Everybody Can't Go Convo w/Jas Abraham "Boundaries! Teach People How to Treat You" Ep.17

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Summary: In this conversation, Jessi interviews Jas Abraham, also known as The Boundaries Coach, about the importance of setting boundaries in our lives. Jas shares her personal journey of discovering boundaries as a calling and transitioning it into a business. They discuss the misconceptions about boundaries and how they are not about control but rather about saying yes to ourselves. They also explore the negative effects of not setting boundaries and the importance of setting boundaries with ourselves and others. The conversation concludes with practical tips on starting to implement boundaries and saying no to protect our capacity. In this conversation, Jas Abraham, the boundaries coach, and Jessi discuss the importance of setting boundaries and prioritizing in order to create a healthy and fulfilling life. They emphasize the need to surround yourself with people who genuinely care about your well-being and support your goals. They also highlight the importance of prioritizing facts over feelings when making decisions and saying no when necessary. Additionally, they provide resources for personal growth and discuss how to deal with boundary violations and reintroduce boundaries in relationships. They conclude by emphasizing the responsibility of teaching people how to treat you.
Takeaways
- Boundaries are not about control but about saying yes to ourselves and protecting our capacity.
- Not setting boundaries can lead to resentment, unmet expectations, and feeling taken advantage of.
- Setting boundaries with ourselves is important for self-care and honoring our capacity.
- Setting boundaries with others involves saying no and teaching people how to treat us.
- Saying no is not mean, but a way to prioritize ourselves and our goals. Set boundaries and prioritize to create a healthy and fulfilling life.
- Surround yourself with people who genuinely care about your well-being and support your goals.
- Prioritize facts over feelings when making decisions.
- Learn to say no when necessary.
- Seek resources for personal growth and development.
- Deal with boundary violations by having necessary conversations and, if needed, cutting off toxic relationships.
- Reintroduce boundaries in relationships by testing and observing actions.
- Focus on prioritization rather than balance.
- Teach people how to treat you by communicating your boundaries and expectations.
Chapters
00:00 Introduction and Background
01:10 Discovering Boundaries as a Calling
05:00 Understanding Boundaries
06:47 Misconceptions about Boundaries
08:13 Boundaries as Self-Care
10:50 Negative Effects of Not Setting Boundaries
12:18 Setting Boundaries with Yourself
14:54 Setting Boundaries with Others
22:02 Setting Healthy Boundaries with Yourself
25:17 Saying No and Honoring Your Capacity
28:17 Setting Boundaries and Prioritizing
30:04 The Importance of People Who Care
32:11 Facts Over Feelings
33:36 Writing the Vision and Saying No
36:12 Resources for Personal Growth
37:12 Dealing with Boundary Violations
42:49 Reintroducing Boundaries
45:11 Prioritization Over Balance
49:47 Teaching People How to Treat You