E14: Agreeing With Everything Doesn't Make You A Doormat

When Does It Get Good?

“Accepting is acknowledging and being with the truth of a situation,” says Zovig Garboushian as she delves into the transformative concept of Radical Acceptance. Inspired by Tara Brach’s book “Radical Acceptance,” Zovig discusses the damaging effects of the inner critic and the habit of self-judgment. She shares personal experiences from yoga classes and daily life to illustrate how saying “yes” can help counteract judgment and foster acceptance. She also explains how shifting from resistance to openness can alleviate stress and lead to more conscious decision-making.

Quotes

• “I remember years ago, in my 20s, a really amazing therapist said to me, ‘Zovig, it seems like you object to your own feelings, like whatever you’re feeling isn’t allowed.’ So, I can criticize outwardly and then I can criticize myself for being critical. It seemed to him that the way I was reacting to my own feelings was that I should be feeling something else. And so, if we don’t allow ourselves to feel this, as Tara Brach calls it, grouchiness and moodiness, if we don’t allow ourselves those things and say yes to them, then we stuff them down. As I’m sure you know, that could cause them to leak out and, in some cases, explode at very inopportune moments. Saying yes is a way to accept what’s happening and then allow myself to make a choice about it.” (09:15 | Zovig Garboushian)
• “When you take the judgment out of the experience, you can relate to the experience differently. Because when we’re judging something, we’re not looking at a situation clearly. We’re not able to make conscious choices about what, if anything, we would want to do for ourselves.” (12:05 | Zovig Garboushian)
• “Accepting is acknowledging and being with the truth of a situation.” (13:23 | Zovig Garboushian)

Links

Connect with Zovig Garboushian:

Website: www.boldnessablazecoaching.com

Radical Acceptance Book: https://www.thriftbooks.com/w/radical-acceptance-embracing-your-life-with-the-heart-of-a-buddha_tara-brach/246265/item/5660315/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=pmax_high_vol_scarce_under_%2410&utm_adgroup=&utm_term=&utm_content=&gad_source=1&gclid=CjwKCAjw2Je1BhAgEiwAp3KY74nU6oKvww9u-7jVzNgKesRQRMEgRpn3ug01HpCju_jXpI7GCp7KwxoCvw4QAvD_BwE#idiq=5660315&edition=3394663

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