Ep. 14: Confrontation vs. Carefrontation | Effective Conflict Resolution

Get Real or Die Trying with Amadon DellErba

In this podcast, Amadon DellErba discusses confrontation vs. carefrontation and effective methods of conflict resolution through deep, meaningful communication. To be a righteous man or woman, we must have the courage and vulnerability to confront others, and be grateful when we receive correction.

"Righteousness strikes the harmony chords of truth, and the melody vibrates throughout the cosmos, even to the recognition of the Infinite."
~ The URANTIA Book

If we want to grow spiritually, we need others to confront us. We need those elders and teachers to hold us accountable for when we don’t live up to our principles and ideals. Material successful people use this technique of surrounding themselves with people who know more than them, pointing out their flaws and weaknesses. Amadon correlates this to having a physical trainer or coach who gives you feedback on your body and how we can use the same technique to promote our spiritual health and well-being.

In our modern, politically correct society, no one wants to offend other people. Most want to maintain shallow, surface-deep levels of fakeness. They don’t want to get real and meet problems face to face, toe to toe. People don’t want to be confronted and they don’t want to confront others. They would rather say “I’m okay, you’re okay.”

Conflict resolution is not just about resolving the outer conflict, but the conflict within your heart and mind. You have to be willing to be uncomfortable. The more you embrace conflict and deal with it, the less inner conflict you will have. Make yourself approachable to others. Ask people to confront you and give you feedback.