21: Franco Lombardi | Learning Pickup Takes Discipline, Part 1

Girls Chase Podcast

Have you ever tried a technique or maybe hit a sticking point in your dating life, then wonder why whatever you’re doing didn’t work? If so, this podcast will help. Discipline is more of a mindset approach to dating as opposed to having an uncontrolled environment. The idea behind discipline is threefold: • There are things I know that work; I want to continue to use those things • I need to stop doing things that don’t work for my dating methods • I also need to create systems that test what I’m not sure about Since this is a hefty subject, I’ve broken up the podcast into two segments: In Part 1: • Introduction to Franco and discipline (00:45) • Why Franco believes discipline is important, and the mindset of discipline (01:32) • Discipline as compared to a scientific method and an equation (03:00) • Controlled versus tested variables (03:52) • Varoon’s example of how a single variable changed the outcome of his date (04:07) • Varoon discusses how he confused the cause of his failure on the date (05:22) • Franco discusses how he isolated the variable that changed on Varoon’s date (06:26) • Varoon shares a story from another date where he changed many variables (08:30) • Why it’s important to turn your dates into a scientific experiment (09:50) • Franco’s equation comparison and why it’s important to keep variables to just one (10:25) • How the equation and variable system relates to dating (11:40) • Why changing just one date variable is critical to learning and creating a working method (12:32) • How to understand all the different variables at play, and how the most successful men are all highly disciplined (13:27) • Reducing variables solves equations quicker and makes the dating process much easier (15:28) • Varoon shares how isolating variables helped him figure out a sticking point in texting (15:55) • Nothing is ever 100% or absolute with women (how a method works differently for different people) (17:18) • Varoon shares a more difficult sticking point and how he sorted through several variables to create a solution (19:00) • Some variables are more difficult to identify than others (21:50) I’d also like to introduce a new segment called “Chats with Chase,” where I invite Chase to discuss anything reader related on the podcast. This time, Chase covers how to decide when to remove components from your dating method. • Introduction to “Chats with Chase” (22:55) • How Chase knows when it’s time to chuck a strategy into the waste bin, and why there are so many variances in results (23:05) • First reason to throw something out – when you don’t need something anymore (24:54) • Second reason to throw something out – when something repeatedly doesn’t work (and why to try something twenty times before discarding it) (27:17) • Third reason to throw something out – when it produces reactions, not results (Chase cites public makeouts as an example, and how he started testing out not making out in public) (28:16) • Final reason to throw something out – when it just doesn’t fit your personality (and how Chase threw out some cheesy sex banter that didn’t work well) (30:25) Next time, in Part 2 of my discussion with Franco, we’ll discuss: • How to experiment with discipline by solving variables and demonstrating what works • How to use discipline in dating methods if you’re a virgin or a beginner • How to use discipline more effectively to get better and get laid if you’re already getting results • Setting correct expectations for the successes you desire • Pacing reality with known and unknown variables • Typical pitfall points in how guys screw up discipline • Why thinking long term is critical to your dating success Listen online: http://www.girlschase.com/content/franco-lombardi-learning-pickup-takes-discipline-podcast LEARN SOMETHING GOOD? SUBSCRIBE AND REVIEW! If you enjoy the podcast, please subscribe in iTunes and leave a review. This helps us reach more ears, and casts your vote for “Yes! Make more episodes!”