E. 3 - Self Care - Part 2: How does mental load factor into our need for self care?

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Hello So Deep Peeps!
And welcome to Part 2 of SELF CARE. In this episode, we go one layer deeper and begin to explore the reason behind our need for self care.

Some deep things we cover:

1. Why do we need self care to begin with? Phyllis and Julie unpack the concepts of “mental load” and “invisible labor”.
2. Why do we so often choose efficiency over community?
3. When we make our work look effortless, it erases our labor: How can we make the invisible labor visible to our partners and our family in a constructive way?
4. Do the same dynamics pop up in a same sex marriage? Julie shares her experience with her partner Amy.
5. Is it meal planning or is it nutritional management? Phyllis takes a deep dive into her children’s preferences for how they like their broccoli prepared.
6. Self Care and Privilege: Is self care only afforded to those who can afford it?

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Things we referenced in the episode:

1. Octonauts - The Midnight Zone | Full Episodes | Cartoons for Kids: My kids love this show and this particular episode references the midnight zone.
2. You should've asked by Emma is an excellent comic that helps explain the “mental load.”
3. What Is The Mental Load? Women's Invisible Labor
4. Stop Calling Women Nags — How Emotional Labor is Dragging Down Gender Equality
5. The term “emotional labor” was first coined by sociologist Arlie Russell Hochschild in her book The Managed Heart by Arlie Russell Hochschild - Paperback
6. The Tyranny and Misogyny of Meal Planning - by Virginia Sole-Smith - Burnt Toast by Virginia Sole-Smith
7. Dude Perfect: My kids love this show with these 5 fun-loving friends who do trick shots and engage in all sorts of silliness.