150. How to Answer Uncomfortable Questions

The Language Alchemy Podcast

“Remember, you are safe. And when you remember that, that’s when you connect your choice to answer or not answer the question,” says Alejandra Siroka, as she guides us through addressing uncomfortable questions, a common challenge in communication—in this milestone episode of the Language Alchemy Podcast. Alejandra defines uncomfortable questions as those that cause discomfort due to their personal, intrusive, or judgmental nature. She categorizes these questions into four groups: those that feel too personal, those from close relations that carry judgment, socially biased questions, and everyday questions that may trigger discomfort based on the recipient’s current state.

Alejandra emphasizes the importance of recognizing that you always have a choice in whether to answer these uncomfortable questions. She advises listeners to first ensure they feel safe and grounded before deciding how to respond. She offers practical strategies: acknowledging the question without answering it, responding with another question to understand the asker’s intent, or providing a sincere answer that reflects one’s true feelings and circumstances. Through these methods, Alejandra aims to empower listeners to respond to uncomfortable questions with authenticity, confidence, clarity, and compassion.

As Alejandra celebrates three years of dedication to providing listeners with tools for conscious communication—enhancing personal growth and relationships—and the podcast’s 150th episode, she invites listeners to join her in marking this milestone with a free, one-hour online party on August 23rd. Join Alejandra as she celebrates this achievement, offering attendees the chance to win various giveaways, including one-on-one coaching sessions and spots in her exclusive programs. To sign up, go to: languagealchemy.com/podcastparty

Quotes

• “When you receive these questions, remember that you have a choice. Yes, you have the choice to answer or not answer these questions. You’re an adult, and you get to decide. It’s important to remind yourself of this in the moment, especially when you feel uncomfortable, cornered, or pressured. Check your surroundings—why? Because you’re safe. The question may feel uncomfortable and elicit a sense of insecurity, but it will not harm you.” (09:12 | Alejandra Siroka)
• “Remember, you are safe. And when you remember that, that’s when you connect your choice to answer or not answer the question. Now, how do you know if you want to answer the question or not? To know whether you want to give a response or none at all, the most important thing you can do is to connect yourself and tune into what you are feeling.” (10:08 | Alejandra Siroka)
• “Something else you can do when you receive questions that feel uncomfortable is to give a sincere answer. To do this, you need to know the kind of relationship you have and want to have with the person asking the question. You also need to be aware of your internal state—your feelings, your emotions. Be mindful of your intention for answering the question and, finally, the context in which this interaction is happening. Being aware of all these factors is crucial; otherwise, your answer may be reactive, defensive, habitual, or unconscious—in other words, unhelpful.” (14:28 | Alejandra Siroka)

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