Episode 188: Why My Relationships Suck! Or How To Be Better In Relationship

The Evolved Caveman w/ Dr. John Schinnerer

Wow! What a talk! Vulnerability. Honesty. It does not get a whole lot deeper or more helpful than this one. What an absolutely amazing man Bob Conlin is!
How we experience ourselves as men largely through our body and our ability to be active and strong. And what happens when that goes away (temporarily or permanently)? A frank talk about how physical limitations (e.g., surgery, back pain, vasectomy, etc.) impacts our perception of our own masculinity. What else do you have to hold on to when your physical body begins to deteriorate (e.g., wisdom, emotional awareness, communication skills, empathy, integrity, values, spirituality, full spectrum humanity, etc.)?
The difference between the first voice and second voice in your head and which voice is the wise, adult version of “you.”
The power in being vulnerable and the importance of sharing your shit with other men. The idea that your shame doesn’t stand up to the light of day.
What is YOUR definition of a “man?” What is YOUR definition of “masculinity?”
The critical importance of integrity for men.
To what extent are you a safe, grounding force for the people you love?
The idea of full spectrum masculinity as lifelong growth and evolution.
How much Bob can bench (Spoiler alert: It’s impressive!).
The critical idea that our relationships act purely as mirrors to reflect back our own psychological and emotional shit.
The seminal thought that the very traits that we initially are attracted to in our partner later become the same things that annoy the crap out of us.
To what extent is masculinity about attacking and policing other men to make them feel “less than”? Or is real masculinity about radical acceptance of other men’s masculinities to allow them to feel accepted and encourage true growth?
To what extent is masculinity about the egocentric pursuit of wealth and power? Or is real masculinity about something more than those simple ideas which we’ve been force fed in our youth? Studies show that ideals such as self-transcendent values like serving others lead to much more happiness and fulfillment.
The importance of intellectual humility for lifelong learning and evolution of men. And how the lack of humility truly blocks our development.
A honest conversation about the need for us to learn to receive and take in the love of others.
About My Guest:

Bob Conlin is a men’s alchemist, coach, author, leader, husband, and father. Bob believes the relationships we have with ourselves, those we love, and those we lead have the greatest impact on our life experiences. Powerful and fulfilling relationships are created once we get connected to, and responsible for, our generational traumas, triggers, and limiting beliefs about what is actually possible in our lives. Bob's unique and courageous approach to creating relationships has been featured on ABC World News Tonight, CBS, NBC, Good Morning America, and most popular social media outlets. Bob has extensive training as an ontological coach, Gottman Institute trained, is a Master Certified Coach with the International Coaching Federation, President of the ICF Chicago Chapter, Co-Founder of The Alchemy of Men, and the Co-Founder of the Living In Love Incubator program. Bob’s latest book “Why my relationships suck: Create Strong Relationships with Courage and Heart” can be found at Barnes and Noble.
Find Out More About Bob Conlin:

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Instagram: @relationship_alchemist
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