How Do I Make Sure My Kids Know I Like Them?

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There is a difference between loving your kids and liking them. Both are important! Most kids believe they are loved by their parents. But, do they think they’re liked? Sometimes they test our patience. Dads manage meltdowns, muddy sneakers, and more. We may not like some of the things they do, but they need to know we like them as people. Ted Lowe, Bobby Lewis, and Buck Buchanan discuss how to love your kids, but how to show them you like them, too.

Try these three ways with your kids:

1. Tell them with your words.

Frequently tell your kid, “I like you.” Nobody wants to feel like an obligation. Saying “I like you” to your kid communicates that you accept them, they are enough, and they are not alone. Don’t shy away from telling them you like them in front of others

2. Tell them with your face.

Experts agree that 70–90 percent of communication is nonverbal. What are you communicating with your face and your body language when your kid walks into the room? Do you smile at them when you first see them in the morning, when you reconnect at the end of the day, and before going to bed? When they speak, do you put down your phone and listen? Your presence and attention scream, “I really like you.”

3. Tell them with your time.

As Buck put it, “How do you spell love? T-I-M-E.” Yes, it’s a cliché. But, it’s also true. Spending time with your kid taps into what we all know: People like to spend time with people they like.

Bottom line: Kids never feel more loved than when they feel liked.

Today’s Pro Move: Smile at your kids and tell them you like them.

Other resources

3 Ways to Make Sure Your Kids Know You Love and Like Them

5 Ways To Love Your Tees When You Don’t Like Them

4 Things About Your Child That You Need To Know

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