Vicki Sokolik refuses to be an Ostrich. Her son brought to her attention the crisis of unhoused youth — youth unhoused, not living with a parent/guardian, and not in foster care — in America, and she has been fighting to support this vulnerable population every since. Most active in Tampa Bay, Florida, Vicki is the founder and CEO of the nonprofit Starting Right, Now, which removes barriers for unaccompanied homeless youth to cultivate long-term well-being and self-sufficiency. She is also the author of the new book, “If You See Them: Young, Unhoused, and Alone in America.” Vicki Sokolik joined host Jay Ruderman to discuss the many ways unhoused youth fall through the cracks in our society, how her organization helps them, and also how to build trust with people who could use your help. Episode Chapters (00:00) Intro (01:10) Vicki’s origin story (02:40) What is “unhoused youth?” (06:40) What should a person do if they worry they see an unhoused youth? (08:19) How have conversations around unhoused youth changed in Vicki’s 20 years working with them? (11:02) How do people get the word out and help unhoused youth? (14:55) Vicki’s new book (16:48) How Vicki builds trust (20:10) What do students receive at Starting Right, Now? (22:58) How does Vicki balance advocacy and direct support? (27:53) Starting Right, Now alumni (29:10) Goodbye For video episodes, watch on www.youtube.com/@therudermanfamilyfoundation Stay in touch: X: @JayRuderman | @RudermanFdn LinkedIn: Jay Ruderman | Ruderman Family Foundation Instagram: All About Change Podcast | Ruderman Family Foundation To learn more about the podcast, visit https://allaboutchangepodcast.com/…
Player FM - Internet Radio Done Right
Checked 22h ago
Aggiunto quarantacinque settimane fa
Contenuto fornito da Andy Weins. Tutti i contenuti dei podcast, inclusi episodi, grafica e descrizioni dei podcast, vengono caricati e forniti direttamente da Andy Weins o dal partner della piattaforma podcast. Se ritieni che qualcuno stia utilizzando la tua opera protetta da copyright senza la tua autorizzazione, puoi seguire la procedura descritta qui https://it.player.fm/legal.
Player FM - App Podcast
Vai offline con l'app Player FM !
Vai offline con l'app Player FM !
Podcast che vale la pena ascoltare
SPONSORIZZATO
Experience Andy Weins Live explicit
Segna tutti come (non) riprodotti ...
Manage series 3563926
Contenuto fornito da Andy Weins. Tutti i contenuti dei podcast, inclusi episodi, grafica e descrizioni dei podcast, vengono caricati e forniti direttamente da Andy Weins o dal partner della piattaforma podcast. Se ritieni che qualcuno stia utilizzando la tua opera protetta da copyright senza la tua autorizzazione, puoi seguire la procedura descritta qui https://it.player.fm/legal.
Speaker, soldier, entrepreneur. Andy Weins, owner of Greenup Solutions and author of the bestselling book, Words Fucking Matter. From the backwoods of Wisconsin through the sands of Iraq, Andy uses his battle tested experiences to bring audiences the Midwest reality check they need to optimize their life, their work, and their craft. Strap in for a high energy training session that will challenge the way you think about yourself and the world around you.
…
continue reading
69 episodi
Segna tutti come (non) riprodotti ...
Manage series 3563926
Contenuto fornito da Andy Weins. Tutti i contenuti dei podcast, inclusi episodi, grafica e descrizioni dei podcast, vengono caricati e forniti direttamente da Andy Weins o dal partner della piattaforma podcast. Se ritieni che qualcuno stia utilizzando la tua opera protetta da copyright senza la tua autorizzazione, puoi seguire la procedura descritta qui https://it.player.fm/legal.
Speaker, soldier, entrepreneur. Andy Weins, owner of Greenup Solutions and author of the bestselling book, Words Fucking Matter. From the backwoods of Wisconsin through the sands of Iraq, Andy uses his battle tested experiences to bring audiences the Midwest reality check they need to optimize their life, their work, and their craft. Strap in for a high energy training session that will challenge the way you think about yourself and the world around you.
…
continue reading
69 episodi
Kaikki jaksot
×Sounds like a YOU problem… or is it? Too many people get stuck blaming, making excuses, or waiting for life to happen to them. In this episode, I break down the Ish-You vs. Ish-Me mindset and the six “I” statements that will help you take ownership of your life. If this episode hits home, do me a favor—subscribe, leave a review, and share it with a friend who needs to hear this. Learn more: https://andyweins.com/sounds-like-a-you-problem/…
This week, I’m diving into the OODA Loop: Observe, Orient, Decide, Act. It’s a decision-making game-changer for anyone ready to stop spinning their wheels and start making moves. Tune in to learn how to overcome common pitfalls, crush procrastination, and do the fucking thing . If you find value, subscribe, review, and share this episode with a friend who needs to hear it. Learn more here: https://andyweins.com/how-to-get-what-you-want/…
In this episode, I’m calling out comparison for what it really is—a joy thief. We’re diving into how comparing yourself to others (or even to unrealistic ideals) holds you back and how to break free from that mindset. It’s all about focusing on YOU and making progress every day. Subscribe, rate, and review the podcast to keep this conversation going! Share this episode with someone who needs to hear it. Learn more at https://andyweins.com/comparison-is-the-thief-of-joy/…
This week, I’m talking about decluttering—not just your physical space but your entire life. I share how I faced my own clutter and the massive impact it had on my mindset, productivity, and relationships. Plus, I’ve got actionable tips to help you get started. Dive deeper into the topic with my blog: https://andyweins.com/declutter-your-space-and-your-mind-will-follow/ Love this episode? Rate, review, and share it with someone who needs a little decluttering in their life. And make sure to FOLLOW so you don’t miss out on future episodes!…
Boundaries are more than limits—they’re about showing yourself respect and living life on your terms. In this episode, I’ll unpack why boundaries are so powerful, how they can improve your relationships, and practical ways to set them in everyday life. 💡 Learn more and dive into the full blog post here: https://andyweins.com/boundaries-are-beautiful/ 👉 If this episode hits home, be sure to follow the podcast, leave a review, and share it with someone who could benefit from the message. Let’s create clarity and peace, starting now.…
"You Only Die Once" isn’t just a saying—it’s a reminder to live every day with intention. In this episode, I talk about owning your choices, ditching regrets, and chasing what really matters. It’s all about showing up, doing the work, and creating a life worth living. Dive deeper into the conversation here: https://andyweins.com/you-only-die-once/ Make sure to follow, review, and share this episode with someone who’s ready to take charge of their life.…
In this episode, we get real about why success isn’t about chasing results — it’s about embracing the work. The grind is the reward. Whether you're in business, personal growth, or trudging through the woods on a bitter cold hunt, the process shapes you more than the outcome ever will. Reflect on the work you’ve done, ditch what drains you, and double down on what makes you great. Stop waiting for results and start loving the grind. 🔥 Read the full blog post here: https://andyweins.com/work-is-the-reward/ If you got value from this, don’t forget to rate the podcast, subscribe, and share it with others who need to hear this message.…
Seasonal depression is a motherfucker. In this episode, I break down how to change your self-talk, get moving, and love the quirks that make you, you . Practical steps, real talk, and a reminder to take control. Do the fucking thing. Tell the fucking world. Show the fuck up.
In this week’s episode of Experience Andy Weins Live, we’re talking about gratitude, reflection, and getting ready to crush 2025. I share a story about a neighbor whose generosity shaped a decade of my life, how hunting helped me navigate PTSD and tough personal times, and why gratitude is more than a feel-good buzzword—it’s a tool to fuel your growth. As the year winds down, this is your opportunity to reflect: What worked? What didn’t? Who helped you rise? I’m breaking down how to “hunt the good stuff” every day, the science behind gratitude’s impact on your brain and body, and why setting clear goals (and writing them down!) is the first step to transforming your life. If you’re ready to finish strong and step into 2025 with purpose, this episode is your guide. What You’ll Learn: How hunting and gratitude helped me through my toughest moments. The questions you need to ask yourself daily to find what’s working. Why reflection now sets the tone for success next year. The importance of goals and why most people fail to achieve them. Let’s make the rest of this year count—together. 🎙 Listen, reflect, and then DO THE FUCKING THING.…
Blame, excuses, denial—it’s time to kick those bad habits to the curb. In this episode, I dig into how to take ownership, stay accountable, and build habits that set you up for the life you want. Plus, I share a personal story about stepping out of my comfort zone and why saying ‘yes’ matters. If this resonates, leave a review and share it with a friend who needs to hear it. Let’s do the fucking thing—together!…
In this episode, we’re talking about the power of taking action—because life’s too short to stay stuck. From stories about mentorship and gratitude to breaking through self-limiting beliefs, this is your call to step out of your comfort zone, embrace your passion, and make progress one step at a time.…
In this podcast episode of Experience Andy Weins Live , I’m taking a hard look at life after service—the battles we face coming back home, the holes we fall into, and how we can pull each other out. From stories of my own struggles after Iraq to the power of real connection with our fellow vets, I dive into why it's so important to support each other and use our pain as purpose. This Veterans Day, let’s talk about what it really means to be there for each other, in and out of the uniform.…
In this episode, I dive deep into how personal healing fuels real impact. When we face our own challenges, break out of hurtful cycles, and start showing up as our best selves, we don’t just change our own lives—we lift up everyone around us. I’m sharing stories of growth, gratitude, and grit from the past week that prove one thing: When we do good, good things follow. So if you’re ready to become the healed person who helps others heal, tune in now.…
Motivation is a game of habits, hacks, and getting real with yourself. In this episode, I dive into the difference between instrumental and intrinsic motivation, the power of habit stacking, and why small wins build unstoppable momentum. Stop talking about it, start doing it— do the fucking thing .
In this episode, I break down why "No" is all the answer you need. It’s about setting boundaries, cutting the bullshit, and focusing on what moves the needle. Learn how saying no can open doors, empower others, and keep you aligned with your goals. No justifications—just clarity. It’s time to do the fucking thing.…
In this episode, I dive into the importance of rest and how stepping back can unlock next-level productivity. We’re flipping the script on hustle culture—sometimes the most productive thing you can do is nothing. Learn how to shift from "have to" to "get to," clear mental clutter, and set yourself up for success with rest, practice, and performance days. It’s not about doing more—it’s about doing what matters. Do the fucking thing, even if that means resting.…
Tired of getting stuck in the "what ifs"? In this episode, I break down how shifting your language from "if" to "when" creates certainty, lowers anxiety, and gets you moving forward. If this hits home for you, share the episode and leave a review—let’s keep spreading the message and help others take action!…
In this episode, we dive into the trap of tripping over dollars to pick up dimes —letting distractions and small setbacks derail us from our bigger goals. I share real-life examples and practical ways to shift your mindset, focus on the gains, and stop sweating the small stuff. Tune in to learn how to cut through the noise and get back to what really matters!…
In this podcast episode, we’re getting real about a critical part of leveling up: hiring, firing, and promoting the people in your life. Whether it's business or personal relationships, who you keep around matters. I’ll be sharing my Triple S Score – Simplicity, Stimulation, and Satisfaction – to help you assess who’s worth your time, who needs more responsibility, and who you’ve gotta let go. This is about taking control of your environment, cutting out the dead weight, and surrounding yourself with the right people who will push you forward. If you're ready to shift from a fixed mindset to a growth mindset and start making some hard, but necessary, choices – this episode is for you! 👉 Subscribe to the podcast and leave a review if you’re ready to make real changes and create a life that works for you. New episodes drop weekly, so make sure to stay tuned for more actionable advice on life, business, and personal growth!…
In this episode of Experience Andy Weins Live , we’re talking about the power of words and how starting your sentences the right way can transform your life. I break down five key phrases—"I am," "I feel," "I know," "I want," and "I will"—to help you take control and own your future. Plus, I share stories from my CEO retreat and the importance of surrounding yourself with the right people. It’s time to do the fucking thing and tell the world who you are! Don't forget to subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode with a friend who needs to hear it!…
In this episode of Experience Andy Weins Live, we’re shaking things up. Labor Day threw off the usual Meaningful Monday, but we’re not missing a beat—because every day is a chance to make shit happen. Whether it’s Monday, Wednesday, or any day in between, it’s all about showing up with purpose. I dive into how I stay on track with Meaningful Mondays and Future-Focused Fridays, and why your mindset is the real game-changer. We also break down the importance of avoiding energy-draining arguments, learning from real connections, and cutting through the noise of people who try to hold you back. Don’t waste your time on the Chad’s of the world. Stay focused on building meaningful relationships and keep moving forward. Key Takeaways: How to reset your week anytime by making today meaningful. Why Fridays are perfect for planning ahead and staying future-focused. Avoid the traps set by people stuck in a fixed mindset. Build real connections and don’t waste time arguing with people who just don’t get it. No matter what day it is, there’s always a chance to do the fucking thing and show up for yourself. Let’s get into it!…
Welcome back to another episode of Experience Andy Weins Live ! This week, we're getting real about understanding the world around us and sharing some powerful life lessons I've picked up along the way. You know how we do—starting every episode with a moment of gratitude because when you look for gratitude, you find it. And when you express it, you get to relive those moments of joy and connection. In this episode, we cover: The Power of Gratitude: Learn how a simple practice of gratitude can shift your mindset and set the tone for your week. I share a personal story about my brother Tyler, his music, and the creative journey we’re on together, highlighting the importance of being grateful for the people in your life. The Iceberg Analogy for Understanding the Mind: Dive into a discussion on the conscious versus subconscious mind and how the beliefs that run below the surface can either serve you or hold you back. It’s time to bring those hidden assumptions to light! Why Curiosity is Key: I’ll explain why it’s essential to be curious, ask the right questions, and never accept things just because “that’s the way it’s always been done.” We’re talking about breaking the mold and forging your path. Action Over Analysis: One of the biggest lessons I’ve learned is the importance of taking action. Stop overthinking and start doing. Whether it’s in your business, personal life, or relationships, it’s the action that counts. Empowering Yourself and Others: This episode is about empowerment—using your voice, your skills, and your platform to inspire and lift those around you. We’re all about spreading the message of hope and optimism. Key Takeaways from This Episode: Gratitude is Transformative: Start every week by reflecting on what you’re grateful for. It changes how you see the world and sets you up for success. Understand Your Subconscious Mind: Your subconscious drives most of your decisions. Bring those hidden beliefs to the surface and challenge them. Be Relentlessly Curious: Don’t settle for “that’s how it’s always been.” Ask questions, be curious, and challenge the status quo. Take Bold Action: Stop analyzing and start executing. Action is where change happens—don’t wait for the perfect moment; create it. Lead and Empower Others: Use your journey and lessons to empower others. Share your story, inspire change, and always aim to lift those around you. Tune in for a deep dive into these topics and more. If you’re looking to grow, challenge yourself, and understand the world in a whole new way, this episode is for you. Remember, it’s not just about learning—it’s about taking action and making a difference. Hit that subscribe button and leave us a review! I want to hear from you. What are you curious about? What topics do you want me to cover next? And as always, do the fucking thing, tell the fucking world, and show the fuck up!…
Welcome to another episode of "Experience Andy Weins Live!" In this episode, I'm doing things a little differently—I'm standing up! Why? Because I’ve realized that getting too comfortable is the quickest way to kill progress. So, I’m embracing discomfort and standing tall, both literally and figuratively, to deliver a message that’s raw, real, and unapologetic. We dive deep into why stepping out of your comfort zone is crucial for growth and how standing up and showing up as your authentic self can make all the difference. I share a powerful moment of gratitude from a recent speaking gig in Mobile, Alabama, where I was able to connect with an incredible audience and spread my message on leadership and language. Gratitude isn’t just a buzzword—it’s a tool for transformation, and I’ll explain how practicing it can lead to greatness. We also discuss the importance of breaking free from the people and habits that no longer serve you and the power of surrounding yourself with those who lift you up and push you forward. Plus, I dive into my "Language of Leadership" workshop and why empowering the next generation of leaders with the right words can change businesses—and lives. Key Takeaways: Embrace Discomfort for Growth: Find out why getting out of your comfort zone is essential for personal and professional development. Gratitude as a Catalyst for Success: Learn how expressing gratitude can shift your perspective and lead to greater achievements. Authenticity and Transparency: Discover the power of being true to yourself and how it attracts the right people and opportunities. Language Matters: Understand how the words you use can empower yourself and others, transforming your leadership style. Taking Action: It's not enough to decide—learn why you need to follow through and "do the fucking thing." Tune in for an episode that’s all about challenging yourself, growing beyond your limits, and showing up as the best version of you. If you're ready to take the next step in your journey, this is the episode you don't want to miss! Don't forget to subscribe to the podcast, leave a review, and share it with someone who needs to hear this message. Let's keep pushing forward, together!…
Welcome back to Experience Andy Weins Live ! In this episode, we’re diving deep into what it takes to remodel your life—starting with the basics: your mindset, values, and standards. I’m sharing personal stories about turning an old chicken coop into a badass hangout space and how the process mirrors the work we need to do on ourselves. 🎯 Key Takeaways: The roof represents your mindset—get that right first. Your foundation is your values and beliefs—make sure they’re solid. Framing is all about your standards—are they holding you up or dragging you down? The exterior you show to the world matters—are you being authentic or hiding behind a facade? Don’t miss this episode if you’re ready to take control, do the work, and build a life you’re proud of. Remember, it’s your chicken coop—build it how you want, and always show the fuck up! 👉 Subscribe for more straight talk and life lessons every week.…
In this episode of Experience Andy Weins Live , we’re exploring the transformative power of language and how it can reshape your life. Join Andy as he shares personal experiences and practical strategies on the importance of starting sentences with I statements to take ownership of your reality. Highlights: Gratitude Reflection: Andy kicks off with a heartfelt expression of gratitude for the business relationships that have supported him, highlighting the power of networking and community. Podcast Vision: Hear about Andy’s recent podcast experiences and his thoughts on potentially bringing guests onto his show to dive into the simplicity of life. Core Discussion: Learn how using I statements can help you stop blaming others and start taking control of your feelings and actions, with a deep dive into the OODA loop—Observe, Orient, Decide, Act. Personal Insights: Andy discusses why the word “sorry” is a weak excuse and why leading with gratitude and acknowledgment is far more powerful. Life Lessons: Discover how expressing vulnerability can build stronger connections, and why taking ownership of your actions is key to personal growth. Key Takeaways: Start sentences with I to take charge of your reality. Lead with gratitude instead of apologies. Embrace vulnerability to foster stronger relationships. Challenge yourself to show up as your best self every day. Tune in to gain actionable insights and powerful strategies to help you take control of your life. Remember: Do the fucking thing, tell the fucking world, and show the fuck up!…
In this episode of Experience Andy Weins Live, we’re diving deep into the often-confused concepts of agreeing, acknowledging, and accepting. Join Andy as he shares personal stories and powerful insights on how these actions can transform your relationships and reduce conflicts. Highlights: Gratitude Reflection: Andy expresses heartfelt gratitude for his Army buddies and the strong bonds formed through shared experiences. Podcast Journey: Discover Andy’s recent podcast appearances, including "Millionaire Monday Mornings," and his excitement about sharing his message on various platforms. Core Discussion: Understand the critical differences between agreeing, acknowledging, and accepting, and learn how to apply these principles in your daily interactions. Personal Insights: Andy shares a touching story about his mom’s impactful decision to fire a highly productive yet toxic employee, emphasizing the importance of acceptance. Life Lessons: Delve into the poem by Fritz Perls that guides Andy's approach to life and relationships, and learn how acceptance can lead to more harmonious connections. Key Takeaways: Start with gratitude to set a positive tone. Embrace the suck and find long-term rewards in tough moments. Challenge yourself to accept others for who they are and strive for personal growth. Tune in to gain actionable advice and deep insights that will help you navigate conflicts and build stronger relationships. Remember: Do the fucking thing, tell the fucking world, and show the fuck up!…
In Episode 43 of Experience Andy Weins Live, Andy explores the transformative power of the phrase "tell me more" in deepening relationships and fostering meaningful conversations. He shares personal stories and practical tips on how to create a safe space for others to open up, all while expressing gratitude for the unwavering support of his parents. Tune in for insights on improving communication and making data-driven decisions through better questioning techniques.…
Welcome to episode 42 of Experience Andy Weins Live! In this episode, Andy dives deep into the importance of embracing struggles and finding gratitude in everyday life. He starts off by expressing gratitude for his quiet, desolate country surroundings near Milwaukee, where he finds peace during thunderstorms. Andy shares his personal battles, from the constant comparison to others to dealing with the blame-excuse-denial cycle. He emphasizes that struggle is a vital part of life that makes it worth living. By sharing his own vulnerabilities, Andy hopes to connect with listeners who might be facing similar challenges. He also highlights the importance of consistency and persistence, using examples like Joe Rogan and Mr. Beast to illustrate how success doesn’t happen overnight. Andy encourages listeners to reflect on their own lives, identify their internal struggles, and work through them with a proactive mindset. Tune in to hear Andy’s candid thoughts on dealing with doubt, practicing gratitude, and taking ownership of your story. Remember, the key to overcoming struggles is to do the fucking thing, tell the fucking world, and show the fuck up.…
Today, we're diving deep into how movement begets momentum and why the smallest actions can create significant progress. Join me, Andy Weins, as I unpack life hacks, share personal stories, and reveal the power of discipline in our daily routines. In this episode, we start with a moment of gratitude, reflecting on the importance of authenticity and transparency in attracting the right people into our lives. I share a recent personal experience about almost losing my executive assistant and how open, honest conversations helped us find a way to keep working together. We'll revisit life hacks from a previous episode and explore new ones, emphasizing the discipline needed to make them effective. From fasting to setting bedtimes and carrying a water bottle everywhere, I discuss how these simple practices build momentum and lead to greater success. I also touch on the value of participating in other podcasts, sharing insights on fatherhood, growth mindset, and entrepreneurship. Plus, we talk about the importance of self-reflection, regulating our behaviors in real-time, and consistently showing up as our best selves. Tune in for practical tips, motivational battle cries, and a challenge to identify what makes you great. Let’s get moving and create the momentum needed to achieve our goals. Listen now and let’s make this week amazing!…
In this milestone 40th episode of Experience Andy Weins Live, Andy delves deep into the power of gratitude, the strength of family bonds, and the art of embracing vulnerability. Join Andy as he reflects on the incredible success of his brother Isaac's wood art and the inspiration he draws from his brothers' creative pursuits. This episode isn't just about family; it's a call to action. Andy shares the importance of having a personal battle cry—a powerful phrase to help you navigate life's challenges. Learn how simple mantras like "Do the fucking thing" and "Control what's in my hula hoop" can keep you grounded and focused. Andy also opens up about his love for being a podcast guest and invites listeners to suggest podcasts where he can share his insights with new audiences. Whether you need motivation to push through obstacles or a reminder to stay true to your values, this episode is packed with actionable advice and heartfelt stories. Tune in to discover how you can harness the power of words to transform your mindset and achieve your goals. As always, Andy challenges you to get out there, do the fucking thing, and show the world who you are. Don't miss this inspiring episode of Experience Andy Weins Live!…
I wanted to dive into a topic that's been crucial for me as I navigate the ups and downs of life and business: the power of consistency. We're on our ninth episode, kicking off our third month in business – time flies when you're hustling. Life throws curveballs at us. Unexpected challenges, setbacks, and even tragedies like the loss of a loved one. Just this morning, I received a text from Taylor, the producer of this show, about his grandfather's passing. Life doesn't pause for our plans, and how we respond to these curveballs is a true test of character. Consistency is my secret weapon against the chaos. I've learned that when we fail to plan, we end up reacting to everything that comes our way. Instead of responding thoughtfully, we find ourselves at the mercy of the circumstances. And believe me, I've been there. But over time, I've developed a system that helps me stay on track, no matter what life throws at me. Mondays, in my world, are for the mundane. Meetings, the stuff I wouldn't naturally gravitate towards. I used to schedule content creation on Thursdays, but I'd often find excuses not to follow through. So I made a change – now, Mondays are all about content creation. But I don't spend hours on it. I took a cue from Erin Marcus and now do a 15-minute live show, then repurpose that content throughout the week. I structure my week based on what works best for me. Tuesdays, Wednesdays, and Thursdays are grind days for my business. This week, my top priority is training a new operations person. I tackle the challenging and detail-oriented tasks head-on during these days. Fridays are all about the future. I allocate time to work on myself and my business. It wasn't always easy for me to step away, especially on Fridays, but I've seen the benefits. I'm part of a CEO group that meets on Fridays, and it's become a vital space for strategic planning and personal growth. The key is prioritization. I surround myself with smart people who complement my strengths, like Emmy, my virtual assistant, who keeps me on track. Mondays are packed with meetings to set the tone for the week. Accountability is crucial, and paying people to hold me accountable has been a game-changer. Excellence, as Aristotle said, is a habit. What habits are you cultivating to excel in your life and business? I encourage you to do an analysis, embrace the start-stop-continue methodology, and identify the habits that will make you excellent. Your system might be different from mine, and that's fantastic – the goal is to find what works best for you. So, here's your challenge this week: prioritize your time, define your goals, and execute. We all have the same 168 hours in a week. What will you do, day in, day out, to achieve your dreams? Write them down, set SMART goals, and get out there – because, in the end, the goal is simple: do the fucking thing.…
Historically, the words that hold us back often become the center of attention. In order to understand and overcome these limiting beliefs, we need to delve into the transformative power of language. In my book, I talk about "Meeting Your Brain," and today, we're going to explore that concept in detail. I'll also share a quick tip on how you can rephrase your thoughts in real-time to foster more optimism. Numerous studies highlight the profound impact of optimism on our well-being and lives. This lesson stems from my experiences with mass resiliency training in the army. Let's begin by understanding the foundation of this paradigm shift. An event occurs, triggering thoughts, emotions, and reactions. While this process is natural, my work with Dr. Bill Crawford led to a significant alteration in this model. Today, we'll discuss the incredible power that your thoughts wield over your emotions and responses. To ensure we're on the same page, I want to share Dr. Bill's insightful perspective, which I heard during a Vistage meeting last September. He said, "There are only three things you have to do. You have to be born, you have to die, and in between, you have to live." These words resonated with me because they highlighted the crucial difference between "have to" and "get to." Too often, we use phrases like, "They made me do this," or "I have to do that." This victim language can be toxic and hinder our optimism, as it focuses on what we can't control rather than what we can. Now, let's dive into the science behind this. Dr. Bill emphasizes the role of the brain in this process. Picture your brain as having three components: the lower lizard brain, the middle brain, and the upper brain. Your lower brain regulates your body's functions, like heart rate and adrenaline. The middle brain processes information and determines if something is a threat or not, triggering your reactions. Many of us have experienced moments where our adrenaline kicks in, causing us to act out of character or against our values. This is the fight, flight, or freeze response, an instinct that once served us well when we were hunter-gatherers but may no longer be beneficial in the modern world. The goal is to engage your upper brain, your clear, confident, creative brain. By slowing down your response time from the event to your reaction, you can make more intentional choices. To achieve this, you need to tap into your values and beliefs, which are the guiding principles hidden beneath the surface of your consciousness. These values and beliefs help you navigate life's challenges with greater clarity. When faced with a stimulus, you have a choice. You can engage your clear, confident, creative brain, which has more cognitive power, or you can default to the fight, flight, or freeze response. This choice is heavily influenced by the words you use, both before and after a situation. Let's put this into perspective using three key words: abundance vs. scarcity, love vs. hate, and assurance vs. insecurity. Your choice of words significantly impacts your mindset, and it's a choice you make every day when thinking about your past, present, and future. When reflecting on the past, consider the words you use. Did something happen "to" you, making you a victim, or did it happen "for" you, offering an opportunity? For example, getting laid off from my father's company initially felt like a setback. However, I eventually saw it as an opportunity to explore new paths and pursue my passions. In the present, it's essential to reframe your tasks. Instead of saying you "have to" do something, recognize that you "get to" do it. This shift in perspective reminds you of the privileges you have and the opportunities available to you. Looking towards the future, your choice of words shapes your mindset. Anticipating a positive outcome fills you with excitement, while anticipating a negative outcome results in anxiety. The key insight here is that the brain processes both emotions in a similar manner; it's the expectation that differs. In summary, your life is a sum of the choices you make in each moment. Will you approach it with clear, confident, creative decision-making, or will you react with fear-based responses like fight, flight, or freeze? The choice is yours, and it all comes down to the words you use. Your language, comprising 7,000 spoken words and 70,000 thoughts daily, ultimately governs your life. I encourage you to choose optimism, embrace the power of language, and always take action. Remember, the choice is yours, so make it a conscious one.…
Today, I want to dive into the "start, stop, continue" methodology of change, a concept that has been instrumental in my personal and professional growth. It's all about self-awareness, and as my friend and fellow coach Ariel Kopac emphasizes, awareness is the first step. When you become aware of your actions, behaviors, and thought patterns, the next crucial step is deciding what to do with that information. This process has been invaluable to me in formatting workshops and getting the most out of books, which I often use as a foundation for my content. Let's talk about why the "start, stop, continue" method is effective, and I call it the "triple D effect" – Data-Driven Decisions. As humans, we often make decisions and then seek information to support those decisions or compare ourselves to others without having all the facts. This comparison bias can be a stumbling block in our personal and professional growth. In my book, I discuss the OODA loop – Observe, Orient, Decide, and Act – developed during the Korean War for fighter pilots in dogfights. To observe effectively, we must first take a good look at ourselves, examining our behaviors and identifying what serves us and what doesn't. This method is simple but powerful. You can assess all your daily behaviors, activities, and thoughts and categorize them: start, stop, or continue. If something is not serving you, it's time to stop it. If it's beneficial, continue. And don't forget to explore what you want to start doing – the activities you daydream about, the ones that resonate with your true desires. Here's a real-life example: I recently had a conversation with a lawyer who wanted to hire someone early next year. She was overwhelmed by her workload and was preparing herself mentally. I challenged her to create a SMART goal – Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, and Time-bound – and write it down. Having a visual representation of your goal, like a whiteboard, is essential. It's a constant reminder that keeps you on track. Then, categorize your tasks – continue what serves your goal, start new activities that align with it, and stop what you can delegate, teach someone else, automate, or eliminate. This approach isn't just about business; it applies to your life and relationships. Identify who fulfills you and who doesn't, and make the necessary changes. It's about optimizing your actions and your thoughts to become the person you want to be. Now, let's talk about the power of words. Words can inspire or limit you. What words do you use? What thoughts push you forward, and which ones hold you back? Recognize the baggage you carry – the limiting beliefs and self-doubt – and consciously choose to let them go. In my own journey, I spent years running away from my entrepreneurial calling because I convinced myself I wasn't good enough, didn't have the resources, or needed a business partner. It wasn't until I started questioning my own thoughts and actions that I made the change. The key to this methodology is simple – constantly evaluate your actions, words, and thoughts. When you identify what doesn't serve you, make a conscious decision to stop it. The more you do this, the less you'll engage in unproductive behaviors. In my book, I have an "anti-glossary" section that focuses on eliminating words that don't serve us. It's important to recognize that stopping unproductive behaviors is often easier than starting new ones. It doesn't require resources or time – it just takes the willingness to change. The sandwich method can be particularly helpful for those moments when you want to stop something. Instead of feeling guilt or shame, sandwich that decision with starting something new and continuing something positive. Continue to be honest with yourself, show gratitude, and give yourself the grace to grow. So, I challenge you to pick an area of your life that you love and focus on what you'll continue doing. Find another area that's not serving you and make a plan to stop those unproductive behaviors. With the extra time and energy you'll gain, dream, hope, and take action on the things that truly matter. Remember, you have the power to choose how you think and act. Don't compare yourself to others; focus on your unique journey. Let your thoughts, words, and actions align with the person you want to become. It's a journey, and it starts with a simple question: Does this serve me? If the answer is no, it's time to make a change. Start, stop, continue – it's that simple.…
Last week, we discussed the importance of prioritization, and I'd like to revisit a core concept from my book, the idea of "should." We often use the word "should" in our daily lives, like, "I should lose weight" or "I should go to the gym." But let's talk about why you shouldn't "should" yourself, or others for that matter. Instead, let's focus on a new foundation: "could." Imagine you have unlimited resources—time, money, energy. What could you do with them? Let's start with that abundance mindset and then bring it back to reality. What can you do with the resources you have available today? This is where the commitment comes in. It's about turning that pain into passion and defining your purpose. So, what will you do today? It's not just about setting goals; it's about actionable steps. Take losing weight, for example. Instead of saying, "I will lose weight," think about what you will do to achieve it. Maybe it's starting to eat healthier, getting more sleep, or working out regularly. When you focus on the actions, the results take care of themselves. Now, let's dive into the nitty-gritty of practice. There are a few strategies I'd like to share with you, and I'm going to frame them in my three steps to success in life: "do the thing," "tell the world," and "show up." First off, "do the thing." Did you know it takes 21 days to form a habit? And for every day you miss, it takes two days to get back on track. So, you've got to be consistent. For instance, I'm currently working on not drinking coffee within 90 minutes of waking up. I went four days without slipping, but then I forgot on day five and had to start over. It's a process, and it's okay to slip up. Just remember to understand why and find solutions. Next, "tell the world." Did you know that you're 42% more likely to complete a task when you share it with someone else? So, start by telling yourself and write it down. I've got scribbled notes all over my desk, reminding me of my goals and ideas. When you share your goals with someone, you're 78% more likely to achieve them. It holds you accountable, and it's a powerful motivator. Now, "show up." This is where you have to put in the effort consistently. It's about building momentum. You can take different approaches, just like in politics. You can start with small, achievable tasks, or you can tackle the most significant challenge right away. Remember President Trump's approach with North Korea? He went for the big challenge first, and it set the tone for the rest. In business, too, sometimes it's about identifying the one thing that will make the most significant impact and going for it. Lastly, prioritize by doing the thing that scares you the most. Conquer that fear, whether it's reaching out to someone, sending that difficult email, or taking on a challenging task. This sets the tone for the rest of your day and frees up mental space that would otherwise be occupied by fear or doubt. So, to wrap it up, make a 5-minute plan, a 1-day plan, and a 7-day plan. Prioritize your goals and take actionable steps every week. Trust me; you'll be amazed at what you can achieve with consistent effort. Remember, success in life comes down to three simple steps: "do the thing," "tell the world," and "show up." I'm on this journey with you, pushing forward every day, even when it gets scary. So, find what scares you the most and conquer it. Keep taking those steps toward your goals, and don't forget to celebrate your victories with others who support you along the way. Thanks for joining me again this week, and remember, you have the power to make your dreams a reality. So, what will you do today to get closer to your goals? It's all about taking that step. Have a fantastic week, everyone!…
Today, I want to dive into the crucial topic of prioritization because, in life and business, we often find ourselves drowning in busyness. It's something I address in my book, "Words Fucking Matter," highlighting the negative impact of the word "busy" when we fail to prioritize effectively. So, here's the deal. Many of us grapple with paralysis by analysis, the comfort of our routine, and not tackling the essential tasks that lead to our goals. It all boils down to setting those Big, Hairy, Audacious Goals (BHAGs). I'm a big fan of BHAGs. Your goals should scare you; if they don't, they're not big enough. To conquer these dragons, break them down into manageable pieces and prioritize them. I'll open up about my own journey. Back in 2019, I aspired to become a keynote speaker, even had some gigs lined up. Then the pandemic hit, and my focus shifted. I've been involved in various projects like Young Guns, creating LinkedIn content, and now, my priority is sharing the lessons from my book. We need to foster conversations, even disagreements, to better understand the world. So, let's start with lesson one: simplicity leads to consistency. Often, we become overwhelmed with busyness because we try to be all things to all people, all the time, always striving for success. But it's essential to sit down and ask, "What are my priorities?" Mark Twain famously said that the two most important days in your life are the day you're born and the day you figure out why. I recently realized my "why" is to be unapologetically myself, inspiring others to do the same. I found my purpose by transforming pain into passion. Now, let's focus on a practical approach to prioritization. Consider using the "Three P" methodology: find a pain point in your life. Maybe you're unhappy in your job. Then, cultivate a passion for it to discover your purpose. Is your purpose staying in that job or starting something new? Prioritize your happiness and success. Let's also look at "negative comparison" as a strength. Instead of dwelling on what frustrates you, ask what you can learn from it, and decide if it aligns with your purpose. Don't be overly loyal to things that no longer serve you; be selfish and self-serving to prioritize your well-being. A vital aspect of prioritization is mental and physical health. Last year, I struggled with a back injury, affecting my mental focus. This prompted me to prioritize my physical health, dedicating time to the gym and physical therapy, even scheduling it in my calendar. Another useful tool for me is the "start, stop, continue" method. It's a simple way to identify what's not serving you and make changes. I've personally eliminated the word "should" from my vocabulary. Instead, I adopt a "should, could, can, will" approach. It transforms obligations into possibilities, giving us clarity on our path. To keep me on track, I utilize a vision board, breaking down my BHAG into smaller goals. I adhere to SMART goals (Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, Time-bound) to ensure success. A piece of advice – if you're struggling with prioritization, start small. For example, organize your sock drawer or do something simple. It's a great way to build discipline and momentum. In summary, your BHAG might seem daunting, but breaking it down into manageable chunks and simplifying your approach can lead to consistency and success. Remember, prioritization is not about doing everything; it's about doing the right things. It's about making your life count. So, let's embrace these strategies and work towards our goals together. If you want to dive deeper into these concepts, check out my book, "Words Fucking Matter," available on Amazon and my website, www.andyweins.com . And remember, when you prioritize yourself, you become better for others. Thanks for tuning in, and let's keep making our priorities count!…
Now, typically, when we talk about entrepreneurship, it's all about hustling, grinding, and pushing yourself to the limit. It's about going hard, getting things done, and never giving up. My first book, "Hustle, Struggle, Grind: The 13 Lessons of Life," was all about that mindset, and I love it. But over the years, I've realized the importance of self-care. Taking care of yourself is not a sign of weakness; it's a sign of wisdom. When you invest in yourself, you become a better version of you, which benefits not only yourself but also those around you and your team.…
Failure is something I've come to embrace as a fundamental part of life. It's the building block upon which we construct our experiences. Think about it, from the moment we're born, we encounter countless failures. As infants, we stumble and fall, and guess what? We celebrate those little setbacks. It's all part of the process.…
Today I want to dive into a topic that’s been burning on my mind – the power of language and how certain words can either propel us toward success or hold us back. In this blog post, I’m going to take you on a journey through a recent talk I had, where I emphasized the importance of eliminating what I like to call “shit words” from our vocabulary. These words can be real stumbling blocks on the road to reaching our full potential. So, let’s roll up our sleeves and get ready to retrain our brains to use language that serves us.…
In the world of entrepreneurship and personal growth, the concept of a “Minimally Viable Product” (MVP) is starting to gain traction. It’s a term that may sound technical, but its essence is something that most of us can relate to, whether we’re striving to launch a business, improve our relationships, or pursue our dreams. In this episode, we’ll dig into the significance of embracing the MVP mindset and how it can impact your life.…
In this episode, Andy dives deep into the importance of gratitude, family, and the life hacks that keep him at his best. Join Andy as he shares heartfelt stories about his extended family and their unique Christmas in July tradition. Discover the routines and habits Andy swears by, including his approach to intermittent fasting, strategic caffeine consumption, and the critical role of physical fitness in maintaining mental clarity. Andy also discusses his book "Words Fucking Matter," offering insights into his methodologies and the power of feedback from his readers. Learn about the small yet impactful changes Andy has made to improve his daily life, from using pink noise for better sleep to driving quietly for self-reflection. This episode is packed with practical advice on developing processes that create discipline and freedom, helping you live your best life. Tune in for a candid, inspiring conversation that will leave you motivated to embrace gratitude, implement effective habits, and show up fully for yourself and your loved ones. Don’t miss it!…
In this episode, we explore the power of the words we tell ourselves and others, and how they shape our reality. I share a personal story about gratitude and loss, offering practical strategies for navigating emotions and resolving conflicts. Learn how to use the "What is your ideal outcome?" question and "I feel when you" statements to communicate effectively, both in personal and professional relationships. Tune in for actionable insights on leadership, empowerment, and turning emotional reactions into meaningful actions.…
In this episode, I dive into the power of gratitude and the importance of connecting with growth-minded individuals. I share a personal story about reconnecting with an old friend and how social media can foster meaningful real-life relationships. I also discuss the critical concepts of ownership, accountability, and responsibility versus blame, excuse, and denial. Learn how to identify and overcome limiting language and behaviors that hold you back. This episode is packed with insights on leadership, personal growth, and the transformative impact of taking responsibility for your actions. Tune in for practical advice and inspiring stories to help you embrace a growth mindset and live your best life.…
Welcome to episode 36 of Experience Andy Weins Live! In this episode, we're diving into a game-changing mindset: "It's not one day, it's day one." We'll explore how this simple shift can transform how you approach each day and unlock your potential. We'll start with the power of gratitude and how focusing on the good stuff can rewire your brain for positivity. I'll share a heartfelt moment of gratitude from my own life that reminded me of the importance of being present and appreciating the little things. Then, we get into the business side of things. I'll talk about my journey towards building a sustainable speaking career and my big, hairy, audacious goals—like sharing a stage with Jordan Peterson and being on the Joe Rogan podcast. I'll share my own struggles with taking those first crucial steps and how I'm pushing through the fear and doubt. Finally, we'll talk about self-reflection and self-awareness. I'll challenge you to look back at your own journey, identify patterns, and become truly aware of your strengths and areas for growth. Join me as we explore the power of making every day day one, doing the fucking thing, telling the fucking world, and showing the fuck up. Don't miss this episode—it's going to be a game-changer.…
Welcome to another episode of Experience Andy Weins Live! This week, I'm diving into one of my favorite topics—growth mindset versus fixed mindset. But first, I kick off the show with my weekly practice of gratitude, sharing a heartfelt story about reconnecting with friends through volleyball at Bradford Beach. I also share some exciting news about booking one of the biggest speaking gigs of my career, emphasizing the impact I aim to have on various organizations through workshops and keynote speeches. In the main segment, I focus on understanding the differences between a fixed mindset and a growth mindset, inspired by insights from a recent talk by Dr. Eve Meceda at a Vistage CEO round table. I explain how fixed mindset individuals often achieve early success but plateau, while growth mindset individuals continuously strive, learn from failures, and embrace challenges. I encourage you to reflect on your own mindset, reframe your language from "I can't" to "I struggle with," and take actionable steps towards growth. I emphasize the importance of consistency, momentum, and resilience in achieving personal and professional goals.…
In episode 34 of Experience Andy Weins Live, I share my gratitude for the opportunity to speak at Waste Expo 2024 and dive into the powerful difference between "help" and "support." Discover how language can transform your leadership approach and relationships, and hear practical strategies to empower yourself and others. Tune in for inspiring stories, insightful tips, and my mission to change the world one word at a time.…
In this episode, I’m broadcasting from a hotel room in Las Vegas as I gear up for my speaking engagement at the Waste Expo. Despite the travel, the show goes on because consistency is key. We kick things off with moments of gratitude, where I reflect on the incredible support system of fellow CEOs and business leaders who have been pivotal to my growth. Then, I dive into my passion for public speaking and the importance of getting those reps in, even if it means doing pro bono work. The heart of this episode is all about the power of quitting—why sometimes letting go is the best way forward. Inspired by a simple lesson from a Lego bridge and a profound conversation about honesty, I explore how simplifying our actions and language can lead to more fulfilling lives. Tune in as I challenge you to identify one thing that no longer serves you and commit to quitting it for 27 days. Remember, quitting isn't about giving up; it's about making room for what truly matters. Join me for a thought-provoking discussion on leadership, personal growth, and the value of doing less to achieve more. And as always, I leave you with the three steps to success: do the fucking thing, tell the fucking world, and show the fuck up.…
Welcome back to another installment of Experience Andy Weins Live . This weekly session is my chance to delve into a topic that's not only significant in my life right now but also universally relevant. Today, we're exploring the concepts of being a victor, a victim, or a villain through our choice of words when reacting to events around us. But first, let's chat about gratitude. Each week, I focus on gratitude because, honestly, it's something I've always struggled with. This practice ensures that at least once a week, I pause to truly appreciate the people and things in my life. Today, I want to give a shout-out to Aaron from Camo Crew. He's been with us for almost a year, and I've often wondered what he thinks about his job. After asking him, he shared how working here has opened his eyes to the importance of recycling—a concept he'd never considered before. His new perspective is not only changing his life but also influencing his family's habits. This transformation is why I'm grateful for the chance to educate and impact others through our work in recycling. Now, onto my weekly ask—I'm inviting anyone in or visiting the Milwaukee area to join me for lunch . Every day between 11 and 12, I give a quick tour of our warehouse, followed by lunch at the Butler Inn. It's a simple yet fantastic way to connect. Let's grab Lunch! Let's dive into today's main discussion about being a victor, not a victim or a villain. This theme was almost a chapter in my book that I had called Hustle, Struggle, Grind, but it didn’t fit the final cut. However, the essence of choosing your words carefully remained crucial, shaping our final title, Words Fucking Matter . In any challenging situation, the words you choose can dictate whether you emerge as the victor who learns and grows, or fall into the roles of victim or villain who blame and deny reality. Take responsibility—it's a powerful choice. Recently, a team leader blamed others for a messy truck, but upon reflection, he realized he hadn't supervised effectively. This shift from blame to responsibility is what transforms situations and personal outcomes. I’ve faced many setbacks—failed businesses, a divorce, near-dismissal from the army—but like Rocky Balboa says, it’s about getting up one more time than you’re knocked down. That’s what victors do: they see each challenge as a chance to improve and grow. Finally, I had an enlightening experience with my godson this weekend. Despite his struggles at school, spending time working together showed him the value of hard work and personal effort. It was a moment of victory for both of us, highlighting the importance of facing challenges head-on. So, this week, regardless of the situations you find yourself in, look for ways to be the victor. It’s all about the language you use and the choices you make. Remember to take ownership, stay accountable, and be responsible. Do the fucking thing, tell the fucking world, and show the fuck up—consistently. See you next week!…
Welcome back to another episode of Experience Andy Weins Live, where every Monday I dive into what's on my mind and how I'm planning to make the world a better place this week. Today, I want to explore the theme of why it's cruel to be kind, drawing on some principles from Jordan Peterson's 12 Rules for Life , and how language plays a crucial role in shaping our world. First, I want to express my gratitude toward all the hustlers and grinders out there—the people who inspire me daily through their posts on social media platforms like Facebook and LinkedIn. One standout example is Macy Estrada, a former WWE wrestler known as Lacey. Macy and her husband share insights into what it means to be in a partnership, both in life and business, which really resonates with me. In today's discussion, I'll delve into the paradox that being overly kind can actually be a form of cruelty. This insight struck me during one of my monthly CEO roundtable discussions. When we withhold honest feedback to spare someone's feelings, we're not doing them any favors. Instead, we're postponing necessary confrontations and growth opportunities. This weekend, I came across some compelling thoughts from Jordan Peterson about the importance of being precise in our speech—a principle I've centered my book around. Words truly matter. They shape our reality and influence our outcomes, so it’s crucial to choose them wisely. Peterson also highlighted one of his toughest rules: "Tell the truth, or at least don't lie." This rule challenges us to face uncomfortable truths and engage in difficult conversations that we might prefer to avoid. The tendency to avoid conflict for the sake of temporary peace can lead to prolonged turmoil down the line. Drawing from this, I'm reminded of the analogy between bison and cattle when a storm approaches. While cattle run away, prolonging their exposure to the storm, bison charge toward it, minimizing their discomfort. Similarly, we must face life's challenges head-on to reduce long-term strife. This Friday, I have the opportunity to teach interview techniques to middle schoolers. It’s a chance to share practical advice and inspire young minds, emphasizing the value of direct and honest communication. Reflecting on the broader impact of my words and actions, I realize the importance of being truthful and proactive, both in personal and professional contexts. This approach not only fosters real growth but also aligns with my commitment to contribute positively to others' lives without expecting anything in return, a concept championed by Simon Sinek. As I continue to share my journey and learnings through this platform, I challenge you to consider how you can confront your own storms. What truths do you need to face? How can you communicate more effectively to foster genuine progress for yourself and others? Until next week, let's strive to be honest, face challenges boldly, and live authentically. Because it's that simple. When I follow this three step plan, I live the life I want to live. And I will challenge you: Do the fucking thing, Tell the fucking world, and Show the fuck up. We'll see you next week.…
Hey there, welcome to this weeks post. I recorded this episode from the center camera today since the top one decided to bail on us—but hey, that's actually what we're diving into: learning to respond to situations rather than reacting to people or stimuli. Let's unpack that shortly. First off, a little gratitude moment here. I'm feeling really thankful for the weather here in Wisconsin—70 degrees the past few days, can you believe it? In my line of work with junk removal, winters can be brutal, so this warmth is a huge lift. Just this Saturday, fresh from an electronics recycling event, I swung by Dunkin' for a coffee—yeah, I'm a Dunkin' nut—and man, was I in a great mood, mostly thanks to the event and this stellar weather. It's those simple joys, right? Gratitude for these uncontrollable blessings really tones down my itch to control everything else, which in turn creates more scenarios where I'm genuinely content. So today, I'm all about the simplicity and beauty of good weather. Now, down to business: I've got a book out, " Words Fucking Matter ," available on Amazon in all formats. We'll be tapping into some insights from it today as we talk about responding over reacting. We all have our moments of overreaction, part of being human. But it really boils down to our early wiring. Picture this: we've got our 'big brain'—the clear, confident, creative part. Then there's our 'lizard brain,' the one that's all about fight, flight, or freeze. In between, there's a crucial part making the call on how we handle incoming stimuli—do we see it as a threat or an opportunity? This is fundamentally about choice. How do we respond? Do we operate from a place of abundance, love, and assurance, or from scarcity, hate, and insecurity? A lot of this wisdom comes from Dr. Bill Crawford and some military resiliency training I did in the Army. We face events that trigger us, and we get to choose—do we use our frontal lobe, our 'big brain,' or regress to that primal 'lizard brain'? I’ve come to see that reflection is not the last step in understanding ourselves but the first. It allows us to evaluate our reactions to past stimuli and align them more closely with our values and beliefs. Years back, during a particularly rough divorce, I learned the hard way. Initially, I reacted—anything my ex said would set me off. It was a cycle of negativity, costing both money and peace. But I shifted my approach. Instead of reacting, I'd call someone else—often my mom—or just take a moment to assess the truth of the situation calmly. Over time, I didn't need to call anyone. I could just reflect, recognize the inaccuracies in claims made against me, and choose not to engage. It saved me unnecessary stress and confrontation. This approach has not only helped in personal matters but also in running my business. Just last Friday, faced with negative feedback, I reminded myself of the positive impacts we've made—both in our community and within our company. So, here’s what I’m getting at: sometimes, the best response is no response. Not reacting doesn’t mean you're ignoring the issue; it means you're choosing to not fuel someone else’s fire but to nurture your own flames of positivity and productivity. I challenge you all this week to reflect on how you respond to challenges. Do the fucking thing, tell the fucking world, show the fuck up. And I'll catch you next week to see how you've transformed your reactions into responses.…
Another Monday, another great day to be alive! I’m here to share our life experiences, helping us all grow together. So, let’s kick off today with a moment of gratitude before diving into today’s topics, and I'll share a little something about how you can support me today. First up, I’m really thankful for the people who hold me accountable. I’ve been incredibly fortunate to find folks who push and challenge me exactly where I need it. Each week, I come here to share my ideals with the world, and it’s these very people who keep me true to these ideals. Like anyone, I make mistakes, letting fear or that wounded inner child make decisions for me. But having people around who hold me accountable helps me correct my course swiftly. So, a huge thank you to everyone who pushes me toward the direction I aim to go. Now, let’s talk about speaking—something I absolutely love and am pretty good at. Recently, I revisited a list from EOS, the Entrepreneurial Operating System, categorizing things I love and excel at, things I like and am good at, and so on. And, speaking is right there at the top! Whether it’s workshops, keynotes, or other speaking gigs, I relish the chance to stand before an audience and share my ideals. This brings me to my latest endeavor, the "Language of Leadership" workshop that I'll be presenting at the Waste Expo. With around 15,000 attendees, I’m geared up to speak to about 200-300 of you there, discussing how we can overcome limiting beliefs about leadership through better communication. Shifting gears, let’s touch on FOPO—fear of other people's opinions, a concept I just discovered through a blog by Kaitlin Henze. It resonated deeply with me, especially since it ties back to our basic human need to be accepted, a trait rooted in our hunter-gatherer days. Kaitlin discusses how FOPO can limit us by making us overly concerned with others’ thoughts at the expense of listening to our own intuition. This often breeds insecurity and doubt, which can hold us back significantly. Reflecting on this, I recall a pivotal moment in my life about a decade ago. Post-Guantanamo Bay and in the midst of personal turmoil, I came across a Les Brown video that changed my outlook: "People’s opinions of you are none of your business." This mantra has guided me ever since, helping me focus on being unique and contributing my unique qualities to the world. In terms of actionable advice, let’s consider shifting from worrying about what others think to genuinely caring about people. This involves asking insightful, open-ended questions and listening actively to understand their needs—a strategy that not only enhances interpersonal relationships but also fosters personal growth and understanding. So, this week, embrace control over the things you can influence: your responses, your actions, and your mindset. Regulate your energy wisely in interactions, and keep a short list of people whose opinions truly matter—those who genuinely support and understand you. To wrap up, remember to share your aspirations and vulnerabilities with those around you. Let them know what you need and take in the support they offer. By doing so, you’ll build a community that genuinely supports each other’s growth. Thanks for tuning in. Let’s keep pushing forward, stay accountable, and as always, do the fucking thing, tell the fucking world, and show the fuck up. See you next week for more!…
Welcome to episode 28, live from my corner of the world. This week, we're diving deep into the heart of loss and the journey I've been on, turning it into a stepping stone towards where I dream of being. Before anything else, let's settle into our moment of gratitude, a tradition here that's more than just a habit—it's my weekly ritual to anchor in the good amidst life's storms. I want to share my immense gratitude for my daughter this week. Picking her up on Friday and spending an Easter weekend filled with movies, laughter, and just being together has recharged my spirit. For parents out there, you know the sheer magic of witnessing your child grow and learn—it's a relentless source of inspiration, especially on days when finding my purpose feels like searching for a needle in a haystack. Her presence is a vivid reminder of what I'm striving for and what joy awaits. She's taught me more about life than I could ever teach her, making me endlessly thankful for her light in my life, especially now, as I navigate through some rough waters. Let's shift gears to the essence of today's talk—embracing vulnerability. In my journey, both in the military and in life, I've learned that reaching out for help signifies strength, not weakness. Whether it's supporting my book to spread my message or engaging me for speaking gigs, it's all about mutual support and growth. Now, down to business. Running a junk removal company is my day job, and lately, we've been hitting a snag in recruiting employees. But I refuse to buy into the narrative that the next generation lacks the drive to work. Instead, we're focused on moving forward, seeking young individuals in the greater Milwaukee area interested in the recycling industry. It's a call to action for anyone passionate about making a difference while being part of a team that's about more than just junk—it's about community and environmental stewardship. Music always sets the tone for me, and today, my brother's song, "The Thinking Song," resonates deeply with our theme of loss. It speaks to the heart of turning anguish into something constructive, using language to bridge the gap between thought and expression. This got me thinking about reframing our approach to loss—not as something to 'deal with' but something to 'work with.' It's about transforming our perspective from dealing with challenges to collaborating with them to forge a path forward. In writing my book, I challenged myself to rethink the language of loss, particularly the word 'miss.' Dwelling on what's gone can anchor us in the past, preventing us from living fully in the present and envisioning our future. It's about shifting from a mindset of missing to one of creating new memories and opportunities. This philosophy led me to recalling a family event to honor my grandmother's legacy, turning nostalgia into a moment of collective joy and anticipation. The past few months have tested my resilience with the loss of key leaders in my business and facing competition from former employees. It was a moment of truth, pushing me to reevaluate my reactions and choose a path that reflects who I am and who I aspire to be. It reminded me that everything and everyone is replaceable, and it's my responsibility to direct my energy towards growth and renewal. This journey has reinforced the importance of setting and respecting boundaries, in business and in life. It's about creating a space where optimism thrives and where each of us has the power to decide who and what we welcome into our lives. As my grandmother wisely said, "It all works out." It's a testament to the strength found in embracing the present and being open to the endless possibilities that life offers. So, as we wrap up today, I want to express my gratitude to all of you for being part of this journey with me. Your presence and support challenge me to grow and explore the best version of myself. Let's commit to action—do the fucking thing, tell the fucking world, show the fuck up, and we'll see you next week.…
Kicking things off with a big thank you – this time, I'm diving deep into gratitude, sharing a slice of my life, and then we'll pivot to what's hot on my mind today. This weekend, I found myself at a gun raffle up north, a tradition that's been in my life for a solid 30 years. Imagine a gathering brimming with guns, fried chicken, and a sense of camaraderie – that's it. It's these moments, surrounded by family and echoes of my childhood, that I'm immensely thankful for. Spending quality time with my Aunt Nancy recently reminded me of the unique bond I share with my aunts and uncles, a connection cultivated during summers spent at their homes away from the city's hustle. They were more than family; they were mentors, guiding me through the maze of growing up with patience and wisdom. Now, let's shift gears to the business side of things. Experience Andy Weins Live is evolving – we're now venturing into the podcast realm, making our insights and conversations accessible for on-the-go listening. A simple yet effective move, inspired by a nudge from a friend, has broadened our reach, allowing our message to resonate through Spotify, Apple Music, and wherever you love to tune in. Today, I'm itching to talk about accountability, sparked by a casual chat over coffee. Accountability isn't just a fancy word; it's a cornerstone of growth, both personally and professionally. It's about setting expectations for ourselves and allowing those around us to remind us of our path when we stray. It's recognizing that leadership is service, that guiding others often means paving the way for their success before our own. Accountability starts with clarity – knowing who you are and what you dream of. It's about embracing the power of choice, replacing "I have to" with "I choose to," a simple linguistic shift that reframes our perspective, fostering gratitude and driving us toward our goals. It's about recognizing the importance of both instrumental and intrinsic motivation, understanding that our actions today shape our intrinsic values tomorrow. This week, I challenge you to embrace accountability. Define your goals, let those around you in on your vision, and permit them to hold you accountable. Shift your language, focus on the positive, and watch as the dominoes of change begin to fall. Remember, the journey to achieving our dreams is paved with accountability, and it starts with a single step – acknowledging where we are, where we want to be, and what we need to do to get there. So, this week, it's very simple: Accountability starts with you. It begins with defining what your goal is. Be vulnerable. That goal you have should scare you, right? It's better to aim high and miss than to aim low and hit every time. Do something that scares you. Put it out there. I'm 27 episodes into this, and I'm still figuring this out. Here I am, showing up week in and week out. I turn on my camera, hook up the microphone, and stare at the camera here. I turn off the monitor, so I don't see myself. I let myself go. I let you guys into my world. I'm vulnerable, sharing my goals, giving you permission to the point where I'm demanding you hold me accountable. So that I get where I want to go in life. Because I was put on this earth, in this place, to do more than what I'm doing here today. Right now is a good place to be, but it's not where I want to be tomorrow, a week from now, a year from now. I want to be there, and I ask you to hold me accountable. My challenge to you is simple. The opportunity you have is to possess the vulnerability, transparency, and humility to say, "This is where I'm at. This is where I want to be. And these are the things I need to do in my life. This is the language I need to shape. These are the people I need to surround myself with so that I am accountable to my goals, dreams, or aspirations." You have now removed yourself from the avatar, the body, the vessel you are, and now you've made your goal bigger than your ego, your insecurity, your vulnerability. And when you chase that, when you bring people with you, you will hold yourself and others accountable, and they'll hold you accountable. And that my friend is a beautiful thing. Do the fucking thing. Tell the fucking world, show the fuck up, hold yourself and others accountable, and you will eventually live the life you've always wanted to live. Between now and then, I'll see you next week.…
Every week, we take these precious 15 minutes to invest in ourselves, and I'm stoked you're here with me. Let's dive into what's buzzing in my mind this week, but first, a quick moment for gratitude, something I've leaned heavily into lately. I've realized that, over the past weeks, my heart's been drawn towards people when it comes to expressing gratitude. But today, I want to switch gears and shout out to something that always recharges my spirit—live music. There's just something about attending concerts, the raw energy, the unfiltered creativity on stage, that fills me with joy. This weekend, I was lucky enough to soak up some live tunes. Witnessing artists truly in their element, beyond just performing, but being their authentic selves on stage, is a privilege. And it hit me while I was lost in the music of Gaelic Storm at the House of Blues in Chicago, one of my all-time favorite bands. There's a unique connection that live music fosters among us, a shared moment of brilliance that ties strangers together. I'm all in for that kind of magic. In the spirit of keeping you in the loop, let's talk shop for a sec. So, someone pinged me last week, curious about where to find our podcast. Funny thing, we didn't have one... yet. But, guess what? We're making it happen. Starting now, you can catch us in audio form wherever you get your podcasts or at https://andyweins.com/podcast/ . This journey—from a simple idea to 26 episodes in—has pushed me creatively in ways I never imagined, and I'm pumped to have you ride along in this new format. Alright, onto the meat of today's chat. It all sparked from a conversation about personality tests. I'm all about data and insights, so diving into my results as an INTJ was a thrill. It's fascinating how these insights mirror our approaches in life and business. Speaking of business, I've got a golden nugget for you—my three-step methodology: Excite, Inform, and Ask. It's a game-changer in communication, whether you're chatting with customers, your kids, or colleagues. This approach ensures clarity and keeps the ball rolling towards mutual goals. But it's not just about external interactions. This methodology is a powerful tool for introspection and personal growth. Asking ourselves the tough questions, understanding what excites us, and seeking the knowledge we need to advance. It's about being direct, setting clear expectations, and inviting others to join us on our journey, whether in business, personal relationships, or self-improvement. So here's my challenge to you: Apply this Excite, Inform, and Ask approach in your interactions this week. Notice how it changes the dynamics of your conversations and relationships. It's about making every word count and being intentional with our communications. As we wrap up, remember the importance of being authentically you. It's about making space for others to be themselves too. Let's use our unique strengths to uplift and connect with those around us. Here's to doing the fucking thing, making our mark, and showing up fully in every moment. If you want to go fast, go alone but if you want to go far, bring others with you. This week and always, we're going to do the same thing. We're going to do the fucking thing. We're going to tell the fucking world AND we're going to show the fuck up. I'll see you next week.…
Hey everyone, Andy here, and welcome back to another blog post! It's like we're hanging out, just you and me, sharing moments and experiences, thanks to the incredible world of social media. Let's kick off with a quick moment of gratitude. I've had an incredible week, especially with a trip to Punta Cana with my girlfriend. Amazing service, met fantastic people - shoutout to all the drivers, vendors, and tour guides. And then, coming home to celebrate my 40th birthday. The love I felt from everyone, even folks I haven't heard from in ages, was truly heartwarming. It's a reminder of how much we all matter. Practicing gratitude, I believe, opens us up to a more optimistic outlook on life, steering us away from negativity. Now, onto the importance of words. I've stepped into this realm of sharing insights through my book, now embarking on a speaking tour, akin to Dr. Jordan Peterson, a hero of mine. It's about spreading the lessons on overcoming limiting beliefs and harnessing the power of language, especially in leadership. I'm all ears for opportunities to dive deeper into these discussions, whether it be in workshops or Q&As. My journey in thought leadership is just getting more exciting, and I'm eager for every bit of interaction on this path. Recently, I had the profound experience of seeing Dr. Jordan B. Peterson live. What a day, especially with it being my birthday! His wisdom, reflecting on his vast teaching career and deep knowledge, resonated with me on multiple levels. His approach to sharing complex ideas in accessible ways parallels my mission. Peterson's insights, particularly on showing up, taking ownership, and the power of sacrifice, hit home. It's about making those hard choices now for a better future, a philosophy I embody every day. Moreover, Peterson's take on sin, aligning with the idea of missing the mark and the importance of minor adjustments in our journey, mirrors my own beliefs in proactive decision-making and constant improvement. So, here's my challenge to you: reflect on your values, your goals, and what sacrifices you're willing to make to achieve them. Surround yourself with people and ideas that challenge and elevate you. Remember, it's about stopping what doesn't serve you, continuing what does, and starting new habits that lead you to where you want to be. Cause at the end of the day, you are responsible to do the three things that are going to make you amazing every day. Those three things every week are the same. Do the fucking thing, tell the fucking world and show the fuck up. We'll see you next week!…
Hey, it's Andy here, coming at you from the sunny shores of Punta Cana, Dominican Republic. Even though I'm on vacation writing this, I'm still here, doing my thing because, well, discipline. Every week, I'm committed to delivering content that resonates with my world, and this week is no exception. But before we dive deep, let's take a moment for gratitude. Today, I'm reflecting on what allows me to be here, enjoying a break, and a big shoutout goes to the leadership team and crew back at Camo Crew Junk Removal, ensuring everything runs smoothly so I can take this time off. And not to forget our subcontractors like Emmy Thiel at Squared Away and Blake Kraussel at Kraussel Applications, among others. Your dedication is what allows me to live out my vision. I'm all about gratitude; it's a reminder of my fortune and what success looks like. It helps combat negativity bias and foster optimism, something I think we could all use a bit more of. And speaking of things we could use more of, let's talk about the power of words. My book, "Words Fucking Matter," has been out for about nine months now, and the response has been incredible. It's all about the importance of clear, concise communication, especially in leadership. I'm gearing up to share this message with a company in Green Bay soon, focusing on the language of leadership. Today, I want to discuss a concept that's been on my mind: "Mistakes are not made; choices are." Let me paint you a picture. My girlfriend, Carolyn, and I had a bit of a hiccup with our hotel booking here in Punta Cana. Despite a smooth journey, things got tricky at the resort check-in, revealing a mix-up with our room. It wasn't about the mistake of not having our room ready; it was about the choices made that led to this situation. And this incident got me thinking about how we often attribute outcomes to mistakes when, in reality, they're the result of choices we've made. This realization applies to all areas of life. Whether it's health, work, or personal goals, it's not about the mistakes we think we make but about the choices leading to those outcomes. Acknowledging our choices helps us understand our paths better and guides us toward more deliberate decision-making. Let's dive deeper into this with a concept I use: Redneck Logic, Hillbilly Math, and Kentucky Windage. These quirky terms encapsulate a practical approach to problem-solving and decision-making. It's about finding solutions from different angles (Redneck Logic), using data to guide decisions (Hillbilly Math), and making small adjustments to hit our targets (Kentucky Windage). So, as you go about your week, I challenge you to consider the choices you're making. Are they aligned with your goals? Are your words and actions fostering a positive mindset? It's all about making decisions that lead you to your desired outcomes. Remember, life is a series of choices. Embrace them, learn from them, and use them to live your best life. I'll be back next week, ready to share more insights. Until then, you're going to go out. You're going to do the fucking thing. You're going to tell the fucking world. And every time you go anywhere and everywhere, you're going to show the fuck up. Catch you next week! Andy…
Hey folks, Andy here, coming at you with another slice of life. This isn’t just any blog post; it’s my opportunity to share, to stir the pot, and hopefully, to make us all think a little differently about the world we’re navigating together. Your feedback is the fuel that keeps this machine running, so let’s dive into this week’s adventure together, shall we? First things first, I’ve got to start with a massive shoutout of gratitude. This week, I’m feeling particularly thankful for the people who have played a pivotal role in elevating me, especially from a media perspective. From Taylor, our rockstar producer at both "Experience Andy Weins Live" and the "Trash Talk Business Podcast," to Chris Grow and his team at "Third Eye Local" who spearhead our marketing efforts for Camo Crew, and Josiah, our new videographer who’s already making his mark with some stellar content around the office. It’s crucial to recognize the value of those who help amplify our voices, and I’m all about giving credit where it’s due. I’m also reflecting on the essence of gratitude and its power to transform. It’s not just about acknowledging help; it’s about understanding the symbiosis in these relationships. It’s a reminder to each of us to find those willing to amplify our messages, to challenge us, and to collaborate towards a greater good. The journey with people like Amelia and her team at "Pithy Wordsmithery," who've been instrumental in my book writing process, illustrates the magic that happens when creative minds unite. Now, let’s shift gears to a topic close to my heart: the devil within the details. This weekly dive into our lexicon isn’t just a hobby; it’s a cornerstone of the workshops I conduct, aiming to peel back the layers of our daily communication and reveal the power underneath. Whether you’re a realtor, a loan officer, or just someone looking to refine your message, the goal remains the same—to foster environments where words are wielded with intention and insight. This week, I found myself pondering the notion of small yet significant changes within our businesses and personal lives. It was a lunch conversation with Michael Creed that sparked this reflection, focusing on how minor adjustments can pivot the entire course of our ventures. For me, it’s about the shift from passive to active engagement—moving from "if" to "when" in our dialogues. This change, though seemingly small, is monumental in its ability to alter outcomes and engagement dynamics. Diving deeper, I’ve been contemplating the concept of loyalty and its role in our lives. Drawing from personal experiences, including a challenging time in the military, I’ve come to view loyalty as a potentially flawed premise. It’s not about blind allegiance but rather the pursuit of mutual benefit and growth. This realization has profoundly influenced my approach to relationships, both personal and professional, urging a focus on the present value over historical ties. Lastly, let’s talk about the nuances of language and its impact on our perception. From everyday interactions to the narratives spun by mainstream media, the precision of our words—or lack thereof—can significantly shape our understanding of the world. It’s about listening closely, questioning inconsistencies, and striving for clarity in our communications. Whether dissecting a casual conversation or analyzing a news broadcast, the goal is to cultivate an awareness that empowers us to navigate the complexities of human interaction with discernment and integrity. As we wrap up this week’s journey, I invite you to join me in embracing these reflections as tools for personal and collective growth. It’s about doing the work, sharing our discoveries, and showing up fully in every moment. Until next time, let’s continue to challenge ourselves and each other, forging paths that lead to understanding, connection, and ultimately, transformation. See you next week, where even from a vacation hideaway, the quest for insight and impact continues.…
We're diving into the power of "I" statements and how shifting your language from passive to active can truly transform your life from being a victim of circumstances to being the victor of your own story. I'm also taking a moment to express my gratitude. Just yesterday, at the NARI Home & Garden show in Milwaukee, I had this awesome encounter that reminded me why I do what I do. I met someone who's been inspired by my book and my work to take control of their life. That's the kind of connection that fuels me. It's about making that human connection, even when we're out there hustling in our businesses. Now, let's get to the heart of today's topic: the power of "I" statements. It's about owning your feelings and actions, rather than placing blame or giving away your power. For instance, flipping the script from "You make me feel..." to "I feel..." empowers you to take control of your reactions and emotions. It's also about challenging the narratives we tell ourselves. Like, instead of saying "They made me feel..." it's about recognizing that no one else controls your feelings but you. It's a game-changer in taking responsibility for your own emotional state and reactions. I've had my own moments of realization through this practice. It's about digging deeper into why we feel a certain way and addressing it at its root. This kind of introspection can lead to more meaningful connections and resolutions in our relationships. Moreover, shifting from "I think" to "I know" can profoundly impact how confidently we speak and act. It's about moving from uncertainty to certainty, from passive to active engagement with the world around us. I've also embraced the power of transitioning from limiting beliefs to empowering actions through statements like "I used to..." followed by "and now..." This shift allows us to acknowledge past behaviors while actively moving towards better outcomes. And finally, it's crucial to embrace "I am" statements, fully owning who you are and your journey. It's about being present and accountable for your actions and beliefs, without hiding behind excuses or past conditioning. As we wrap up, remember the limiting nature of saying "I can't," "I won't," or "I don't." Instead, recognize the power of your words and the spell they cast over your life. Embrace the change, choose your path, and use your language to empower your existence. In conclusion, the way you speak about yourself and to yourself matters immensely. It's about owning your narrative, taking control of your story, and showing the world who you are and who you aspire to be. Until next time, do the fucking thing, tell the fucking world and show the fuck up.…
Today, we're diving deep into the essence of my book and the profound impact it has had on shaping my life. But before we delve into that, let's take a moment to embrace gratitude because, trust me, it's a game-changer. Gratitude sets the stage for positivity and fuels our journey towards greater heights. So, let's give a big shoutout to my buddy, Chris Kolenda at Strategic Leaders Academy. Chris consistently delivers insightful articles that leave me with valuable takeaways every Monday. Two years ago, Chris took me under his wing as a coach, and I'm endlessly grateful for his guidance. I also want to express my appreciation to Mervyn Byrd from Vistage, Pat Miller from The Idea Collective, and Brad Herda from Focal Point Coaching. These remarkable individuals have played pivotal roles in my journey. They helped me realize that despite once considering myself unemployable, unmanageable, and uncoachable, I am, in fact, coachable—a quality I now cherish and seek in others. Now, let's talk about gratitude, the three-step process that Chris recently shared. First, acknowledge the specific people and their impactful actions. For instance, I vividly remember Mervyn urging me to step up my game as a business owner—a wake-up call I desperately needed. Second, appreciate how these experiences have transformed you. For me, embracing coachability has been a game-changer. And finally, anticipate more opportunities to express gratitude. Shifting gears, let's specifically address why words matter. As I embarked on my writing journey, my attention to precise language became apparent. Influenced by thought leaders like Jordan Peterson and books like "The Four Agreements," I recognized the power of articulate speech. In a world where truth is often obscured, clear and honest communication is paramount. I recently had an enlightening discussion with Sara from The Adulting Coach. She challenged me to reframe my perspective on writing a blog. Instead of viewing it as an obligation, look at it as an opportunity—an empowering shift in mindset. You see, every word we choose shapes our reality. It's like solving a math equation; one wrong move can lead to an entirely different outcome. Consider this: When we empower ourselves with positive language, we set ourselves up for success. Take the CEO who reframed his CFO's report from a negative ("we missed our goal by 2%") to a positive ("we achieved 98% of our goal"). It's a subtle yet profound shift that fosters a culture of positivity and growth. Tackling that remaining two percent next quarter? Doable. But it's not just about external communication; it's also about how we speak to ourselves. I've learned firsthand the importance of eliminating self-limiting beliefs and embracing a mindset of possibility. When we start from a place of positivity, we open ourselves up to a world of opportunities. So, here's my challenge to you: Pay attention to the words you use, both internally and externally. Do they align with the future you envision? If not, it's time to make a change—one word at a time. Because when you harness the power of language, you unlock boundless potential. Alright, folks, that's all for today. Remember, words matter, so choose them wisely. As always; do the fucking thing, tell the fucking world and show up. I'll see you next week!…
You know, it’s funny how inspiration strikes sometimes. Just the other day, I was jamming out to my brother’s latest track, and there’s this line at the end that really got me thinking: “watching and listening, grinning all the while.” So, it feels fitting that today, we’re going to take a moment to really listen. First things first, let’s start with a little gratitude. Gratitude is like a magic potion that floods us with positive energy. I’ve found that starting meetings with a positive note, both personally and professionally, sets the tone for success. Even in my own relationships, focusing on the good stuff has been a game-changer. This week, I’m particularly grateful for the opportunity to host a VIP dinner for some of our select clients at Camo Crew Junk Removal. Over the years, we’ve had the privilege of serving over 6,000 clients, and each project has been a stepping stone in my entrepreneurial journey. Now, let’s get into the meat of today’s episode: effective listening. It’s easy to get caught up in how we communicate, but being a good listener is just as important. One key lesson I’ve learned is to understand the goal of the conversation. Sometimes, people just need to vent, and other times, they’re seeking solutions. Clarifying the purpose upfront can save a lot of misunderstandings down the road. I picked up this gem of wisdom about 20 years ago at a friend’s wedding, believe it or not. They talked about the triangle effect in relationships, where both parties grow closer as they align their goals. It’s a simple concept but so powerful in resolving conflicts and fostering understanding. Next up, we have the art of asking open-ended questions. Instead of leading someone towards a specific answer, let them explore their thoughts freely. It’s amazing what insights you can uncover with a well-placed “why” or “tell me more about that.” And let’s not forget the importance of regulating our emotions in real-time. Trust me, I’ve been there, ready to charge into battle at the drop of a hat. But taking a moment to step back and refocus on the end goal can make all the difference in steering conversations towards productive outcomes. Lastly, let’s keep it simple, folks. Complexity has a knack for muddying the waters. Stick to the basics, allow for moments of silence, and remember to tailor your approach to the one you’re talking to. What works with one person might not resonate with another, so stay flexible and adaptable. As we wrap up today’s post, I leave you with three simple yet powerful reminders: Do the fucking thing, tell the fucking world, and always show the fuck up. Thanks for reading, and I’ll catch you all next week!…
Today we’re going to talk about the importance of waiting but before we do, let’s talk gratitude. This week, I’ve got a shoutout for Lynn Corazzi, also known as the data magician here in Milwaukee. This guy’s a wizard when it comes to deciphering data and uncovering insights. Plus, he’s the brains behind Corporate Casual , a fantastic networking group in our city. Speaking of connections, recently Lynn asked me to step in as a speaker for an event, and man, did we have a blast! It’s moments like these that remind me why I love what I do – sharing ideas, making connections, and sparking conversations that matter. Alright, let’s get down to business. Today, I want to chat about waiting. In the military, we’ve got a saying: “hurry up and wait.” And it got me thinking – maybe there’s more to waiting than meets the eye. Cue Chuck Norris with his two speeds: wait and kill. But seriously, a few weeks ago, during a counseling session, I had a revelation. I realized that in many of my conversations, I was too focused on being heard or proving myself right, instead of truly understanding the other person’s perspective. That’s where the acronym WAIT comes in handy – Why Am I Talking? It’s a simple trick, but it’s helped me pause and reflect before speaking. And it’s not just about waiting – it’s about thinking too. My girlfriend shared this gem with me recently: before you speak, run it through the THINK test. Is it True, Helpful, Inspiring, Necessary, and Kind? These five questions have been a game-changer for me. But here’s the kicker – not every conversation is the same. Are you consulting, convincing, or converting? Each requires a different approach. Whether you’re sharing information, persuading someone to change, or trying to shift their beliefs, understanding the purpose of the conversation is key. And hey, don’t forget to consider what the other person needs. Are they venting and seeking validation, or are they looking for solutions? Sometimes, just being a good listener can make all the difference. So here’s my challenge to you: take a closer look at your recent conversations. Did you wait, think, and understand the why behind your words? And most importantly, what was the outcome? Self-reflection is the first step to self-awareness, and ultimately, better communication. So go ahead, tackle those tough conversations with confidence. And remember, whether you’re consulting, convincing, or converting, the power of waiting and thinking can’t be overstated. Thanks for tuning in, folks. Until next time, keep doing the work. Do the fucking thing! Tell the fucking world! Show the fuck up and we’ll see you next week!…
Before we get into it, let’s kick things off with a dose of gratitude. It’s become a ritual for me to start each post by reflecting on what I’m thankful for. It’s not just a personal exercise; I also make it a point to share my gratitude with others. This week, I want to express my thanks for my siblings. Spending time with them over the weekend for my brother’s birthday reminded me of the unique perspectives they bring to the world. Each of my siblings has their own way of navigating life, and I find inspiration in witnessing how they approach opportunities and challenges. It’s a valuable lesson for me, and I’m grateful for the insight. Now, let’s dive into the main topic—negativity. It’s something I discuss in my book and the “anti-glossary” of unproductive words. Statements like “I can’t,” “I won’t,” and “I don’t” are non-starters. They don’t contribute to achieving the results we desire. I often hear people articulate their goals clearly, but when it comes to the actionable steps, negativity creeps in. Let’s take losing weight as an example. Many articulate their desire to shed pounds and lead a healthier life. However, when it comes to the specific actions required, excuses like “I won’t stop eating that” or “I can’t work out at that time” start popping up. The shift from positive goals to negative actions is a common hurdle. The same pattern emerges in people’s values and beliefs. They declare themselves as loyal individuals, but their actions may contradict that loyalty. Negative language, filled with excuses, is used to rationalize misaligned behaviors. Observing influential figures like Elon Musk reveals a stark contrast. When faced with challenges, Musk doesn’t dance around the issues. His actions align with his values, and he doesn’t shy away from making tough decisions, even if it means letting go of employees or losing money. The lesson here is clear—actions speak louder than words. In our personal lives, it’s essential to align our actions with our goals, values, and beliefs. Peeling back the layers of negative language reveals the discrepancies between what we say and what we do. The key is to focus on what we can control, set realistic goals, and commit to small, achievable steps. My challenge to you this week is to be mindful of your language. When you catch yourself saying “I can’t,” “I won’t,” or “I don’t,” take a moment to assess what you are avoiding. Either delegate, automate, or eliminate tasks that hinder your progress. Start small, as Jordan Peterson suggests—maybe begin by organizing your sock drawer. Remember, positive momentum begins with positive language. Focus on what you can do, what you will do, and celebrate your achievements. It’s all part of my three steps for success—do the fucking thing, tell the fucking world, and show the fuck up.…
Before we dive into why ‘busy is bullshit,’ let’s explore a bit more about the lesson from my book, Words Fucking Matter. This week’s highlight and moment of gratitude go to Sergeant First Class Davis, a fellow army veteran, who recently picked up 10 copies of the book for a book club with army reserve soldiers. I’m truly grateful for the support I receive from those who resonate with my content. As I’ve been networking more, people often approach me saying they read my blog or watch my videos and find inspiration. I always ask what they’ve taken away from it. Just like Sergeant First Class Davis, many connect with the lesson about productivity. In the army, we’re always busy, but it’s essential to differentiate between being busy and being productive. Here’s a fundamental truth: 90% of people are consumers, 9% are contributors, and only 1% are creators. As a creator, I appreciate those of you who actively engage and contribute. It’s a reminder that not everyone interacts, and that’s okay. Busy, as I emphasize, is a state of being, not an action. Society tends to glorify busyness, but it’s crucial to evaluate the results of our actions. This is one of the core lessons from my book—the “anti glossary,” you may say, of a list of words that don’t serve us. The one I want to focus on today is “busy.” Busy is bullshit. It’s non-quantifiable and often leads to a narrow, tunnel-vision perspective. I use the analogy of working out because, like our bodies, we need to care for our time and energy. Being busy without being productive is a trap. To break free, you can delegate, automate, or eliminate tasks that don’t contribute to your goals. It’s not about time management but time prioritization, rather. We all have the same amount of time; it’s about making the most of it. You can’t manage time, it keeps on going, however you can prioritize what you do during certain times of the day I used to spend hours creating content, now as it pertains to this show I spend 15 minutes a week. By delegating, automating, and eliminating, I’ve become more productive. The key is intentional rest and reset—taking time to relax, exercise, or pursue activities that bring joy. In the army, we prioritize four functions: eat, sleep, shit, shower. These are productive, necessary activities. I challenge you to do a two-week time study, identify unproductive busyness, and reclaim that time. When you master eliminating unproductive words and habits, you’ll notice others using them. Use it as an opportunity to ask questions and understand what they truly mean by being busy. Life is simple; figure out when you’re being busy and take steps to be truly productive. So, as always, remember my battle cry: Do the fucking thing, tell the fucking world, and show the fuck up. See you next week!…
It’s 2024! Today, let’s dive into the essence of the new year and how you can make it your best by embracing who you are. A recent encounter at a gala got me thinking. A woman I met there remembered my workshop speech about the importance of words. When I asked her what stuck with her, she said, “Anxiety is a choice.” Intrigued? Dive deeper by checking out my book, Words Fucking Matter . Before we go further, a huge shout-out to the incredible team at Camo Crew Junk Removal. These guys work hard day in and day out, making it possible for me to pursue my dreams. Thank you, team! Now, let’s talk about you. You’re amazing just as you are. In a world that sometimes tries to fit us into predefined boxes, remember there’s only one you among 8 billion people. Embrace your strengths because, believe me, they’re unique. Society might want to mold you, but resist the urge to conform. Reflecting on my own journey, I’ve been shaped and molded by various influences, but about 10 years ago, during master resiliency training, I discovered the power of self-awareness. I realized I was both the problem and the solution to my challenges. Understanding my values, beliefs, and the people I surrounded myself with gave me control. So, here’s a challenge for you: recognize your strengths. In my case, ADD and PTSD are not weaknesses but superhero strengths. I’ve learned to use routine to my advantage, appreciate the predictability it brings, and empathize with others dealing with mental health challenges. Life is about embracing who you are without apologies. There’s power in self-awareness and the ability to regulate in real-time. Take assessments, read books, watch videos – invest in understanding yourself. And never, ever apologize for being you. Mark Twain nailed it when he said, “The two most important days of your life are the day you were born and the day you figure out why.” For me, my why is to be unapologetically myself, inspiring others to do the same. Life is simple – do the fucking thing, tell the fucking world, and show the fuck up. See you next week!…
This week, I want to dive into the concept of emulating our ideals and how the things we surround ourselves with shape who we are. Let's talk about what has molded me into the person I am today. First and foremost, gratitude. I mentioned it last week, and it's a topic I'll keep coming back to because it's something I'm working on making a habit. A big shout-out of gratitude to my girlfriend, Carolyn. We've been through three years and some change, with a break in between, but we're back stronger than ever. She's been a constant force, pushing me to be conscious of my actions and ideals, and I'm extremely grateful for her influence on my life. Now, let's talk about the power of words. I've emphasized this before, and it's a core theme in my book, "Words Fucking Matter." It's available on Amazon in various formats, and if you reach out to me on my website I can hook you up with a bulk order at a reduced price. The idea is simple – words have the power to shape our thoughts and actions, and I use my book as a business card to share my perspective with the world. Reflecting on how I got here today, I want to touch on the concept that nothing is truly original. I was inspired by the book "Steal Like An Artist," which advocates embracing influence, remixing ideas, and discovering your own path. I've applied this approach to my own life, drawing inspiration from successful individuals and learning from their journeys. Looking back, I realize that my early life experiences – growing up in a two-parent household, spending summers on a farm, attending Catholic grade school, and later transitioning to public high school – all played a role in shaping who I am. After high school, I entered the workforce, surrounded myself with diverse influences at places like UPS, Best Buy, and Marco's Pizza. It wasn't until I joined the army and underwent master resiliency training in 2014 that I truly grasped the extent of control, or rather, regulation, I had over myself. I learned that I am a product of what I allow into my life. My brother Tyler has a song that highlights the idea that we have control over the 10,000 doors we open out and the one door we open and allow influences in. Speaking of influences, let's talk about the power of choice in what we allow into our lives. I've adopted a "start, stop, continue" methodology for change. I stay away from certain social media platforms and news channels because I recognize how they can influence me in ways I don't want. It's crucial to be intentional about what we expose ourselves to. One of my favorite quotes by Aristotle – whether he said it or not – is, "We are what we repeatedly do. Therefore, excellence is not an act but a habit." I've found this to be true in my own life, from physical habits like fasting and going to the gym to mental habits like taking time to think and reflect during my morning commute. I want to emphasize the importance of choosing our influences wisely. Elon Musk is someone I admire for his unapologetic stance on freedom of speech. In a recent incident, he boldly stated that he doesn't need or want advertisers' money if it compromises his freedom of speech. It's a powerful reminder to prioritize our values over external pressures. I've experienced the impact of external opinions firsthand during a challenging period in my military career. Facing unfounded accusations, I let others define my worth until I stumbled upon a life-changing video by Les Brown. He reminded me that people's opinions of me are none of my business. This revelation empowered me to focus on my own journey and not be swayed by external judgments. In conclusion, I challenge you to assess the influences in your life. Identify the "never" people – those who will never understand or support you – and stop listening to their negativity. Continue leaning into the supportive voices that always uplift you. And start seeking out influences that sometimes resonate with you, gradually building a network of positive inputs. Remember, you have the power to shape your ideals, emulate the influences that inspire you, and ultimately, show up authentically in the world. Until next week, stay true to yourselves.…
Today, we're delving into a topic that we often struggle through – overcoming those pesky self-limiting beliefs and facing challenges head-on as we make our way through life. But before we dive in, a quick reminder that my book, " Words Fucking Matter ," is available on Amazon. If you've snagged a copy, I'd love to hear your thoughts. Drop a review, shoot me an email, give me a call, or shoot me a text – I'm all ears. Challenge me if you disagree with something; let's spark up a conversation. Now, let's take a moment to express gratitude, a practice I've been incorporating into my routine. It's a powerful tool to combat that innate negative bias we carry around. This week, I want to give a shoutout to my parents – my unwavering supporters throughout my life. Even at nearly 40, our daily conversations continue to be a source of mutual support. Being able to reciprocate that support as they navigate aging is truly a gift. Now, onto our main topic – facing it while you make it. You've probably heard the phrase "fake it till you make it," but let's scratch the surface a bit. Gary Vee once rightly dismissed the idea of facing it till you make it, and I resonate with that. My take? Face it while you make it. Embrace the struggle, the grind, and the discomfort of the climb. This philosophy ties directly into my book, so let's take a moment to jump into "Words Fucking Matter." One chapter title that resonates with this topic is "Show Up Naked." In that chapter I talk about a fable I read growing up that I've always remembered. This Cherokee fable tells of two wolves inside us – one driven by love, the other by fear. The grandson asks the grandfather, "Which one wins?" The answer: "The one you feed." This simple yet profound wisdom holds the key to overcoming negative beliefs. In my book, I guide readers through a process to address limiting beliefs. Acknowledge them, question their validity, challenge them, and ultimately change your mindset. For example, let's tackle the issue of financial struggles. I've been there, too. Acknowledge the belief – "I never make responsible money choices." Question it – what does responsible money choices mean to you? Challenge it – dig deep to identify the root cause, perhaps a lack of budgeting. Then, change it – transform "I never make responsible money choices" into "I used to prioritize spending, and now I will save 10 percent of my income, so that I have more financial independence." This transformation from victim to victor statement is a powerful shift in mindset. It's not about dismissing challenges but acknowledging them, setting SMART goals, and defining a desired end state. Your pain points can be the fuel that propels you towards your purpose. So, here's your homework – identify a limiting self-belief, dig into its root cause, and define the desired result. This process becomes your battle cry, ready to combat those excuses we all make. Remember, the three steps to success – do the fucking thing, tell the fucking world, and show up. It all starts with the words you use and the beliefs you hold. Face it while you make it, and we'll catch up next week. Until then, keep pushing forward.…
We're unlocking the nitty-gritty of planning the work and working the plan today. Before we dive in, a quick shout-out to my book, " Words Fucking Matter ," available on Amazon in hardcover, softcover, ebook, and audio book formats. Now, as I was gearing up for this episode, I found myself revisiting my own book. It's funny how the words I penned still serve as a well of inspiration for me. I've stitched together a culmination of experiences and insights that have guided me through life. And a key principle I've held onto, echoing back from my early military days, is this: plan the work, work the plan. In the military, we used to say that no plan survives first contact. It's a reality check that unexpected challenges will arise. But having a solid plan, complete with contingency measures, is far better than navigating the chaos without one. And that's where the power of language comes in – it leads the variable, setting the stage for proactive responses. In my daily routine, honed over the years, I've integrated habits that position me for success. Starting with the morning, I wake up at 6:15 to a pre-heated house, setting the tone for a motivated day. A consistent routine helps me seamlessly transition from bed to work mode in just 10 minutes. But here's the kicker – I don't touch coffee for the first 90 minutes of my day. Decaf in the morning has become my secret weapon against the notorious afternoon crash. I don't touch it until 8am. Intermittent fasting until noon is another tool in my arsenal, providing a disciplined approach to hunger and focus. Throughout the workday, I stay on top of things with scheduled check-ins and a daily 4:30 PM meeting to review the next day's schedule. And yes, my meticulously planned calendar may seem overwhelming to some, but to me, it's a roadmap to high productivity. Evenings are about balance. Leaving my laptop at work prevents the intrusion of work into my personal space. I've transformed potential bad habits into good ones, opting for volleyball, gym sessions, and documentaries for relaxation. The bedtime routine is non-negotiable, with a gentle reminder at 11 PM to hit the hay for my essential seven hours of sleep. And if I need to catch up on work, Saturday mornings offer a quiet, focused time. Now, I challenge you. Reflect on your best days. What worked? What didn't? Identify habits that no longer serve you and replace them with positive alternatives. Small changes in the right direction can lead to significant improvements. Share your routines with me; let's learn and grow together. Shoot me an email at aweins@greenupsolutions.org or connect on LinkedIn. Appreciate you joining me – find your routine, and as always, do the fucking thing, tell the fucking world, and show the fuck up!…
This week, I'm talking about facing your fears. We've chatted about goals, laid out plans, but here's the real deal: in life, at some point, we've got to tackle our fears head-on. So, today on the show, I'm laying bare one of my own fears, live, and delving into what it's like confronting fears daily and the positivity it can bring. Consistency has been my mantra this year – mastering the mundane, especially on Mondays. This is the day I tackle tasks I'd otherwise procrastinate on – content creation, meetings, and confronting the things I'd rather avoid later in the week. Earlier, my awesome producer Taylor, the producer behind the Trash Talk Business Podcast, pitched an idea for the week: a poem. Instantly, fear and anxiety hit me. Reading? Not my forte. Dyslexia made my school years challenging, and even now, reading someone else's work without adding my own twist feels foreign. Add in my struggle with reading aloud, and you've got a real challenge. But here's the thing – facing fears is my jam. Today, I'm reading a poem Taylor shared – "If" by Rudyard Kipling . Fun fact: he wrote The Jungle Book, later Disney-fied. Here we go: If you can keep your head when all about you Are losing theirs and blaming it on you, If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you, But make allowance for their doubting too; If you can wait and not be tired by waiting, Or being lied about, don’t deal in lies, Or being hated, don’t give way to hating, And yet don’t look too good, nor talk too wise: If you can dream—and not make dreams your master; If you can think—and not make thoughts your aim; If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster And treat those two impostors just the same; If you can bear to hear the truth you’ve spoken Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools, Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken, And stoop and build ’em up with worn-out tools: If you can make one heap of all your winnings And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss, And lose, and start again at your beginnings And never breathe a word about your loss; If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew To serve your turn long after they are gone, And so hold on when there is nothing in you Except the Will which says to them: ‘Hold on!’ If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue, Or walk with Kings—nor lose the common touch, If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you, If all men count with you, but none too much; If you can fill the unforgiving minute With sixty seconds’ worth of distance run, Yours is the Earth and everything that’s in it, And—which is more—you’ll be a Man, my son! After reading this, I want to nitpick at words like 'if' and 'just' and 'but,' but the bigger picture here is the duality of life. Dreams are great, but they shouldn't rule us. Thinking is essential, but aimless pondering won't move the needle. The struggle is real, and it's in facing it that we grow. Let me share a personal story: I was at a retreat recently and attended a team-building exercise with a moon and strings. I fixated on the strings, missing the moon – the ultimate goal. This poem echoes that lesson – focus on the big picture. My challenge for you this week? Identify your fear, write it down, share it with someone. Trust me, writing increases your likelihood of doing it by 42%, and sharing it with someone bumps it up to 78%. I bare my journey weekly not out of arrogance but to remind myself – and you – that we're on this journey together. So, what's holding you back? What's your fear? Write it down, share it, and let's conquer it together. The three steps of life are simple: Do the fucking thing, tell the fucking world, and show the fuck up.…
I've got something on my mind that I can't wait to share with you this week. We're diving into the world of preacher, teacher, leader – a trio that's important, especially when it comes to tackling those pesky limiting self-beliefs. This concept was one of the first things I pondered before penning my initial foray into the world of writing, "Hustle, Struggle, Grind: The 13 Lessons of Life." Now, if you know me, you're aware that I tend to break things down into threes. Sales, interactions, you name it – I see it in threes. Take, for instance, the "sometimes/always/never people". There are those who'll always be with you, always follow your lead, and always lend an ear. Then there are the "sometimes" folks, those who'll occasionally jump on board. And of course, there's the "never" crowd – those who just won't get you. And that's perfectly okay. Here's the kicker: a lot of folks out there spend a ton of energy trying to win over the "never" group. But what about the "always" crew? Or even the "sometimes" crowd? Are we giving them the attention they deserve? It's a lesson I picked up along the way, and it's more relevant than ever. Now, let's talk about the power of three. I see it everywhere in my life, and there's science behind it. Sure, our system is based on the power of tens, and the Romans had their thing with twelves. But for me, it's all about the magic of threes. It's a framework that just clicks. I once did a speech – 90 ideas in 90 minutes, nine speakers, 10 ideas each. But here's the twist: 10 is a handful. So, I broke it down to three ideas, three words each, with a final word: "do." Because, let's face it, hard work is usually the answer. Alright, let's shift gears to the main act: preacher, teacher, leader. Or maybe it's preacher, leader, teacher– yeah, that sounds better. You don't have to officially wear any of those hats to embody their essence. If they're praying, you're preaching; if they're learning, you're teaching; if they're following you, you're leading. Now, let me drop a truth bomb – titles are just fancy fluff. They can inflate egos and stifle great ideas. I've run across this quote recently, "Don't confuse your education with my intelligence." Having a fancy degree or title doesn't automatically make you the smartest person in the room. In fact, it might even limit the information you take in. Take it from me; I once convinced myself I needed a college degree to own a business. But when I finally got it, I realized I didn't need it at all. Sometimes, we're our own worst enemy when it comes to self-limiting beliefs. Leadership, on the other hand, isn't about having all the answers; it's about asking the right questions. The best leaders listen to the folks on the front lines, the boots on the ground. In teaching, the power lies in sharing unadulterated information, being a consult, not a convincer. But here's the thing – many teachers fall into the trap of convincing or leading when they should be unbiased sources of information. It's a challenge we face in our society. We tend to box people into predefined roles based on titles, missing out on valuable insights. So, where does language fit into all this? Let's talk about preachers. They aim to convert, to change your values and beliefs. Politicians and media often do the same, subtly molding your worldview. It's crucial to reflect: Are we, in our advice and recommendations, pushing others to adopt our values and beliefs? Are we really listening or just trying to change someone's perspective? Leaders, on the other hand, are all about convincing. Persuasion is their game. Are you leading by convincing people to change their actions, or are you merely discussing ideals? Are you open to challenges, or are you inadvertently pushing your solutions onto others? Now, teachers – they provide unbiased information. Yet, the lines blur when teachers start convincing or leading instead of simply presenting facts. Education is not the same as intelligence. I've had my fair share of run-ins with institutions rigidly sticking to titles and degrees, missing the essence of real education. So, here's the challenge for you this week: reassess your relationships with information. What serves you, and what doesn't? Who's preaching or leading you in ways you didn't sign up for? Are you consuming information that challenges you and helps you grow? It's time for a little "start, stop, continue." Stop what's not serving you, continue with what does, and then ask yourself, what do you want to start doing? Remember, life is a simple three-step process: Do the thing, tell the world, and show up. It's a mantra that's served me well, and I hope it does the same for you. So, go out there, challenge those beliefs, and embrace the power of three.…
Let's dive into a topic that's close to my heart – finding your forum. We're all creators, each with our unique voice and perspective, and it's crucial to discover the platform that lets us express ourselves authentically to the world. For years, I struggled with the belief that I wasn't creative, that I didn't have that artistic bone in my body. I'd look at my sister, the interior designer, my youngest brother with his woodworking prowess, and my middle brother, Tyler, a musician featured in the opening song to my live show. I convinced myself that creativity wasn't my domain, that my skill lay in logistics and problem-solving. But deep down, there was a part of me that contradicted this narrative. I had penned a poem in high school that I was proud of, speaking about my love for nature and growing up in the woods. As I ventured into my twenties, I discovered a knack for public speaking, even though it terrified me initially. Networking and business events showed me that I had a unique perspective and a depth of knowledge worth sharing. So, why not me? The pain of watching others on stage fueled my passion to define my purpose. This journey led me to TEDx talks, keynotes, virtual engagements, workshops, and now a weekly live show where I explore and express my creative ideas. And here's the thing: finding your forum isn't about following someone else's footsteps; it's about paving your own path. It's about challenging yourself to put your unique perspective out into the world. I've often been told that not everyone can stand in front of a microphone and start talking, but I thrive on the unpredictability, the joy of starting a conversation without knowing where it'll lead. I'm not asking you to follow my path; I'm challenging you to create your own. Take your unique mindset and find your creative outlook. It's time to break away from the habit of doing things on the side, hidden away from judgment. My challenge to you is simple: get out there, sing your song, and let the world be the judge. The only person you need to impress is yourself. I'm reminded of a saying my dad shared with me before a keynote presentation: "In the end, people will judge you anyway. So don't live your life impressing others, live your life impressing yourself." That wisdom set the tone for my talk, acknowledging my nervousness and embracing the power of positive thinking. Reflecting on my family, I see artists and creators in each of them. My mom took up stained glass as a hobby and turned it into a passion she now shares with others. The key is being willing to put your creativity out there, to cut outside the lines, and to share your creations with the world. So, what's stopping you? What's your hidden talent or ability that the world needs? These questions aren't rhetorical; they're a call to action. Transform the pain of comparison into passion, define your purpose, and find that creative outlet you've been keeping to yourself. The world is full of creators, and you're one of them. Every day, you have the choice to consume, contribute, or create. The more you put into this world, the more you get out. Give first, give of yourself, and discover the creator within. Forget the labels; we're all creators in our own ways. As I've delved into my own creative journey, I've discovered other creatives, like my brother with his music. Despite our differences, we've both transformed our pain into expression, using our chosen mediums to share our stories. We've taken what life handed us and turned it into something meaningful. My brother's song, "The Thinking Song," resonates with me, particularly the lines about using language to express thoughts, chasing memories of the past, and embracing the present to shape the future. We may have different creative outlets, but our roots are the same. Don't be held back by what you can't, won't, or don't do. Focus on what you can do. Reframe your thoughts, be intentional with your time, and create new stories and ideas with others. Remember, the past is set in stone, but the present is yours to mold for future uses. So, let me leave you with this challenge: answer these three questions – How can you be creative today? How can you contribute to others' creativity? What do you consume, and how does it drive your creative outlet? Once you have your answers, get out there, find your creative outlet, and share it with the world. Remember my three steps for a successful life: Do the thing, tell the world, and show up.…
Benvenuto su Player FM!
Player FM ricerca sul web podcast di alta qualità che tu possa goderti adesso. È la migliore app di podcast e funziona su Android, iPhone e web. Registrati per sincronizzare le iscrizioni su tutti i tuoi dispositivi.