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64: What is cheating?

21 giorni fa 7:34

Understanding Cheating: Definitions, Impacts, and Pathways to Healing

In this episode of 'Solving Disconnection and Creating Connected Relationships for Couples and Parents,' therapist and coach Jason Polk explores the complex topic of cheating.

He delves into the different forms of infidelity, including financial and emotional cheating, and emphasizes the importance of explicit agreements between partners.

Polk also discusses the synonyms and antonyms of cheating and provides insights into how a lack of openness can create a breeding ground for infidelity.

Key takeaways include the critical role of trust, honesty, and transparency in preventing and recovering from betrayal.

00:00 Introduction to the Show

00:22 Defining Cheating and Infidelity

01:12 Types of Cheating

02:03 Importance of Agreements in Relationships

03:29 Emotional Affairs and Implicit Agreements

05:00 Antonyms of Cheating

05:21 Conditions Leading to Cheating

06:20 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

This blog inspired this episode: What is considered cheating?

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64: What is cheating?

Solving Disconnection & Creating Connected Relationships (for Couples & Parents)

published 21 giorni fa

MP3•Pagina principale dell'episodio

Understanding Cheating: Definitions, Impacts, and Pathways to Healing

In this episode of 'Solving Disconnection and Creating Connected Relationships for Couples and Parents,' therapist and coach Jason Polk explores the complex topic of cheating.

He delves into the different forms of infidelity, including financial and emotional cheating, and emphasizes the importance of explicit agreements between partners.

Polk also discusses the synonyms and antonyms of cheating and provides insights into how a lack of openness can create a breeding ground for infidelity.

Key takeaways include the critical role of trust, honesty, and transparency in preventing and recovering from betrayal.

00:00 Introduction to the Show

00:22 Defining Cheating and Infidelity

01:12 Types of Cheating

02:03 Importance of Agreements in Relationships

03:29 Emotional Affairs and Implicit Agreements

05:00 Antonyms of Cheating

05:21 Conditions Leading to Cheating

06:20 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

This blog inspired this episode: What is considered cheating?

64 episodi

#Fitness #Society #Parenting #Relationship #Mental Health #Jason A Polk #Healthy Relationships #Marriage #Passion Parent

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64: What is cheating? 7:34

21 giorni fa7:34

7:34

Understanding Cheating: Definitions, Impacts, and Pathways to Healing In this episode of 'Solving Disconnection and Creating Connected Relationships for Couples and Parents,' therapist and coach Jason Polk explores the complex topic of cheating. He delves into the different forms of infidelity, including financial and emotional cheating, and emphasizes the importance of explicit agreements between partners. Polk also discusses the synonyms and antonyms of cheating and provides insights into how a lack of openness can create a breeding ground for infidelity. Key takeaways include the critical role of trust, honesty, and transparency in preventing and recovering from betrayal. 00:00 Introduction to the Show 00:22 Defining Cheating and Infidelity 01:12 Types of Cheating 02:03 Importance of Agreements in Relationships 03:29 Emotional Affairs and Implicit Agreements 05:00 Antonyms of Cheating 05:21 Conditions Leading to Cheating 06:20 Conclusion and Final Thoughts This blog inspired this episode: What is considered cheating?…

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63: What Is the Purpose of Marriage? 7:10

7 weeks fa7:10

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Jason explores the purpose of marriage beyond initial infatuation and love chemicals. He explains that marriage is an essential emotional refuge and economic partnership, providing a place for vulnerability, acceptance, and the sharing of resources. Jason discusses typical relationship dynamics like the pursue-withdraw cycle and how past experiences shape our partner interactions. He emphasizes the importance of prioritizing the relationship to foster connection and joy. Through understanding and intentional effort, marriage can bring resilience and confidence. By succeeding as a team, it can make life more enjoyable and less expensive. 00:00 Introduction to the Show 00:25 The Science of Love and Monogamy 01:07 Impact of Upbringing on Relationships 02:40 Purpose of Marriage 03:17 Emotional and Economic Benefits of Marriage 04:57 Challenges in Marriage 06:17 Conclusion and Final Thoughts To read the blog that inspired this episode, you can check out: What's the Purpose of Marriage? A Marriage Counselor's Perspective . Click here to learn more about Jason's couples therapy agency .…

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62: 10 Tips to Fix Your Relationship and Get Back on the Right Track 9:31

10 weeks fa9:31

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In this episode, Jason shares ten actionable tips to help couples maintain harmony, reduce disharmony, and effectively repair their relationships. The tips are structured within a framework that includes understanding the phases of harmony, disharmony, and repair. Key points include connecting with your partner through daily gestures, understanding and navigating attachment dynamics, using timeouts to prevent conflicts, making effective apologies, showing vulnerability, using communication tools like the feedback wheel, and taking things less personally. The goal is to foster more connection and less conflict in relationships. 00:00 Introduction to Relationship Tips 00:06 Understanding Relationship Phases 00:47 Tips for Maintaining Harmony 02:37 Addressing Disharmony 06:04 Effective Repair Strategies 08:46 Conclusion and Final Thoughts Links: State of the Union Meeting Feedback Wheel Relationship (Attachment) Quiz This episode in 10 tips to fix your relationship in blog form.…

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61: Relationship lessons from Dr. Laura Louis 37:53

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In this episode, Dr. Laura Louis, a seasoned couples therapist, shares her insights and experiences from her 20-year career. She discusses the challenges and joys of working with couples, the importance of effective communication, and how vulnerability and emotional intimacy play crucial roles in relationships. Dr. Laura also discusses common issues such as the negative sentiment override, the impact of family of origin, and practical strategies for improving relational dynamics. Introduction Dr. Laura's Background Challenges of Couples Therapy Creating Connection in Relationships Men and Feelings Effective Communication Tools Signs You Should Seek Couples Therapy Stonewalling and Taking Breaks Final Thoughts and Resources Link to Dr. Laura Louis' Atlanta Couple Therapy practice. Her book Martial Peace ___ You can learn more about Jason's couple therapy practice here.…

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60: From Emotional to Sexual Intimacy: A Guide for Males (and Couples) 7:28

22 weeks fa7:28

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Sex can be a powerful way to connect, but for many men, it's often the only way they're taught to access vulnerability and emotional closeness. This can create a rub, especially when partners need emotional intimacy to feel open to physical intimacy. In this blog, we break down the dynamics of intimacy using the metaphor of a wedding cake. Couples thrive when they intentionally build each layer tier of the cake. Listen to discover how to strengthen your relationship, deepen intimacy, and foster connection beyond sex. This episode is in blog form: From Emotional to Sexual Intimacy: A Guide for Males (and Couples) . For the blog on how to start with awareness of feelings, go here: Get in Touch With Your Feelings .…

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59: How to Fall Back in Love With Your Partner 9:22

25 weeks fa9:22

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Do you two feel like roommates? Or cost-sharing-associates? Have you and your partner drifted into feeling more like roommates than lovers? Just co-parents? Or “cost-sharing-associates?” It’s easy for the initial spark to dim as time passes, but rekindling it is possible. This quick episode talks about how to reconnect and feel love again. I also share why you two have drifted apart, how to break the cycle of disconnection, and how couples therapists help couples do just that. One of our favorite quotes from Terry Real is: “Intimacy is not something you have, but something you do.” I share how you two can intentionally foster intimacy and how you can be that passionate couple again! This blog inspired this episode.…

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58: What are psychological boundaries and what do they mean for you? 7:35

29 weeks fa7:35

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This episode discusses functional, psychological boundaries and what is not. What are not functional boundaries? They are if we are behind walls or boundaryless. We will define that and what physiological boundary violations are. This will also encourage you to reflect on your boundaries as well. Here's the link to the chart I mentioned. You can learn more about our couples therapy practice .…

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57: Let's talk about mess, do you think your partner is sloppy? 6:53

31 weeks fa6:53

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Mess is one of the content issues that come up in couples therapy. If this is an issue for you, you can check out what you can do on your side of the relationship and what you two can do as a team. Link to the Fair Play Card Deck . Click here to read the blog this episode was inspired by: Couples Counseling and Your Messy Partner .…

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56: 4 Things That Can Save Your Marriage 7:27

35 weeks fa7:27

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Is your marriage or relationship on the brink? Here are four things you can do to save your marriage. Essentially, there needs to be something different and not more of the same. These four things are usually the most common complaints partners have. Check it out! Click to learn more about our couples therapy agency in Denver, Colorado.…

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55: What is a Couples Intensive aka Marriage Retreat? 11:53

1 year fa11:53

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This episode might be of interest to those of you who may be on the brink of divorce or breakup, for those who don't have a lot of time, and for those who harbor a lot of resentment. In this episode, I share how I define couples' intensives and why they are popular in my practice. Click here for more information about couples intensives . Click here to set up a free couples intensive consult .…

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54: What Does It Mean To Date Forever? Interview with Sammi & Nate Jaeger 47:58

1 year fa47:58

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It means being intentional about connection and collaboration. Sammi and Nate share their framework for staying connected and the eight domains they work on together. They share what they’ve learned from over 190 episodes of their Date Forever podcast and over 15 years of being together. Also, they are a lovely couple! Listen to the Date Forever podcast . Work with Sammi to create a fueled-up life: https://www.sammijaeger.com/ Have their goal-setting guide: https://www.sammijaeger.com/agp…

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53: Let's Talk About Sex, Substance Abuse, and Safety. Interview With Matt Salis 29:20

1 year fa29:20

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Matt Salis shares his knowledge of sexual health and how it interacts with addiction. We also talk about sexual desire discrepancies and what you can do about them. And what’s something that can get you more sex? The Untoxicated Podcast . Echos of Recovery & Shout Sobriety

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52: You Can Be Right, Or You Can Be Married 6:35

1 year fa6:35

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What are the problems with needing to be right? And what are the issues with holding on to "objective truth." This episode will help you know what to do to fix that. To help you embrace more subjective truth in your relationship. Because relationships are two subjective truths navigating life together. Visit my couples therapy practice website.…

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51: Having More Sex: Acceptance Vs Control 11:10

1 year fa11:10

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What’s an effective way to go about having more sex when there are desire discrepancies? I’ll also share what I mean by my acceptance vs control. I’ll address these questions in the context of a recent couples session I had. To learn more about my couples therapy practice, click here: https://coloradorelationshiprecovery.com…

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50: What is the first and second consciousness in your relationship? With Kayla Crane, LMFT 24:00

1 year fa24:00

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Kayla Crane and I are trained in the same school of thought. Kayla shares the critical idea of taking space in your relationship – literally and in your head to create peace. She also shares her experience with couples therapy, her meditation journey, and why she still meditates. In this episode, find out how meditation helps cultivate second consciousness and what that means. You can find Kayla here: southdenvertherapy.com As well as on her Colorado Relationship Recovery page .…

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49: A Quick Exercise for Cultivating Appreciation and Gratitude 5:25

1 year fa5:25

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Here are the questions for the exercise: What have I received from my partner? What have I given to my partner? What troubles and difficulties have I caused my partner? For more about Jason's therapy practice, visit here: https://coloradorelationshiprecovery.com/

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48: What is a foundational relationship tool, that’s not really a tool? 12:09

2 years fa12:09

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I teach every couple one crucial thing, especially those who fight a lot. It's not quite a relationship tool, but you need to practice it for relationship tools to work. We have a Door A and a Door B and you want to go through Door B. Find out what exactly that is in this episode. More about Jason's couples therapy practice . Follow Jason on TikTok & Instagram…

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47: What is Playful Parenting & How You Can Have More Fun Being a Parent? With Meghan Englert 36:59

2 years fa36:59

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Meghan Englert is a therapist and a Playful Parenting Coach and she’ll share what playful parenting is. Her tagline is, "Bond more battle less!" You will learn how to incorporate play into your parenting and why getting on the same page as parents is so powerful. Meghan shares stories and her journey towards a more peaceful family. You can find her at: MeghanEnglert.com Her Facebook Group: Judgement Free Parent Zone Follow her on Instagram & Facebook…

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46: 4 Things To Do When Your Relationship Is Falling Apart 8:24

2 years fa8:24

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If you’re in a period of disconnection, or there’s been a big fight recently, listen to this episode and do each of the four things. I’d be lying to you if I said my current relationship has never felt like it was falling apart. In this episode, I’m sharing my experience implementing these four things. Click here to learn more about Jason's Couples Therapy Practice . The 4 Things: 1) Put your ego aside 2) Request to talk 3) Share vulnerability 4) Give understanding to receive understanding…

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45: A Tool For Couples That Fight A Lot 10:11

2 years fa10:11

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The purpose of this tool is to create awareness of the Core Negative Image (CNI) you have of your partner. It also helps if your partner does this exercise as well. Here, you'll learn to stop when "CNI triggered" and how to behave in a way that helps your partner feel at ease. Here's the CNI Handout I went through .…

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44: How Does Self-Intimacy Help With Sexual Desire Discrepancies? With Nicole Colleen 27:07

2 years fa27:07

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This episode explores sex with sex and intimacy coach Nicole Colleen. We discuss self-intimacy and how that can help you with the desire discrepancy often found between parents. We also discuss how you may have stories associated with sex you tell yourself, and what is a good sex life? Find out in this episode. Nicole's Instagram Nicole's let's talk sex free guide .…

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43: What kills love? How can you repair that? with Cheri Timko 22:49

2 years fa22:49

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First question: What kills love? Second question: How can you repair that? Third question: Should we let our kids have every resource of ours? This episode is some highlights from a talk I had with Cheri Timko. Cheri is a Couples Relationship Coach who helps couples thrive in their marriages. She is the owner of Synergy Coaching . Cheri has the ability to make complex things like how to have a healthy relationship simple. See highlights from the podcast on TikTok & Instagram…

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42: Parenting Kids With Special Needs with Anouk Briere-Godbout 44:21

2 years fa44:21

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How do you manage kids with special needs and your relationship? Why is looking at your expectations of a parent an important thing to do? We will discuss these topics in today's episode with Anouk Briere-Godbout, as well as grieving and understanding why it's important to know where your partner may be. Anouk is a mentor and support for parents of "emotionally intense kids" for whom nothing in the “general parenting advice” seemed to work. She helps parents quit feeling like you’re failing at parenting and empowers you to feel confident in trying different things that fit your kids’ needs. Anouk's website, Family Moments , and link to her free Mini-Course .…

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41: What is the Easiest and Best Thing You Can Do For Your Relationship? 10:27

2 years fa10:27

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If you're a parent and married or living together. You don’t have a lot of time. Here I’ll share the easy and best thing you can do for your relationship. I’ll share the basic frame I use with all the couples I work with. And we’ll start at the most fun – more harmony. Appreciation Reflections: · What are some of my partner’s unique positive traits? · How have I benefited from those positive traits? · How has my partner made me a better person? · What do they do for you and your family? · In what ways have I grown while with my partner? · Reflect on an amazing vacation or getaway together. What about that was so great? Naikan Reflection: · What have I received from my partner? · What have I given to my partner? · What troubles and difficulties have I caused my partner? Welcome Home Exercise Love Language Quiz More about Jason Polk, Couples Therapist…

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40: Finding Time For the Relationship, Is That Possible? 11:17

2 years fa11:17

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This is one of the biggest complaints for parents. Our time is devoted to kids, work, exercise, then maybe the relationship… Where do we find time for the relationship? But... You will feel better if you two move the relationship up in your priorities. You will be a better parent, live longer, and have improved memory. You are also modeling a good relationship for your kids. Here's a link to the State of the Union meetings John Gottman developed. Here's a link to Jason's Couples Therapy practice.…

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39: Agreements, Resentment & Sex: A conversation with Kara Hoppe, author of Baby Bomb! 28:19

2 years fa28:19

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This is a replay of an episode I recorded with Kara Hoppe over a year ago. She's co-authored the book Baby Bomb: A Relationship Survival Guide For Parents with Stan Tatkin. We tackle some big topics here—agreements, Resentment, and Having more sex. Kara's website & link to her book .

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38: Get Your Eyeballs Off Your Partner and Put Them On Yourself: Inner Child Work 15:09

2 years fa15:09

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What can we do when were triggered by our partner? There’s a quote by Pia Mellody, “Being a functional adult is taking care of our wounding, instead of letting it loose on others…” How do we do this? If we can, we will be better partners and parents. Jason A Polk is a couples therapist and relationship coach. He's worked with couples for over nine years. Click here to learn more about his couples counseling practice !…

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37: How Can We Have More Sex (with our partner)? With Janelle Washburne 35:53

2 years fa35:53

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This is a very common issue for us parents. Usually, we’ve had way more sex before the arrival of our kids. How do we regain that passion and intimacy? Janelle helps us with practical and tactical information to help us have more sex in our relationship. She shares the analogy of a warm pot of water and concepts such as sexual brakes and accelerators. Her website is: https://janellewashburne.com/ and she offers intensives to help you transform your relationship!…

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36: My Wife and Kids Don't Make Me Angry... I Do? With Maryse Giroux 37:01

2 years fa37:01

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Coach Maryse shares how our thoughts control our emotions and thus our life. And, how we can become aware of our thoughts to create the life we want. We also learn how our brain works, and Maryse and I share personal struggles with raising kids. We also learn how her model can help us be better parents and partners with on-the-spot coaching where I'm the client! Find her on Instagram: @coachmaryse/ Coach Maryse's Website…

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35: My Wife and I Need To Go Back To Couples Therapy 8:39

2 years fa8:39