Dear Clementine: "I'm worried I might be a creep"

Untethered...with Clementine Ford

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"Dear Clementine,
I’m cis male and have been second guessing my interactions with others. I notice I find it easier to socialise with women, and while I have some strong and satisfying male friendships, the vast majority of my new friendships are with women. Throughout my PhD I’ve also had the opportunity to start managing volunteers, and similarly find it easier working with women. To sum it up I’d say I’m just more interested in spending time with women. I’m really worried these might be warning signs that I’m becoming a creep. Or is it simply that women ARE easier to get along with? While I obviously find other women attractive, I am very content in my current long term, monogamous, heterosexual relationship.
Your advice will be much appreciated!"
Can men and women truly be friends without societal judgments getting in the way? Today I'm challenging long-held perceptions and stereotypes surrounding cross-gender friendships and highlighting the constraints of traditional gender roles that have historically boxed men into roles of protectors and women as emotional caregivers. Drawing insights from feminist philosopher Marilyn Frye, we unpack how patriarchal dynamics shape male friendships and often prioritize male approval over genuine connections with women.
This episode invites listeners to rethink the outdated norms of masculinity and recognize the profound value in forming authentic, respectful relationships with women. What are the implications for both men and women's interpersonal connections when stereotypes about WHY we form friendships with each persist? This is a call to approach all relationships with empathy and understanding, challenging the patriarchal structures that limit our perceptions. Listen in as I advocate for a more humanized view, encouraging men to appreciate these relationships not only for personal growth but as a larger responsibility to dismantle the harmful norms of patriarchy.

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Capitoli

1. Men's Friendships and Socialization Towards Women (00:00:00)

2. Men's Relationships With Women and Patriarchy (00:10:40)

3. The Responsibility in Male-Female Relationships (00:18:50)