine for a jam-packed episode where we discuss the intersections of kink and asexuality, her personal journey as a kinky Ace, asexual discrimination, the kink community being more welcoming to Aces than some Pride organizations and SO much more!Di The Ace Couple

A bigoted op-ed was recently published on UnHerd entitled "Demisexuals are scared of sex: Desire has been purged from the modern dating scene". It's steeped in compulsory sexuality, rape culture, and ignorance as well as outright lies about demisexuality.Di The Ace Couple

The history of the “Aces Invade Denmark” meme...and why it's long past time to put it to rest.Di The Ace Couple

Part two continued from last week of the Aromantic, Asexual representation in Koisenu Futari! A perfect ending to an unbelievably beautiful series.Di The Ace Couple

We did it. We found the PERFECT AroAce rep! If you're looking for fully grown, live-action adult, queer-platonic found family goodness with a couple who experience no romantic or sexual feelings, then look no further than J-drama Koisenu Futari.Di The Ace Couple

Happy Ace Week & Disabled Ace Day! Today Mik shares zir experience as a Black, Disabled, “AAA Battery” with many of creative endeavors. We talk experiences of being asexual in the military, quoiromanticism, polyamory, becoming team lead of an all aspec stream team and so much more!Di The Ace Couple

The Washington Post claims that marital hatred is normal and that everyone who's been in a long-term relationship can relate. But IS it normal? Has EVERYONE experienced this? We've quarantined together for 2 1/2 years and haven't experienced it, so we remain skeptical...Di The Ace Couple

We watched The Owl House because the internet told us there was great AroAce rep. But there...wasn't? The show was cute and undeniably queer. But we should praise it for what's actually shown as opposed to what was “confirmed” off screen.Di The Ace Couple

Once upon a time, a cartoon shark had a conversation with Satan (no, not THAT one...the other one) and realized he was asexual. But what does it mean to be a Christian Asexual?Di The Ace Couple

We both had very awkward first Drag show experiences for very different reasons...but embarrassing events make for great stories! Plus, a somewhat related bonus story of Courtney's very weird attempt to purchase a massage.Di The Ace Couple

It is our one year podcast anniversary! A lot has happened in a single year, so let's take a trip down memory lane.Di The Ace Couple

Lucy Bludell AKA Games by Kinmoku is the disabled, gray-ace indie game dev who brought us the wonderful visual novel One Night Stand. In this episode, we talk about their personal journey, why an ace would make a game about a one night stand, queer representation in gaming, and her forthcoming game VIDEOVERSE!…

Never Been Kissed by Timothy Janovsky has one of the best metaphors for oriented (gay, demi) asexuality that we've ever read. As a New Adult novel, it takes the conversations of sexual orientation a little further than YA books we've read with a demisexual character- which we appreciate very much!Di The Ace Couple

On Reddit there is no shortage of straight people who think that marriage is a trap, they hate their partners, and they cheat on each other for “self-care”. We have no choice but to ask... ARE the straights OK!?Di The Ace Couple

Christofascists HATE asexuals, and this isn't new. For years, they've been saying that platonic marriage goes against God and should be illegal. And ironically, because of Obergefell v. Hodges (the landmark Supreme Court case that legalized same-sex marriage)...it might be.Di The Ace Couple

Conservative Christians think marriage should be “conjugal” NOT “consent-based”. Religious lobbyists say marriage was the first institution created by God before man created government and is, therefore, based in religion and procreative sex, not love and autonomy.Di The Ace Couple

The religious organizations opposing platonic marriage believe that sex is the #1 most important component to marriage. In their own words, procreative sex is more important than personal bodily autonomy. This is compulsory sexuality, amatonormativity, and rape culture.Di The Ace Couple

83 religious, right-wing organizations signed a letter to Mitch McConnell condemning the Respect for Marriage act and citing “platonic marriage” as a “startling expansion of what marriage means”. Today, we break down the letter. Next week, we examine these organizations closer.Di The Ace Couple

We lost a friend due to acephobia and other microaggressions that started to arise and spiraled out of control during a D&D campaign.Di The Ace Couple

Time for an anonymous Q&A! We asked for questions via the NGL app and you delivered! We do our best to answer them all, but a few of them are complicated enough that they could be an entire episode on their own!Di The Ace Couple

The Spectator published an Anti-Ace, Anti-Trans article. We share what they said and why it's important to learn what their strategy and talking points are. We need to know how to fight back, because they're playing the long-game while we're stuck in damage control.Di The Ace Couple

We recently celebrated our 8 year anniversary which means we successfully staved off the alleged “seven-year itch”, but what is even is that? Is it real? Is it just an allosexual thing? Did the movies make it up? Let's talk about it!Di The Ace Couple

Parvati Holcomb is our favorite character in the The Outer Worlds. She is Asexual and as her captain/confidant, you can play as an AroAce. This is groundbreaking rep for Aces in video games (and we don't just say that because her potential girlfriend works at “The Groundbreaker”)Di The Ace Couple

We are by NO means anti-kink-at-pride, however, there are some staple lines in The Discourse that we see over and over that run counter to our experience. So, here's our asexual perspective along with some added nuance to properly complicate the conversation. We know this is a hot-button issue and we really, truly come in peace. Please do not assum…

Euphoria is a lot. We can't claim to be fans of the show, but season 2 questioned whether or not the main character, Rue, could be asexual. However, the way it was handled caused a lot of online harassment aimed at the Ace community.Di The Ace Couple

Popular Animator and YouTuber Jaiden Animations announced that she is AroAce! Rarely do we get real-world representation from someone with this big of a platform, so we talk about her video, the internet's reaction, and what this means to the community.Di The Ace Couple

Happy Pride Month! We're kicking it off with an extra special episode featuring the fantastic Tyger Songbird! We talk about Tyger's experience growing up in the Bible Belt, Black Asexuality, the necessity of diverse representation, and SO much more!Di The Ace Couple

May is EDS & HSD Awareness Month! We often speak about the intersection of asexuality and disability, but Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome happens to be one of Courtney's many maladies and her experience actually runs counter to the “disabled people are desexualized” narrative.Di The Ace Couple

May 23rd is our 8 year anniversary! Please join us on a trip down memory lane as, for the first time, we reread the “365 I love you's” that Courtney wrote and gave to Royce on our 1st anniversary. Reminiscing both sweet and silly ensues.Di The Ace Couple

Did Shawnee ban roommates? Are unmarried couples, QPRs, & queer family structures under attack? Shawnee is the first city we ever lived in together, so we give a local perspective on the matter, including a history of racial and economic discrimination present here.Di The Ace Couple

Heartstopper is making waves in young, queer love. We aren't quite the target demographic for this story, but there is still much to applaud and potential for AroAce rep in future seasons. The writer, Alice Oseman is AroAce which is enough for us to lend our support.Di The Ace Couple

Today we're comin' atcha with 5 stories from r/AmITheAsshole that all somehow revolve around the topic of asexuality. We have Ace people, Straight people, Gay people, and “Allies” who have submitted themselves for our judgment via reddit.Di The Ace Couple

What the heck is Radical Monogamy? Is it a thing? SHOULD it be a thing? Citing a variety of articles, we discuss our personal thoughts, the polyamory discourse surrounding ace-allo relationships, and we reimagine polyamory as D&D spell slots. (Plus that one time Courtney was almost on Viceland)Di The Ace Couple

A decade ago, Courtney, along with over 8 million other Americans tuned in to watch an episode of House entitled “Better Half”. In the closet and considering how to come out, she was delighted to see an asexual couple make an appearance...until it all went wrong.Di The Ace Couple

Happy International Asexuality Day! In honor of IAD, we're launching a new community project: A-specs Committed to Anti-Racism. Here's why this project is important and how to participate. Plus, tune in for a book giveaway!Di The Ace Couple

Everything's Gonna Be Okay came on our radar in the same way Sex Education did: A singular scene that the Ace community kept sharing. Unlike Sex Education, however, this show became a fast favorite of ours for it's nuanced take on both asexual and autistic representation.Di The Ace Couple

Let us introduce you to The Ace Couple Pets! Our family consists of a grumpy old-man dog, a somehow even grumpier opossum, two large snakes, and an entire mouse circus.Di The Ace Couple

Fog of Love is often described as “Romantic Comedy as a Board Game”, so what happens when a married Ace couple gives it a play? In this episode, we roleplay a fraught year in the relationship of Priscilla, the advertising manager and Bertrand, the career criminal. Silliness ensues.Di The Ace Couple

Part 2 continuing from last week's episode! Todd Chavez from Bojack Horseman is currently our favorite example of asexual representation in the media. We finish our discussion of Todd by reviewing seasons 4-6 including his relationships with Emily, Yolanda, and Maude.Di The Ace Couple

Bojack Horseman. We went from hating it, to loving it, to enshrining it is as one of our all-time favorite pieces of media. In 2016, we watched in delight as season 3 teased an asexual plotline for audience-favorite Todd Chavez. And friends, it only got better from there!Di The Ace Couple

It's Aromantic Spectrum Awareness Week! To celebrate, here's our introduction to Aromanticism. We discuss why this week is important, why Courtney might be a little bit Demi/Gray-Romantic (including an utterly embarrassing Elementary School story), and the concept of amatonormativity. Aromantic Spectrum Awareness Week is celebrated the last full we…

We decided to take the unconventional route and get married by Common Law nearly 8 years ago. There are many misconceptions about what common law marriage is and is not, so we're going to talk about how and why we did it and how we told our families.Di The Ace Couple