So it's really happening. Your husband was sitting with you and suddenly asked for a divorce. "I really think we should separate. It's not working for me anymore." The papers have been filed, he moved out, and you're here with the kids.Wow! You got blindsided, all right. What now?Getting a divorce is like getting tossed into an emotional blender. All at the same time, you're feeling angry, betrayed, sad, depressed, anxious, helpless, and a whole bunch of other things. Listen to Dear Aunt Sus ...
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You HAVE to listen to this episode! I got to interview Rosalia Labate, who is not only a CDFA (Certified Divorce Financial Advisor), but also a forensic accountant! Listen in to learn just exactly what that means, and how she can help you in a sticky divorce. Here's her contact info: Rosalia Labate 1225 Franklin Avenue Suite 325 Garden City, New Yo…
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How many times have you made New Year's resolutions and never followed through with them? If you're divorcing or going through other big life changes, new goals are going to be a big part of your life for a while. Listen to this episode to learn how to set reasonable goals, and then achieve them!Di Susan Petang
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Holidays can be a bee's nest of conflict, chaos, anger, and irritation. Listen to this episode to get a better grip on the real importance of holidays - whether it's Christmas, Easter, Kwanzaa, Passover, Fourth of July, or Halloween!Di Susan Petang
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When I started working with divorcing women, I didn't realize that there is a huge shift happening in the world of matrimonial law - and Paige Zandri, with her firm Artese Zandri, is one of the pioneers. The focus of Paige and her team is to support and nurture clients during the process, with not only access to needed experts, but also making sure…
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Getting a divorce is a highly emotional process, so frequently we don't think about practical issues that can have a devastating impact on our finances! In this episode, I was privileged to speak with Stacy Francis, founder of SavvyLadies.org and CEO of Francis Financial. Listen to Stacy tell you about hidden income and wealth, how to make sure you…
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Listen in to learn some best practices for handling your ex, and how to create some new holiday traditions - no matter what the holiday! Here's a link to my blog page: https://www.thequietzonecoaching.com/blogDi Susan Petang
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Have you ever heard the saying, "It takes a village to raise a child"? It takes a team to survive getting divorced! Listen to this episode to learn more about building your team, and the resources you might need. Here are the links I promised in the episode: Mini-course - "How to Get Through Tough Days in One Piece" Get it here: https://ravitrose.c…
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Can't tell you how many times I've been asked, "How can I every trust another person ever again?" Marriage is the most potent attachment a human can experience - and if we don't heal from the loss of that attachment, it will color your relationships for the rest of your life. In this episode, we'll talk about how to start (and continue!) that heali…
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When we're getting divorced, those super intense emotions cause us to do things that we might not ordinarily do. Last time we talked about taking the high road; this week we're going to learn how to interrupt those emotional spirals and decide if what you're planning to do is a good idea... or not. Susan Petang is a Certified Life Coach specializin…
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During a divorce, all kinds of super intense emotions might pop up. We may start feeling rage, vindictiveness, or intense despair that might cause us to do things we wouldn't normally do. So when we're in the throes of it, how can we rein ourselves in? Listen to this episode for not only why it's important to get back control, but how to do it! Sus…
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It's so tempting to run out and buy a Magic 8 Ball or hire a psychic, isn't it? Sometimes it's impossible to know how to behave, especially when our emotions have been chucked into a blender! Listen to this episode to learn some great tools to make sure that you're heading in the right direction!Di Susan Petang
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One of the biggest stressors I've heard women talk about is the unreasonable demands they can face from others. How can you set limits on other people without being a b*tch? How can you keep your cool, but still let others know they can't get away with taking advantage of you? Listen to this episode to find out!…
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How is being a "doormat" going to affect your divorce - and how can you avoid getting steamrollered and start advocating for yourself? In this episode, Aunt Susan will give you the real definition of a doormat, where it really comes from, and how to stop it - so you can start standing up for yourself!…
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Do you WANT a relationship, or do you NEED one? Listen to this episode to learn how to stop feeling lonely, and start being happy - so you can attract a better caliber of partner!Di Susan Petang
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Getting a divorce is like getting hurled into an emotional blender. Before we can start dating again, we need to heal so we don't make the same mistakes again! Listen to this episode to hit the reset button.Di Susan Petang
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Laura met an awesome guy named Bill. He held the door for her, treated her like a queen, was kind to her family, and even put his dirty clothes into the hamper. Amazing, right? WRONG. They were divorced within 2 years. Listen to this episode so you can avoid the mistake they made!Di Susan Petang
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So you've been dating this guy and you're getting weird vibes. Is he a keeper or not? You need to listen to this episode so you can avoid another relationship disaster!Di Susan Petang
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Why is it important to fake it 'til you make it? What does that have to do with dating? Listen to this episode to find out!Di Susan Petang
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What does mindfulness have to do with romance? How does it affect our search for the perfect guy? Listen to this episode to find out!Di Susan Petang
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You know the kind. They seem so nice at first! Then the rot sets in. How do we avoid these losers before they sink their hooks in us? Listen to this episode to find out!Di Susan Petang
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Divorce is a highly emotional process. If your ego has been bashed and your emotions put in the blender, it will be hard to create a new, healthy relationship until you process the experience. Listen to thi8s episode to learn how!Di Susan Petang
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It's easier said than done, isn't it? Our relationships are so emotionally charged! We question our self worth when they fail. How can we heal? Listen to this episode to find out!Di Susan Petang
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You didn't know you have a target on your back, did you? What is it that the losers, jerks, and psychic vampires look for, and how can we avoid them?Di Susan Petang
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Mantras aren't always for religious or spiritual purposes. We can create life mantras to help us learn how to process the hurt from past relationships (and the divorce!), as well as build self-confidence. Listen to this episode to learn how they can help you, and some handy ones you can start using right now! If you want to learn more about dating …
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Love chameleons are so afraid of losing their partner, they'll do almost anything to please them - including things they normally wouldn't do. Are YOU a love chameleon? Are you sabotaging your relationships? Listen to this podcast to see if you are, and what to do about it!Di Susan Petang
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Welcome to "No More Losers: Dating After Divorce"! I'm your host, Susan Petang, from The Quiet Zone Coaching. You may remember me from my "Dear Aunt Susan" podcast. I'm back for a season of advice on dating after divorce. We'll talk about healing from your past relationships, how to show your best side to potential partners, and what you have to do…
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You all know how I rant and rave about positivity, mindfulness, and gratitude to manage stress and get through difficult times. But how do we handle grief? It stinks! In this episode I'll give some actionable tips for managing the grief that surrounds not just the loss of people or pets, but places and experiences, too.…
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There are two sides to everything. Sometimes even more! What do we do when our side doesn't agree with their side? What do we say when our mother-in-law criticizes every. Single. Thing. We. Do. And. Say? Listen to this episode for tips on setting boundaries and limits, and ways to keep from getting frustrated when other people do stuff they just sh…
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OK, so maybe you don't love your toenail fungus. But you learned some things because you had it - that you're really strong to handle discomfort, that you're smart enough to know to go to the doctor, and that you'll never get toenail tips again! Seriously, though, learning to appreciate what we have and not take things for granted is what's going t…
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Welcome to another episode of Dear Aunt Susan, Advice on Being Human. In this episode, we're going to learn about mindfulness - staying in this moment, right now, to cope with the challenges of life!Di Susan Petang
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We all have a dialogue running in our heads, constantly. What is yours saying to you? Do you kiss your mother with that mouth? Seriously, though, how do you speak to yourself? In this episode, we'll talk about self talk, cognitive distortions, and what you can say to yourself instead of what you already are (which will make you more self confident)…
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Values, Purpose, and now Spirituality - it's a three-legged stool that gives us the foundation for our attitudes, beliefs, and behaviors. So why is it so important to have a spiritual belief system? What if you're an atheist? What's the difference between spiritual and religious? In this episode, Aunt Susan helps guide you through it all, and helps…
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So many of us struggle with our purpose! It's important to have at least some idea of why we're here, and what we're meant to do in this lifetime. It colors the way we think, act, and believe, and dictates the paths we follow and the decisions we make. Our purpose can change as we get older and the circumstances we live in change, too! So how do we…
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Why is it important to create a list of values? And which ones are the most important? In this episode, Aunt Susan talks about values, why they're important, and what you can use them for! I teach my clients the life skills their parents never did - the important ones, like dealing with stress ,frustration, other people's drama, and the general BS …
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Were you wondering about meditation but aren’t sure what it’s all about? Maybe you’ve tried it and can’t sit still long enough! In this episode, Aunt Susan gives you the reasons why it’s a good idea to meditate, and some easy hacks to make it doable. I teach my clients the life skills their parents never did - the important ones, like how to deal w…
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In this episode, Aunt Susan explains how you can pick apart the negative emotions that create the BITCH in us so you don’t keep repeating them over and over again! I help my clients learn the life skills their parents never taught them - the important ones, like learning how to manage stress, frustration, irritability, drama, and the B.S. of life. …
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What emotions lie behind our bitchiness? What can we do to stop being bitchy so the people we love don't suffer from us? In this episode, I'll take you on a journey of not only the "why," but also what to do when you've taken the bitchy-bait and are falling in the bitchy rabbit hole. I help my clients learn the life skills their parents never taugh…
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Those of us who come from dysfunctional families have a similar story. As kids, we thought all the crazy stuff going on around us was normal. We didn't understand how messed up everything was. When we go into therapy, there are two things shrinks don't tell you about that you need to move forward. Sure, they'll help you with what made you unhappy i…
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Welcome to Season 2!! Bacon is very important to me. It's so important that I'm willing to challenge my doctor - and my high cholesterol - to enjoy it with my hubby on the weekends. What could that possibly have to do with defining our value system and outlining a standard of behavior? Tune in to find out! Dear Aunt Susan - Advice on Being Human is…
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Self esteem, 2021, and BACON!!!!Di Susan Petang
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In this episode, Aunt Susan gives you the real techniques to handle toxic people and situations, resolve conflict, and deal with your Nosy Aunt Rosie!Di Susan Petang
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You asked, I heard you! I’m starting a mini-series on dealing with toxic people, environments, and other-people's-drama. In this episode, I'll give you 8 Ways to Communicate that are essential groundwork for resolving conflict and dealing with other people's B.S. I'll also explain two types of Listening: Active and Reflective Listening - how yo do …
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This episode contains more questions on The Law of Attraction, hard answers for Ryan, having control in the face of uncertainty, and much more! Don't forget to send your questions and feedback to: SusanatTheQuietZone@gmail.com What do you want to hear about? What do you like about the show? What don't you like? Your Aunt Susan want to know!…
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This is the juicy relationship question episode! Hear what Aunt Susan has to say to women who are asking about their relationship issues. You'll also hear answers to questions about keeping your sanity during the pandemic!Di Susan Petang
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WEBINAR: From Locked Down to Opened Up: Life Skills Your Parents Never Taught You (how to thrive in a post-pandemic world) You can watch the webinar here: https://youtu.be/CQ2YIqlU4ak or listen to it as a podcast. 2020 was a year of not only the pandemic, but demonstrations & social unrest, a contentious election, and a whirlwind of change that has…
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In this Episode, Aunt Susan talks about being selfish vs. being selfless; how to overcome perfectionism; and how to change your thoughts to change your life.Di Susan Petang
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Life gets busy. Work, our spouse, our kids, and even the dog need attention. How do we resolve the frustrations we experience everyday? And when do we take the time to think about the bigger questions of life, the Universe, and how we fit into it all? Aunt Susan is like the favorite aunt that you go to for advice, comfort, and a different perspecti…
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Welcome to Dear Aunt Susan - Advice on Being Human! In this episode, Aunt Susan answers questions about: Getting motivated Letting life's little annoyances go Why miserable people are miserable! Rejuvenating in the middle of a work day Using your thoughts to reshape your life One small step you can take to change your life Corporations: Why do thei…
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