125: What Is EMDR And How EMDR Can Help You On The Healing Journey With Kelly Schooner New View Advice podcast

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In this episode, I welcome special guest Kelly Schooner, a licensed marriage and family therapist, to discuss what is EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) and how EMDR can help people on their healing journeys. We discuss who EMDR can help, how EMDR can help people with “big T trauma” and also “little T traumas”, the difference between suppression and repression, how EMDR can help people with ADD, and more. We also touch on the question - can you trust an EMDR memory. If you have any follow up questions about EMDR, reach out to Amanda at contact@newviewadvice.com and we can do a follow up episode. Thanks for listening! Timestamps Introduction: 0:05 Chat with Kelly about EMDR: 1:45 Outro: 53:15 For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/125 For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ Want to have a question answered? You can submit your question here: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ask-a-question…

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124: Feeling Frustrated: What to Do When Overwhelmed with Frustration 22:48

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In this episode, we discuss the feeling of frustration. Responding to a listener's question about feeling stuck and overwhelmed by frustration, we explore various emotions that often accompany feeling frustrated, such as anger, hopelessness, and disappointment. I talk about the importance of understanding the root causes of our frustration and offer advice on how to process and work through it. As always I emphasize the value of being kind to oneself, acknowledging feelings as part of the human experience, and finding ways to relax and calm the nervous system. Timestamps Introduction: 0:05 Listener Question: 2:13 Outro: 22:03 For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/124 For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ Want to have a question answered? You can submit your question here: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ask-a-question…

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123: Loneliness After an Affair: How to Forgive Yourself for Cheating 29:17

15 giorni fa29:17

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In this episode, I answer a listener’s question about how to forgive oneself after cheating in a relationship. This listener is struggling with feelings of loneliness, sadness, and fear, and they feel as though they have to carry this burden and heavy shame by themselves. We discuss why it’s important to be supported throughout the healing journey, the importance of beginning to communicate with partners, and self-compassion. We also dive into discussing inner child work and how the inner child and looking at childhood wounding can help us understand infidelity and relationship patterns better. Check out the New View Advice Infidelity Hub - newviewadvice.com/infidelityhub Timestamps Introduction: 0:05 Listener Question: 2:50 Outro: 27:56 For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/123 For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ Want to have a question answered? You can submit your question here: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ask-a-question…

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122: What Does It Mean if I Fail at Love? 23:00

22 giorni fa23:00

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In this episode, I delve into a listener's heartfelt question – what does it mean if I fail at love? This listener is feels like they are getting a second chance at love with an ex, and finds themselves feeling fear arise. They have been in love before and are worried they will “mess up” this new relationship. Through the episode, we explore the intricacies of love, vulnerability, and self-worth, while also emphasizing the importance of self-love and being kind to oneself on the journey to finding meaningful connections. For anyone embarking on a second chance for love, this episode is here to reassure you that you are worthy of love. This episode is a great follow up to episode 120 – Why Am I Scared of Love? Timestamps Introduction: 0:05 Listener Question: 1:53 Outro: 22:31 For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/122 For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ Want to have a question answered? You can submit your question here: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ask-a-question…

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121: Too Good to be True?: Why Fear & Anxiety Arise When Life is Good 28:00

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What do we do when life feels too good to be true? We often expect to embrace happiness when things are good, but the truth is many people struggle and feel triggered when things are going well. Many people ask themselves – is it too good to be true? In today’s episode I answer a question from a listener who is struggling with anxiety, fear, and overwhelm because they are afraid of “the other shoe dropping” during a happy time in their life. They faced many challenges during the COVID-19 pandemic, and now that things are on the up and up, they find themselves afraid of everything falling apart. I discuss why we struggle to be happy, the importance of compassion, and how to navigate anxiety and other hard feelings when things feel too good to be true. Timestamps Introduction: 0:05 Listener Question: 2:04 Outro: 27:29 For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/121 For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ Want to have a question answered? You can submit your question here: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ask-a-question…

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120: Why Am I Scared of Love? 26:18

5 weeks fa26:18

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In this episode, I answer a listener’s question: Why am I scared of love? I dive into the reasons so many of us experience a fear of love, including the fear of vulnerability, childhood trauma, low self-worth, and even the anxiety that love or a relationship might be “too good to be true.” This episode is for anyone who’s afraid of love but is ready to embrace it rather than pull away. If you’ve struggled with opening your heart, this episode offers insights to help you move through those fears. You deserve the love you desire, and it’s time to lean in. Timestamps Introduction: 0:05 Listener Question: 1:58 Outro: 25:50 For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/120 For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ Want to have a question answered? You can submit your question here: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ask-a-question…

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119: How to Overcome the Fear of Rejection 26:43

6 weeks fa26:43

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In this episode, I explore how to overcome the fear of rejection. I answer a listener's question about struggling with the fear of rejection in love, specifically feeling frozen when it comes to asking someone out on a date. I also dive into how and why the fear of rejection can leave us feeling paralyzed, triggering the freeze response. Throughout the episode, we discuss why the fear of rejection is so overwhelming, how it's a very human (and unavoidable) experience, how to recognize fear cycles, and strategies to move past them. Timestamps Introduction: 0:05 Listener Question: 2:14 Outro: 26:10 For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/119 For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ Want to have a question answered? You can submit your question here: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ask-a-question…

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118: Realities of Surviving Sexual Violence with Kate Chisholm 1:19:59

7 weeks fa1:19:59

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For this episode, I am joined by special guest, Kate Chisholm, founder of Survivors RISE, for a candid discussion about the realities of healing and surviving rape. We discuss our personal journeys of healing from rape and sexual violence, and Kate shares her story surviving rape, as well as her experience going through the criminal justice system and the impact of institutional betrayal. The episode also highlights the importance of community support, empathy, and various healing modalities we have used. We candidly laugh, cry, and talk about our lives as survivors. Our intention with this episode is to help other survivors feel less alone and more supported on their healing journeys, because we both personally have felt the feelings of isolation, and we don’t believe that should be the case. We hope you enjoy! Timestamps Introduction: 00:15 Conversation with Kate: 1:34 Outro: 1:19:00 For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/118 For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ Want to have a question answered? You can submit your question here: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ask-a-question…

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117: “Good” vs “Bad” Therapy: How to Find a Good Therapist with Katie Landrum 41:05

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In this episode, I chat with mental health counselor Katie Landrum, to discuss our personal experiences with “good” and “bad” therapy. We discuss what makes therapy beneficial, and also what we have found harmful throughout our own experiences. We emphasize the importance of finding a therapist who is the right fit, offers a safe space, and is non-judgemental. Katie provides us with a list of questions you can use when interviewing a therapist. We also discuss how to prepare for your first session if you have never been ro therapy and what we believe the most important thing to remember is when beginning your therapy journey. Timestamps Introduction: 00:15 Conversation with Katie: 2:25 Outro: 40:14 For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/117 For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ Want to have a question answered? You can submit your question here: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ask-a-question…

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116: Prioritizing Mental Health: Amanda's Thoughts on 2024 & Suggestions for Improving Mental Health 30:26

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In this episode, I share about my own mental health struggles in 2024 and why I believe prioritizing mental health is so important. I discuss how I believe society impacts our mental health, and how I felt impacted by the 2024 election (specifically as a rape survivor), living through a pandemic, and social media. I also discuss how the healing journey impacts mental health and how for me healing from rape and family dynamics has continued to impact my mental health. I also discuss a few suggestions that have helped me to improve my mental health on a daily basis. Timestamps Introduction: 00:15 Mental Health Convo: 2:26 Suggestions for Improving Mental Health: 16:16 Outro: 29:57 For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/116 For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ Want to have a question answered? You can submit your question here: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ask-a-question…

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115: Holiday Season Sadness & Depression: Embracing Self-Love & Reconnecting with Your Inner Child 22:18

12 weeks fa22:18

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Where is the holiday season magic? In this episode, I answer a listener question from someone feeling sad, depressed, and lonely this holiday season. I explore ways to process and accept these emotions, reconnect with your inner child to rediscover holiday magic, and practice self-love. We also discuss the importance of taking care of yourself this holiday season. Happy Holidays from me, Amanda Durocher! Thank you all for your continued support! Timestamps Introduction: 00:15 Listener Question: 2:12 Outro: 21:38 For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/115 For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ Want to have a question answered? You can submit your question here: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ask-a-question…

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114: How to Be Comfortable with Physical Touch After Sexual Assault 29:27

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In this episode I talk about how to become comfortable with physical touch after sexual assault. Many survivors of sexual trauma struggle with sex and being touched after sexual violence. In this episode I discuss the importance of being kind to yourself, how to practice awareness and listening to your body, and reconnecting to your body . My intention is to help you connect back with yourself while also assuring you that it's okay no matter where you are at on your journey. You are healing. Timestamps ⏱️ Introduction: 0:15 Listener Question: 2:37 Outro: 28:27 For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/114 For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ Want to have a question answered? You can submit your question here: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ask-a-question…

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113: Repressed Memories of Childhood Trauma: How to Trust Yourself & Your Body 31:44

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In this episode, I answer a listener question about processing repressed memories of childhood sexual trauma and how we can learn to trust ourselves. Throughout this episode, I discuss my own experiences with repressed memories of sexual trauma. I discuss how self-doubt is common when processing repressed memories of trauma, how to listen to your body, the importance of acceptance, and how to practice gentleness with yourself throughout this process. My intention is to offer you some solace if you too find yourself navigating the stormy waters of repressed memories and to help you to trust yourself and your own process for navigating this trauma response. Timestamps ⏱️ Introduction: 0:15 Listener Question: 2:47 Outro: 30:44 For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/113 For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ Want to have a question answered? You can submit your question here: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ask-a-question Thanks so much for listening! Sending you so much love…

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112: Why Do I Seek Parental Validation as an Adult? 36:05

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In this episode, I answer a question from a listener who is wondering why they still seek validation from their parents even though they already know their parents are unsupportive and are often left feeling unhappy. I discuss how so often our need for parental validation and approval is tied to deep rooted human fears, including the fear of rejection, the fear of abandonment, the fear of criticism, and the fear of being unlovable. My intention is to help you to feel less alone, validated in your experience, and offer you ways to begin healing from these fears and how we can begin to validate and love ourselves, one step at a time. Timestamps ⏱️ Introduction: 0:15 Listener Question: 1:45 Outro: 35:28 For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/112 For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ Want to have a question answered? You can submit your question here: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ask-a-question Thanks so much for listening! Sending you so much love!…

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111: Sexual Assault by a Family Member: Navigating Family Relationships After Trauma 32:37

18 weeks fa32:37