54: What Does It Mean To Date Forever? Interview With Sammi & Nate Jaeger Solving Disconnection & Creating Connected Relationships (for Couples & Parents) podcast

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Jason explores the purpose of marriage beyond initial infatuation and love chemicals. He explains that marriage is an essential emotional refuge and economic partnership, providing a place for vulnerability, acceptance, and the sharing of resources. Jason discusses typical relationship dynamics like the pursue-withdraw cycle and how past experiences shape our partner interactions. He emphasizes the importance of prioritizing the relationship to foster connection and joy. Through understanding and intentional effort, marriage can bring resilience and confidence. By succeeding as a team, it can make life more enjoyable and less expensive. 00:00 Introduction to the Show 00:25 The Science of Love and Monogamy 01:07 Impact of Upbringing on Relationships 02:40 Purpose of Marriage 03:17 Emotional and Economic Benefits of Marriage 04:57 Challenges in Marriage 06:17 Conclusion and Final Thoughts To read the blog that inspired this episode, you can check out: What's the Purpose of Marriage? A Marriage Counselor's Perspective . Click here to learn more about Jason's couples therapy agency .…

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62: 10 Tips to Fix Your Relationship and Get Back on the Right Track 9:31

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In this episode, Jason shares ten actionable tips to help couples maintain harmony, reduce disharmony, and effectively repair their relationships. The tips are structured within a framework that includes understanding the phases of harmony, disharmony, and repair. Key points include connecting with your partner through daily gestures, understanding and navigating attachment dynamics, using timeouts to prevent conflicts, making effective apologies, showing vulnerability, using communication tools like the feedback wheel, and taking things less personally. The goal is to foster more connection and less conflict in relationships. 00:00 Introduction to Relationship Tips 00:06 Understanding Relationship Phases 00:47 Tips for Maintaining Harmony 02:37 Addressing Disharmony 06:04 Effective Repair Strategies 08:46 Conclusion and Final Thoughts Links: State of the Union Meeting Feedback Wheel Relationship (Attachment) Quiz This episode in 10 tips to fix your relationship in blog form.…

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61: Relationship lessons from Dr. Laura Louis 37:53

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In this episode, Dr. Laura Louis, a seasoned couples therapist, shares her insights and experiences from her 20-year career. She discusses the challenges and joys of working with couples, the importance of effective communication, and how vulnerability and emotional intimacy play crucial roles in relationships. Dr. Laura also discusses common issues such as the negative sentiment override, the impact of family of origin, and practical strategies for improving relational dynamics. Introduction Dr. Laura's Background Challenges of Couples Therapy Creating Connection in Relationships Men and Feelings Effective Communication Tools Signs You Should Seek Couples Therapy Stonewalling and Taking Breaks Final Thoughts and Resources Link to Dr. Laura Louis' Atlanta Couple Therapy practice. Her book Martial Peace ___ You can learn more about Jason's couple therapy practice here.…

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60: From Emotional to Sexual Intimacy: A Guide for Males (and Couples) 7:28

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Sex can be a powerful way to connect, but for many men, it's often the only way they're taught to access vulnerability and emotional closeness. This can create a rub, especially when partners need emotional intimacy to feel open to physical intimacy. In this blog, we break down the dynamics of intimacy using the metaphor of a wedding cake. Couples thrive when they intentionally build each layer tier of the cake. Listen to discover how to strengthen your relationship, deepen intimacy, and foster connection beyond sex. This episode is in blog form: From Emotional to Sexual Intimacy: A Guide for Males (and Couples) . For the blog on how to start with awareness of feelings, go here: Get in Touch With Your Feelings .…

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59: How to Fall Back in Love With Your Partner 9:22

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Do you two feel like roommates? Or cost-sharing-associates? Have you and your partner drifted into feeling more like roommates than lovers? Just co-parents? Or “cost-sharing-associates?” It’s easy for the initial spark to dim as time passes, but rekindling it is possible. This quick episode talks about how to reconnect and feel love again. I also share why you two have drifted apart, how to break the cycle of disconnection, and how couples therapists help couples do just that. One of our favorite quotes from Terry Real is: “Intimacy is not something you have, but something you do.” I share how you two can intentionally foster intimacy and how you can be that passionate couple again! This blog inspired this episode.…

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58: What are psychological boundaries and what do they mean for you? 7:35

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This episode discusses functional, psychological boundaries and what is not. What are not functional boundaries? They are if we are behind walls or boundaryless. We will define that and what physiological boundary violations are. This will also encourage you to reflect on your boundaries as well. Here's the link to the chart I mentioned. You can learn more about our couples therapy practice .…

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57: Let's talk about mess, do you think your partner is sloppy? 6:53

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Mess is one of the content issues that come up in couples therapy. If this is an issue for you, you can check out what you can do on your side of the relationship and what you two can do as a team. Link to the Fair Play Card Deck . Click here to read the blog this episode was inspired by: Couples Counseling and Your Messy Partner .…

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56: 4 Things That Can Save Your Marriage 7:27

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Is your marriage or relationship on the brink? Here are four things you can do to save your marriage. Essentially, there needs to be something different and not more of the same. These four things are usually the most common complaints partners have. Check it out! Click to learn more about our couples therapy agency in Denver, Colorado.…

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55: What is a Couples Intensive aka Marriage Retreat? 11:53

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This episode might be of interest to those of you who may be on the brink of divorce or breakup, for those who don't have a lot of time, and for those who harbor a lot of resentment. In this episode, I share how I define couples' intensives and why they are popular in my practice. Click here for more information about couples intensives . Click here to set up a free couples intensive consult .…

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54: What Does It Mean To Date Forever? Interview with Sammi & Nate Jaeger 47:58

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It means being intentional about connection and collaboration. Sammi and Nate share their framework for staying connected and the eight domains they work on together. They share what they’ve learned from over 190 episodes of their Date Forever podcast and over 15 years of being together. Also, they are a lovely couple! Listen to the Date Forever podcast . Work with Sammi to create a fueled-up life: https://www.sammijaeger.com/ Have their goal-setting guide: https://www.sammijaeger.com/agp…

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53: Let's Talk About Sex, Substance Abuse, and Safety. Interview With Matt Salis 29:20

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Matt Salis shares his knowledge of sexual health and how it interacts with addiction. We also talk about sexual desire discrepancies and what you can do about them. And what’s something that can get you more sex? The Untoxicated Podcast . Echos of Recovery & Shout Sobriety

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52: You Can Be Right, Or You Can Be Married 6:35

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What are the problems with needing to be right? And what are the issues with holding on to "objective truth." This episode will help you know what to do to fix that. To help you embrace more subjective truth in your relationship. Because relationships are two subjective truths navigating life together. Visit my couples therapy practice website.…

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51: Having More Sex: Acceptance Vs Control 11:10

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What’s an effective way to go about having more sex when there are desire discrepancies? I’ll also share what I mean by my acceptance vs control. I’ll address these questions in the context of a recent couples session I had. To learn more about my couples therapy practice, click here: https://coloradorelationshiprecovery.com…

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50: What is the first and second consciousness in your relationship? With Kayla Crane, LMFT 24:00

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Kayla Crane and I are trained in the same school of thought. Kayla shares the critical idea of taking space in your relationship – literally and in your head to create peace. She also shares her experience with couples therapy, her meditation journey, and why she still meditates. In this episode, find out how meditation helps cultivate second consciousness and what that means. You can find Kayla here: southdenvertherapy.com As well as on her Colorado Relationship Recovery page .…

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49: A Quick Exercise for Cultivating Appreciation and Gratitude 5:25

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